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Dating thread 79

999 replies

louby44 · 13/08/2014 16:47

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

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Jarlin · 13/08/2014 22:52

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lottieandmia · 13/08/2014 22:52

Badoo used to be free! How things change...

Pinklaydee1302 · 13/08/2014 22:54

Gooey I wouldn't mention it either just yet...date sounds great n you'll be laughing about it in no time.

Jarlin you been very brave deleting slow n not reading messages.

Tis...if a guy is into you it won't put him off you DTD. He was probably just after casual sex so don't worry it's you.

I have a coffee date tomorrow so looking forward to that...we've brought it forward as we both anxious to meet Smile

lottieandmia · 13/08/2014 23:15

When I was on Badoo I used to get people asking me for threesomes.

gooeycookie · 13/08/2014 23:16

We just had a massive text conversation... He said he enjoyed our kiss.. I said I did too, but shall we make it longer next time?! He said that was a plan! Haha
Made plans for the weekend...
Just keeping my fingers crossed here guys...

Tisahardlife · 13/08/2014 23:30

Gooey that sounds really promising Grin

knowledgeispower · 13/08/2014 23:51

Well he turned up at 7pm! Amazing smile. Excellent conversation, he paid for all the drinks and I was really enjoying the night until he said about meeting up again as friends! So I said sure in a light and breezy way. He has just sent me a text to say what an amazing time he had. Mixed messages!

Also way to much drama in his life with his ex wife and ex girlfriend now being in a relationship!

Tisahardlife · 13/08/2014 23:59

Know that's a bit of a head fuck Confused Maybe take him on in the firends department and see if it leads anywhere

lottieandmia · 14/08/2014 00:07

He might have said friends if he wanted to avoid looking pushy.

dontcallmehon22 · 14/08/2014 05:02

Hi guys. The update is...date 2 went v well. There will be a date 3...and I think he's beautiful.

Pinklaydee1302 · 14/08/2014 07:29

Don't are you at his now?? Shock

If you are - go girl!!! Grin

dontcallmehon22 · 14/08/2014 07:38

No, I'm taking it slowly, but it's going well...

Tisahardlife · 14/08/2014 07:57

Yay Dont sounds really promising Grin

FolkGirl · 14/08/2014 08:32

Wow, dont! That's fantastic. What time did you get home, then?! Grin

Your update is really good news, too, gooey

Good luck, Pink. Sounds good if you're both anxious to meet... Fingers crossed!

gotta just keep reading the rules... Wink

giggly good luck with the talk. I don't know how you start it either. I finished with him because I just felt so shit all the time and he told me. But I wouldn't recommend that approach! Grin

gottafindaman4yagirl · 14/08/2014 09:26

Hi Knowledge,

I have had a similar thing happen, and both guys said i was lovely and how great the conversation was, how nice looking i am but one guy didn't bother to call after second date and the last guy blocked me on POF which upset me because why said positive stuff and then not act keen.

From conversation these two men had bad splits, are early 40's and I think trying to sort out their lives....so why go on dates if not ready.

Folk, the rules..is that the book?

Blocker guy text me last night after blocking me :/ I asked him why he blocked me...he said he didn't, he had just edited his profile to add more pictures, I don't think so.

I got all straightened out after chatting on here and then this guy text me saying he needs to work the weekend....but would like to hook up soon.

After DTD I think I know what kind of hooking up, that's if he even intends to hook up. I think I will take it with a pinch of salt, I do really like him but I don't want to be taken for a ride, suppose all the years I spent trying to please my ex I have lost my instinct when it comes to men.

If you have fun on a date and like the person physically, can hold a conversation for hours why go cold, and men say women are complicated :)

FolkGirl · 14/08/2014 09:36

The Rules

  1. The first rule of the Dating Thread is, you do not talk about the Dating Thread (with people you're dating)
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun, stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the Thread
dontcallmehon22 · 14/08/2014 09:50

I got home about 11.30, but I don't sleep well. He's been texting me, saying he can't wait to see me again. He makes me laugh till my eyes water and there is a definite spark.

louby44 · 14/08/2014 10:17

I'm very jealous of all your fab dates guys!! don't and gooey it all sounds very positive!

I have a busy few days so no time for dating! Gonna take a bit of a breather from it!

Welcome to all the newbies!

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jesy · 14/08/2014 10:36

He still being a bit off with me , I did wonder if he a bit stressed over stuff but can't help feeling it's me .
I don't plan to text him till later today which I'll find hard .

gottafindaman4yagirl · 14/08/2014 10:38

Thanks folk, those rules make sense.

coldwater1 · 14/08/2014 11:12

Hey everyone, new recruit here! Wink

jesy · 14/08/2014 11:23

Hi and welcome cold water

Mr IT texted ,sorry late reply up to my stuff at work ext , just need to catch up on stuff

Then added our private joke

lottieandmia · 14/08/2014 11:39

I've noticed that there seem to be a lot of men there who are definitely on the rebound from other relationships. It's a bad idea.

UrsulaBuffay · 14/08/2014 12:22

Jesy you and Mr IT seem to be in constant contact, I think most of us worry when we've not heard from guys for days and weeks not hours! Try to relax, your 'thing' could turn into more. If it's making you so anxious though maybe you need to talk. He obviously can't stay away from you but he's kind of having his cake and eating it! It's not like any FWB situation I've ever had, am well jel!

jesy · 14/08/2014 12:49

I guess I'm having my cake to I'm having amazing sex he good company and he cares

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