Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

I buy a drink back (which is only fair) and say im sorry but i just dont feel a chemistry thing going on between us and graciously say i dont think you feel it too (to help the ego) and thats it.

I hasten to say that I dont travel, they come to where I live ( and rightly so) I would travel of course if I liked them after they came to my neck of the woods first... I also wont prolong something that I dont think will work. Im nice but blunt. Im fully prepared for the same.

Oh and in the first instance we have skype and I do ask to see them first on there... make it clear that I dont want "cock" shots and see another dimension. that shows me what they "really" sort of look like and whether they are prepared to be seen.

Oh tinks that's interesting, I have always travelled, I liked a neutral feeling place. Until date today, with MrH we met 5 Mins from my place, his suggestion. It was going on a bit, he went for the bill, I got my fone out to see where my meeting was this afternoon. He wallked me to my car....going on about what a gent that made him....he just wanted to see what car I had!

well that was a twit huh... I go nowhere, they come to me in the first instance, as in i meet them at a train station, it shows that they are willing, im a huge advocate on here of equality BUT still believe the man should come forward and quest.

True with the questing! I have been lucky though, some really nice men have met me in lovely places that I would not normally go to, and been great company, so nothing wasted

Its better in my book to be close to home, then I can get on with whatever I want. travel miles for a first date... umm no. selfish me im not at all selfish and would go the whole way but not instantly...

scenery is one thing but i wouldnt want to share that with anyone other than the person i want to be with... nothing worse than seeing something lovely and turning round and going eww, not with you!

Everywhere near me has been explored with DC. The places I have met dates have been more grown up, I guess I just like new places, and have not had the misfortune of meeting someone who hasn't simply enjoyed the date itself as well as my fascinating company!

jarlin he just texted me to say 'this might sound kinda weird, but I really miss you.'

its ok to agree to disagree... I personally don't enjoy spending time with someone I dont want to be with, I feel its kinder to just not go there than pretend... life is short. I can't spend a whole night with someone I wouldnt be remotely attracted to. That give false hope surely?

Hi everyone, please can I join you? I've just signed up for match.com and finding it a bit overwhelming. I separated from STBXH 6 months ago after 16 years together. We got together when I was 20 yo so I've been with him most of my adult life and to be honest, the thought of dating again terrifies me. I veer from swearing I will never go near another man (the split has been quite acrimonious) to thinking I might quite like to meet someone else and get the happy ever after.

I'm probably not really ready to meet anyone yet but decided to dip my toe in the water and try out online dating just to chat to people if nothing else. I've got 2 young DDs and STBXH hardly sees them so my chances of getting out and meeting anyone in the real world are minimal. I'm currently chatting to one man who seems lovely but not really my type. I've had loads of profile views but not many winks or messages and it is a bit disheartening. It makes me want to take down my profile and stay single forever.

Even if I am not attracted to them in the ,"way hey let's get our kit off" apart from one instance....where the guy had real issue (but it was only Starbucks) I have just enjoyed chatting. I really go into these things with the attitude that I am going to enjoy myself, rather than treating it as some sort of series of interview type hurdles to find the one. But I am one of those seriously irritatingly positive, Pollyanna types. Hurrah!

that is lovely frames it really is... im the opposite i guess, im a get in there and get out if I feel jack shit.

tinks I like your style I would like to be like that but am a bit sensitive and don't want hurt their feelings. Many a time I would just like to up and leave. frames know what you mean.
Have had a call today from a chap who spoke with over a week ago, said he has been really busy with work and wants to meet up this weekend. Bit miffed NC but maybe give him a chance?

Blossom no! dont give the chance, why would you? what's it with chances? you dont know him and he is showing you loud and clear what he's like. It's not about what you want to be "like" its about how "you" would act....

Advice please girls, the guy i really like and went on a date with has messaged me again saying how great i am....i said i was a little embarrassed about DTD and also made it clear i fancied him. He then messaged back that it was wonderful " but not sure i am the stability you need long term, but i hope we can at the very least be your friend!!! I think your a wonderful lady". What does this mean, should i just tell him no thanks im not looking for a friend....i dont want him to marry me or anything.

Feel likethis man is sending me mixed messages, he cant fancy me but thinks i would make a good mate.

Please give me advice.

You are sensitive, you are "correct" you would do the right thing... if someone else doesnt then dont go there.

gotta... it means he enjoyed what you did but isnt going to do it again. He may if you keep calling him for a shag... sorry but thats honest.

Just to add, this bloke keeps messaging me first, feeling quite upset because i don't like mind games. I mean should i be happy to be friends or is it ok to find this upsetting.

My ex only stayed with me because he said i was the only good friend he had. :(

Decide what you want gotta, if you want a shag and no promises then do that and all hail to you. If you want different then go for that

Gotta, he does because he can.... and you run to him. He would probably ignore anything from you until it suited him to..."first text again"... dump him and get better or know it for what it is.