Help me NOT send this text!

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

Cherchez l'homme. Of course, it's about a man.

I met him April, we got to know each other slowly. I realised I liked him, and that he was a patient, good humoured, clever, creative person, who cared about thinngs. We tentatively discovered we both liked each other. We have been on two dates, that's all, but they were a full week apart because I was away in between. He was supposed to be coming over to my house later, and I sent a text to suggest a time. I realise I haven't heard from him since early monday morning. Just after midnight Sunday I mean. Now I'm sitting on my hands. I'm quite mumsnet savvy. I recognise the red flags. I recognise a player and a narc. I thought this guy was lovely. He seemed to like me back. We were actually chatting (and I know you can't count on beer-talk) about the near future iyswim.

Help me not to send a sarky "?" by text now. My house is clean on the plus side. I'm going to go and get a bottle of wine, for mySELF. Whether he comes or not.

[sonjadog]

In that case, there is no misunderstanding. I bet he turns up. If he doesn't then you are well rid.

[NamesNick]

get yourself into your pyjamas and practice your best 'oh, I thought you'd had a better offer' face

just incase he does turn up.

and if he does, just say that you had planned an early night and that you'll rearrange for another time

[NewEraNewMindset]

Am I the only one that would have picked up the phone and actually rung him to check this evening was on?

[sonjadog]

If he turns up, tell him he'll have to entertain himself for a few minutes while you go update a large crowd of strangers on the internet on his whereabouts.

[petitdonkey]

You said you texted to suggest a time - is it possible that he just thinks that is it and he is coming at 8? I wouldn't think it's all over until at least 8:15 //hopeful

[irrationalme]

www.buzzfeed.com/hgrant/this-is-what-crazy-looks-like-via-text-messaging

don't go there!

This will keep you busy for a bit

[NamesNick]

wow. irrantionalme. that's terrible and frightening.

[Ships99]

Is he there??? Is he the same man who has been not replying to my text from last week?
Maybe several men have lost the ability to text recently?? Maybe it's a medical condition!! Lol
Seriously though.... Don't text. (I'm not texting mine)... And all I think is "HOW rude"... :(
Xx

[StaringBlankly]

Oh that link!

[SirRaymondClench]

Keeping everything crossed he shows up shortly!

[thatsn0tmyname]

Don't burn your bridges just yet.

[RiojaHaze]

You're not sending iMessages between you are you?

Only I find I don't receive ones that my friends are adamant they have sent me and vice versa with them, very unreliable! Benefit of the doubt

[MerryMarigold]

Tagging this thread. Maybe he's lost his phone. I would be tempted to phone him to be honest. Even if you look like a stalker...and I think it would be fair enough to leave a bit of a snippy message. After all, even if you booked an appointment to have your washing machine fixed, you would expect them to cancel it if they couldn't make it (and I would phone them if they didn't turn up).

[googoodolly]

Give him until 8.15 before you rule him out completely!

[LuluJakey1]

Bet he turns up. And if not... well, better to know now. Keep us posted.

[NamesNick]

predictions. ..

OP comes back either later this evening or tomorrow morning to update.

if he does turn up OP wont even know this thread exists

[HelpMeSitOnMyHands]

If i rang him, id be unable to sound calm and collected. Id sound all hurt and rejected. Better to let him squirm at work. I am upset and really confused but iam not awkward cos i know i have done nothing wrong.

[FreudianGymSlip]

He may still arrive Help. Hope he does

[BigPawsBrown]

Bet he turns up.

[petitdonkey]

I agree with Rioja that iMessaging is hugely unreliable. Give him 20 minutes (then go to the loo and update us all)

Sending you good vibes x

[NamesNick]

X post with OP

[Oakmaiden]

You see, by now I would be worrying that he left his phone somewhere, so didn't see it. Or it might be out of battery. I don't think I would jump immediately to "he was leading me on".

Or maybe I would.

Sending "he will get there any minute" vibes to you, OP. Obviously as soon as he arrives you need to make your excuses and post to let us know!

[FreudianGymSlip]

Do we think he's arrived?

[sonjadog]

Hopefully he is walking up the street at this very moment...