Caught in the act . Mortified.

[SickOfAnts]

Have once again turned to MN as in RL there is only DH to talk to.

The barebones of the story are that DH and I were caught in the act yesterday by our DDIL and the ramifications seem to be totally over the top.

We've had a stressful couple of years. Our relationship was put into question over an event which happened nearly 30 years ago, was a horrid time and still now it is in the background.

Last year our DS1 announced that his girlfriend was pregnant, they're both students in pretty full on studies. We supported them 100% and i gave up work to look after our beautiful GD.

Yesterday we looked after our GD, DS and DDIL are on holiday from uni but we offered to give them a break.
DH came home for lunch and we fawned over DGD for a while and then put her down for her siesta.
One thing led to another (consenting adults in their 50's) and to cut a long story short DDIL arrived (very quietly) and caught us in a compromising position.

Mortification is not the word.

She went into the kitchen and DH spoke to her/apologised.
She was all kinds of embarrassed.
She woke up DGD and went home.

Since then all hell has broken loose. DS can't trust us to look after DGD, if we can't hear DDIL coming in then how could we hear a baby crying?

I could die. I feel dreadful.

DH has pulled rank and has basically told DS to just drop it.

I feel sick.

Thankyou for reading this far. I know this is a total non story but it's very upsetting and embarrassing for me and i needed to share.

I want to start a punk group called Erroneous Blowjob. :o

My parents are 54 and I'd be shocked if they didn't do it. I wouldn't care if they did while my DCs were asleep either.

DH and I actually do while (shock, horror!) our older DC is awake. One of these days he's going to cotton on to all that extra TV time he got on Sundays after Mass while his baby sister was napping and DH and I were upstairs, not to be disturbed...

Echocave

At the risk of sounding precious myself.....first, second (ad infinitum) they're all your children and even though experience helps in the routine tasks of feeding etc, feelings don't change.

I remember the fear i had when carrying DS2.
Would i love him as much as DS1?

I couldn't imagine it possible.

He arrived and he was another PFB!

I would need absolute trust in someone to allow them to care for my child.

I had that in my own PIL.

Had i ever caught them "at it" whilst looking after my child i really don't know how i would react.

I'd be mortified for sure but i'd like to think that the trust i had in them would not diminish.

(That scenario would never have arrisen though as of course they never , ever , ever did the deed ever in all their lives)

CheerfulYank

Shame on you!

10 Hail Mary's and 15 Our Father's!

Is "lunchtime" a euphemism for something rude?

If I remember correctly the country you're in, sex is supposed not to be such tabu, and I wouldn't be surprised if lunchtime really is code for private moments.

Spanish have their "siesta".

And my parents insisted we had a nap when on holiday.

Lweji

Although the country we're in does have a certain reputation, lunchtime is lunchtime !

My fellow compatriates enjoy a fumble but enjoy their food even more.

Lunchtime is sacred and let no man or beast disturb that moment.

("Lunchtime" shall however be forever a euphemism in this house. Thanks)

I remember your thread from when they found they were expecting - much prefer this gin swilling lunchtime sessions version of you!

I remember your other thread too. They are very lucky to have such a supportive family.

I hope you are feeling better about the whole thing today.

This has been an absolutely splendid thread!!

Thankyou ladies.

The gin swilling and afternoon delight is no new occupation!
I have been known to partake in the past (though admitedly more biased towards the gin element).

This thread has been very therapeutic.

Slowly, slowly i'm changing.
Just small covert steps for the moment but hopefully one day i will be less uptight and conformist.

I shall wear purple!

Have a weekend in Paris/York/New York, disinherit DS1 & adopt DGD.....otherwise Sunday lunch & a mature talk?

Surely the issue here isn't that you were having sex, but that you were having sex while you were babysitting your grand daughter. Also, why the heck did you leave your door open?

Id be pissed off and embarrassed if I were your dil too.

I think you should both apologise.

They have.

limon

I shall once again repeat my plea for the defence;

IT WAS LUNCHTIME!

(And we have apologised much to the annoyance of the majority on this thread)

Xx

tygarugby

Smashing advice, though the first option may be too harsh under these particular circumstances!

Am tempted by a weekend in New York though do fear our finances are lacking.

Xx

SickOfAnts can you be my mum please?
I think I love you and your family values. Please adopt me. I promise to knock!

Very OTT if you ask me!

We are mammals, we all have sex! Fact!

If your gc was running around the house unsupervised the I could completely understand the uproar, but she was asleep and you are two perfectly consenting adults.

Apologies were made and that should be the end of it.

I guess she doesn't have sex with your ds whilst their child is in the house then???

guitarosauras

I have 2 DSs going spare!
Good wholesome boys in need of a girlfriend.

Just fill in my quick questionnaire and we'll consider you for family status.

1. What profession does your Father exercise?
2. Do you cook, sew and keep a clean front step?
3. Would you dress a baby in damp clothes?
4. What profession does your Father exercise?
5. Do you cook?

Xx

pumpkinsweetie

Seems that nobody's either right or wrong in this sorry tale.
(Melodramatic!)

Things are awkward at the moment.

I saw DS, DDIL and DGD today and i wouldn't describe the ambiance as totally comfortable.

Understandable on both sides.

At least i've been able to laugh on here.

Xx

When i say i have 2 DSs going spare i don't mean to suggest any "ménage à trois" shenanigans!
Either one or the other, not together.

Hope that is clear.

Haha!

'When i say i have 2 DSs going spare i don't mean to suggest any "ménage à trois" shenanigans!
Either one or the other, not together.'

haha! Alas I have a very yummy (sorry!) man. After years of awful marriage I have a good'un. We even make love when the children sleep!

Oh well , in that case i will just have to continue to peddle them on another forum!

You are very lucky to have a yummy partner.
I wish you many years of happiness ahead.

(My DH is rather "yummy" too. Though many would disagree. Bald and paunchy doesn't do it for everyone!)

Xx

bald and paunchy can be yummy!

Thankyou! I've known him for over 20 years and he's as lovely on the inside as he is on the outside.

I'm sure you'll find lovely partners for your sons, just remember to lock the door when they're around

My family found a lovely partner for me and it is tempting to do the same for our sons.
Think we'll leave them to find their own partners though!

Lovely to talk to you.
Xx

Sounds like your family did good!

You too SickOfAnts!

But you let one boy choose his partner and look what he came up with: Ms Prig who never has sex when her daughter's in the house

Haha

Have they said any more about continuing to leave DGC in your care? Or are they graciously going to allow you to carry on doing them a massive favour and saving them tons of money?