Help me NOT send this text!

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Cherchez l'homme. Of course, it's about a man.

I met him April, we got to know each other slowly. I realised I liked him, and that he was a patient, good humoured, clever, creative person, who cared about thinngs. We tentatively discovered we both liked each other. We have been on two dates, that's all, but they were a full week apart because I was away in between. He was supposed to be coming over to my house later, and I sent a text to suggest a time. I realise I haven't heard from him since early monday morning. Just after midnight Sunday I mean. Now I'm sitting on my hands. I'm quite mumsnet savvy. I recognise the red flags. I recognise a player and a narc. I thought this guy was lovely. He seemed to like me back. We were actually chatting (and I know you can't count on beer-talk) about the near future iyswim.

Help me not to send a sarky "?" by text now. My house is clean on the plus side. I'm going to go and get a bottle of wine, for mySELF. Whether he comes or not.

[AppleAndMelon]

Glad it worked out OP. If you know you are a good judge of character then I'd go with your instincts.

[wellthatsdoneit]

I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt given your previous instincts of him being a good bloke etc.

However, anything dodgy in the next few weeks which don't have a reasonable explanation then cut your losses.

Hope you have a lovely time.

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

I'm hesitant to bump this in case somebody recognises a detail in here and links it to me but he rang me today and we are meeting up tomorrow. He also invited me to a friend's thing which is 10 days away! So I think I can trust my instincts. I am a good judge of character really. That's why it had me so confused. Anyway, I know that two good people don't necessarily work out.

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

We aren't scared to actually ring each other now. I know texting is a bit less scary when you're a phonecallphobe like I am, but luckily after the near disaster earlier in the week I think we've moved slightly from texting to ringing (providing it's not work hours)

[NamesNick]

funny you should pop up as I was thinking about you earlier.

glad you seem to be moving along quite nicely

don't be afraid to just be yourself with this guy. no second guessing each other, and if you feel it, say it.

communication is key imo

happy for you x

[MagnificentMaleficent]

Good

I'm sure he is one of the good guys.

[Pat45]

I love happy endings & new beginnings. I hope it goes well for you.

[FreudianGymSlip]

Oh that's good OP. Best of luck to you, I hope it works out