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Caught in the act . Mortified.

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SickOfAnts · 04/08/2014 20:13

Have once again turned to MN as in RL there is only DH to talk to.

The barebones of the story are that DH and I were caught in the act yesterday by our DDIL and the ramifications seem to be totally over the top.

We've had a stressful couple of years. Our relationship was put into question over an event which happened nearly 30 years ago, was a horrid time and still now it is in the background.

Last year our DS1 announced that his girlfriend was pregnant, they're both students in pretty full on studies. We supported them 100% and i gave up work to look after our beautiful GD.

Yesterday we looked after our GD, DS and DDIL are on holiday from uni but we offered to give them a break.
DH came home for lunch and we fawned over DGD for a while and then put her down for her siesta.
One thing led to another (consenting adults in their 50's) and to cut a long story short DDIL arrived (very quietly) and caught us in a compromising position.

Mortification is not the word.

She went into the kitchen and DH spoke to her/apologised.
She was all kinds of embarrassed.
She woke up DGD and went home.

Since then all hell has broken loose. DS can't trust us to look after DGD, if we can't hear DDIL coming in then how could we hear a baby crying?

I could die. I feel dreadful.

DH has pulled rank and has basically told DS to just drop it.

I feel sick.

Thankyou for reading this far. I know this is a total non story but it's very upsetting and embarrassing for me and i needed to share.

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Beastofburden · 08/08/2014 22:11

The MN marriage-arranging service for older Dc.... Hmmmm. With special service level agreement (fnaa fnaa) re knocking before entering, not hating your MIL, etc.

Hmmm. Could be a goer, MNHQ.

BoffinMum · 08/08/2014 22:20

DD (27) is after a partner after the love of her life dumped her by text, miserable rugby playing bastard. She has a relaxed attitude towards parental fumblings ...

Rafflesway · 08/08/2014 22:32

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:25

BoffinMum

How awful for your daughter.
What a cowardly creature to drop her by text.
He should at least have afforded her the oppourtunity of crying infront of him.
Inadequate at best.

I have one 25 year old DS up for grabs.
Good sense of humour, enjoys outdoor pursuits, makes a mean omelette.
What more could a girl ask for?

Xx

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:27

(Opportunity)

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:36

Rafflesway

Thankyou for your kind words.

Let's continue our shenanigans as often as possible, whenever and wherever we desire!

Here's to grandparents all over the world who partake in a little afternoon delight when the mood takes them! Wine

Xx

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:43

Beastofburden

The MN matchmaking service idea sounds just the ticket.

Mum's being given the chance to vet any potential DILs sounds like a recipe for success!

Xx

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:51

EverythingCounts

We shall continue to look after our grandaughter.

Seems that our competance was never really questioned.

The root of my DS's outrage was embarrassement.

Understandable.

Life goes on.

Xx

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 09:54

Beastofburden

Rogue apostrophe!
Not "Mum's" but "Mums".

(Live in constant fear of the grammar police picking me up on spelling and punctuation! )

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AppleAndMelon · 09/08/2014 11:19

I think you've had enough with the Grandma police, without the grammar police too!

JaceyBee · 09/08/2014 11:43

OP I also just wanted to say what an absolute delight you sound and I wish you and dh many more years of afternoon bj's in the living room!

SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 19:55

AppleAndMelon

Hope you aren't suggesting we may be taken into custody.

Not sure handcuffs are our thing!

Xx

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SickOfAnts · 09/08/2014 20:04

JaceyBee

Thankyou for that.

Our youngest is off to uni in September.

I do worry that i shall suffer an acute case of "empty nest" syndrome.
Maybe there will be some advantages to finding ourselves alone in the house.
I'll put my thinking cap on!

It's been smashing to share the banter on here.
I must admit to having enjoyed being centre of attention for once. Blush

Merci mille fois mesdames.
Flowers

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Beastofburden · 09/08/2014 20:58

It's been fab, sickofants. Keep up the good work! We MILs in waiting have to stick together! Xx

SickOfAnts · 10/08/2014 10:52

Beastofburden

It has been fab for me too!

Together we stand, divided we fall!

A call to arms to we poor defenceless MILs tip toeing through the minefield of family politics.

Judging by many MIL threads on here, our reputation leaves alot to be desired.

Sometimes our best is not good enough and offence is taken in seemingly innocuous circumstances. (Not that for one moment i would suggest that in our situation we were totally blameless)

Thankyou once again for taking the time to post.
Take care.

Xxx

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Neyite · 10/08/2014 11:04

I've a toddler and nap times are usually our only times to get a shag. By the time our own bedtime comes we are usually too wrecked to do anything.

Dunno what we are going to do when he gets too old to nap!

Beastofburden · 11/08/2014 09:18

You too xxx

Am not a mil yet but it won't be long.....

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