Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

I feel like I know sometimes, I sort of felt like I knew on this last occasion that something could happen, but it's only me haha

Ah well geeky still dumped me!

I still can't believe he did, dont...what a tool!!

Yeah it's the uncertainty of it all that's getting to me right now, like even if you find it you can lose it, if you think they're not bothered about you they can be. It's baffling. Recently I've had around five randomers come back to me via sites/texts just out of nowhere sort of try to apologise for past behaviour and stuff. So weird. None of em of any interest to me at all!

I think geeky was hoping for a single woman, no kids, who he could quickly move in with and leech off. He insisted right to the end that he loved me. Maybe he did. Who knows. But it wasn't the love I felt for him. His actions assured me of that.

I want to set up a WhatsApp group for those of us on the thread who live in the North West of England. The group will be for chatting/venting etc, but also for the possibility of us to meet up one day. I already have a few people interested. If there is anybody else, PM me and I will add you all.

Excited!

Yay! Great idea!

Yeah he had a fantasy of you for sure. I really can't imagine a time when I will have a relationship that involved my daughter too. There's a guy I went on a date with last yr and it was a massive disappointment after a connection over messages, but we kept on touch and still connect so much over texts. He said he would take me out sometime again and 'treat me mean' jokingly. On paper we would be great together but there was just no spark, I totally didn't fancy him. Gah!

I know what you mean there, Ursula. I have men I spark with textually but not sexually. FFS the last time I had decent sex was the end of February

My test of whether I fancy a man is this: does the idea of a romantic picnic, with champagne and strawberries, a stroll hand in hand etc, make me go 'aw' or 'ew.' If it's 'ew' - no matter how good the text is, I'm not going there.

Or maybe I am, but only after

That's why I gave up dating for hookups. Two weeks since a good seeing to and months and months since a good date!

Yep I see that. I think eww far too often

Just got back from date with MrSwoon! lovely evening, gorgeous food and oh my he talks and talks and is lovely and charming and confident and I do fancy him. He is v keen indeed, we parted with a kiss on the lips and will speak in the morning and possibly see each other again this weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! O.M.G.!!!!!!!
O.M.G.!!!!!

Hi all.

Good news about your date Handywoman, so glad MrSwoon met up to expectations as I know the disappointment when they don't in person.

So I just got back from a first date with MrTall-1. I meant to do a toilet update but I can't fathom this new layout and it takes ages to load.

I liked him on the date. He was funny and clever and the conversation flowed well. But, he had an annoying laugh which I feel a bit mean for saying. He was attractive (and very tall - bonus) but it was weird. I kept changing my mind on whether I thought he was attractive or not. Despite all this, when we walked back to our cars, I thought, yes I like him.

And then we kissed. Oh god, he is a terrible kisser. One of the worst I've ever had . He told me on the date that he's been on a lot of dates and very often he's confused about why they call it off after what he considers a nice date. I knew then it was the kissing.

So not sure what to do about him. Bad kisser feels like a deal breaker but maybe I can teach him? Is that possible? How would I even tell him? It's massively put me off him.

And now I just miss MrTall even more . He's still away on holiday and I haven't heard a thing from him. This definitely means he's lost interest doesn't it? I still have a tiny bit of hope that he will come back and say he wants to keep seeing me. I'm not obsessing like I was though and obviously I'm getting back out in the meantime. Still not sure if it's better to just ignore him or send a text to touch base? Anyone have any advice or should I just let it go now?

SingleSock - it definitely is possible to help improve someone's kissing technique so if everything else was good maybe don't give up just yet xx

single Hmm, good(ish) date/bad kisser... I've dated a couple of men who I didn't think were particularly good kissers. I just refuse to kiss like they do. I think sometimes I've actually pulled away with a, "mm, mm" and retrained them that way I often wonder how people get to 35+ not being able to kiss! You could approach it that way... if you think he's worth it!

As far as MrTall goes, I wouldn't text. If he hasn't got in touch, I'd assume I wouldn't hear anything I wanted to and I'd just let it go and aim to appear as disinterested in him. Not sure if that's the right thing to do, it's what I'd do though.

Handywoman sounds like your date went really well Watch you don't fall for him too quickly though... After all, he's only a man

MyChild I know what you mean. I try to keep in mind that "love is something you do, not something you feel" because it's obviously how you feel, too, but I don't know. I think I love my boyfriend and I think that's why I'm finding it all so difficult. But surely, if it was 'love' it wouldn't be difficult? I loved my son's father absolutely and completely. I can't really explain it, I just did. I don't think I ever loved my husband really. Not as a wife should.

Has that helped?

Ursula! A takeaway indeed!

lottie so will you be seeing him again...? What sort of insecurities and thoughts must have been running through his head for him to blurt that out!

I have made a complete tit of myself.

I sent an email to the wrong guy. It was intended for my long term FB, but I sent it to a very nice young man I 'met' on pof (same first name)

Oh dear.

Oh dear

How bad was it..?

Cringingly bad. Very very bad.

In a very explicit way.
He's going to need some brain bleach

BABES Oh dear... Just out of interest, has he replied...?

Ursula Today is off to a good start. 30 day shred and a breakfast of strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, Greek yoghurt and a tsp of honey. Really lovely!

Oh no, BABES but also might be a nice surprise for him.

Well after our miscommunication yesterday ( that has annoyed me and I have now put a black mark next to blondegeeky's name) I popped on to match again this morning. Lo and behold, blondegeeky has already viewed my profile. This tells me two things:

1. I'm the first thing he looks at every morning
2. I don't know if he was really babysitting, but he probably wasn't out drinking last night.Unless he went online to look at me in the early hours, which I doubt.

single could you picture yourself going on a lovely romantic picnic with Mr Tall 1? If it's a yes - see him again. If the idea makes you cringe - don't.

A bad kiss would be a dealbreaker for me.

I have a reply but too scared to read it

I'm not sure about my date next week with JIMI. He phoned me last night & is over the top excited that I 'really exist' !? He doesn't sound how he looks either. Looks tall, dark, sexy. Sounds a bit squeeky & unsexy.

Anyway, what's with the feeling old when you're only in your 30s!!!! I'm 43 - bloody ancient me.