Help me NOT send this text!

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Cherchez l'homme. Of course, it's about a man.

I met him April, we got to know each other slowly. I realised I liked him, and that he was a patient, good humoured, clever, creative person, who cared about thinngs. We tentatively discovered we both liked each other. We have been on two dates, that's all, but they were a full week apart because I was away in between. He was supposed to be coming over to my house later, and I sent a text to suggest a time. I realise I haven't heard from him since early monday morning. Just after midnight Sunday I mean. Now I'm sitting on my hands. I'm quite mumsnet savvy. I recognise the red flags. I recognise a player and a narc. I thought this guy was lovely. He seemed to like me back. We were actually chatting (and I know you can't count on beer-talk) about the near future iyswim.

Help me not to send a sarky "?" by text now. My house is clean on the plus side. I'm going to go and get a bottle of wine, for mySELF. Whether he comes or not.

[justmuddlingalong]

I didn't get your text is a shit excuse.

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Nicknames! No, he doesnt like football! If he did, id have wondered if he was a gooooonAh

[NamesNick]

alls well that ends well.

communications malfunction.

bet you're chuffed

[maggiethemagpie]

Thank god for that! So it's all back on then.

Boy am I glad to have quit the dating world for conjugal stability.

Hope it works out for you OP

[sonjadog]

Why was he feeling sorry for himself? Didn't you send him two texts he didn't reply to? I'd be sceptical if I were you.

Also that you should ring him? Why couldn't he ring you, especially as you invited him over? Sounds like he wants you to run after him.

[LiberalLibertines]

Yes, best of luck op.

Have to say I'm a bit as to why he didn't call, you had a date.

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Justmuddling, i will wrestle his phone off him when he gets here. He reckons he was at home having cheese in toast wondering why id gone off him.

I believe him

[sonjadog]

If he was wondering that, then he should have called. Is he incapable of taking any initiative with women himself?

[Therewere5inthebed]

I've been indignant for you for the last hour, it always amazes me how wrapped up you can get in a total strangers' life.

Very glad it has sorted itself out and I hope he is worth it.

[LuluJakey1]

Do you really believe him? You sent him 2 texts. How is he explaining that?

Hope it is all ok.

[AdamantEve]

If either of you are on O2 then I'd definitely give him the benefit of the doubt re. not getting your text as my DP didn't receive a message from me today until he turned his phone off and on again 5 hours later.
Hope everything works out for you!

[irrationalme]

and they lived happily ever after

[StepCatsmother]

I second what AdamantEve said about o2, my messages from my DP were coming through hours late all day on Sunday, we had to change to FB messenger

[Cobo]

Glad it's sorted. Sounds like he was doing exactly the same as you were, sitting around like a lemon and waiting for a call instead of taking the initiative! :)

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

When he said ring me, that was in response to me saying i wanted to ring him but felt i shouldnt. He responded "ring me!". He has always been very honest with me. I know the gone astray text message does siund fisht. I believe though. When he rang we had a chat... i shiuld be running a brush thriugh my hair, spritzing on a bit of scemt

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Yes two lemons! But now we have agreed nneither of us shiuld feel we cant ring the other! Right going to brush my teeth ;-)

[BOFster]

Lol at him being a goooo-nah

Glad it's worked out.

[NamesNick]

anyone else picking up on OPs typos!!!

you are either very very excited or drunk.

either way...have a lovely evening. I am pleased for you

[MagnificentMaleficent]

But he thought you had gone off him, and yet hadn't been in any contact with you since Sunday, even though he knew you were arranging dinner?

Bollocks imo.

Just be careful he isn't coming over for a shag. Sorry to be a misery.

[sonjadog]

Have fun!

[GirlWithTheLionHeart]

Yay

[GirlWithTheLionHeart]

Agree, don't shag him though

[HanselandGretel]

Hmm, perhaps he had a wobble of some sort but it could be just as he says and nothing more than missed / muddled communications.

Enjoy your evening OP :)

[sonjadog]

Yep, I agree that holding off on the shagging may be a good idea. I kind of agree with Magnificent, although I really hope I am being unnecessarily cynical.

[SoleSource]

I feel he wasn't sure about you and changed his mind!