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Secrets we want to tell but can't

925 replies

LizzieBelle · 02/08/2014 18:35

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

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LSDeacon · 17/09/2014 08:56

Morning Katee,

You have no reason to feel guilty. After reading the rest of your posts on here you mentioned about your stepfather. No wonder you had an unrealistic or healthy idea of what a relationship was!

Your sexual history doesn't define you. You are not ruined. Why would you be? You can make a decision to put it all in the past.

'Tomorrow is always another day to make it right' is a quote I love.

As for self respect well I doubt you are alone there. But it is about NOW not what happened then. Even yesterday is in the past.

Katee if your family are not there for you anyway you certainly should not be worrying about what they have to say about your partner!!

I fantasise about running away to the Caribbean. I look at flights, accomodation, jobs etc.

LSDeacon · 17/09/2014 08:57

Thank you everyone for your words regarding my situation.I thought I would get attacked for my actions.

I never knew the taking off of the condom was so common. I never really thought about it...

LSDeacon · 17/09/2014 08:59

Katee I just read that you don't feel you have to answer to family just they will whinge.
When you tell them you have broken up with him and they try to speak to you just say 'I am not speaking about this right now' and remove yourself from the situation. It is none of their business.

ovaryhill · 18/09/2014 17:45

Almost name changed for this as I'm so embarrassed, but........we've just had Greggs sausage rolls, chips and beans for tea, and here's the really bad bit..... IT WAS DELICIOUS!!!!!!!

DustBunnyFarmer · 18/09/2014 19:27

Tuts, hoists on judgypants & glares @ ovaryhill

CarbeDiem · 18/09/2014 22:17

I'm jealous about your tea Ovary. I could kill for a Greggs pasty right now.

UptheAnty · 19/09/2014 06:19

My dh& I split up 1 week ago.
I've told no one.

The weird thing is ... After 13 years of marriage I feel relieved.

I've had 2 calls with him, both of which confirmed to me that there is no way we can get back together.

For the first time in 2 years I actually feel excited about my future.

This year, I might even have a happy birthday!

BitOutOfPractice · 19/09/2014 08:33

Oh Up! I always think that that feeling of relief means yu have made the right decision. Good luck to you and happy birthday for whenever it is

SpecialAgentFreyPie · 19/09/2014 08:39

My FIL was a complete pervert when I was BFing. One too many times after 'accidentally' touching one of my breasts, I 'accidentally' tripped him and let him fall on his bad knee. He was bedridden for two days on heavy duty painkillers.

He never has never so much looked below my neckline again.

Meerka · 19/09/2014 09:57

good one :D

PoirotsMoustache · 19/09/2014 11:14

Mine is minor compared to many, but I am scared I'm going to completely screw up my marriage. I hate the way I look, I find myself repulsive and struggle to believe that my DH finds me attractive, despite him telling me that I'm beautiful/gorgeous/sexy/lovely several times a day. For the past two weeks, I've not wanted to do anything at all sex-wise because I feel so unattractive and unsexy, which isn't fair on him. Not that he's pushing it at all - he's wonderful like that! I know two weeks isn't long, but we've been married less than 3 months, together less than two years. I love him to pieces and have no doubts about our relationship. I'm just terrified I'm going to end up pushing him away.
Yup, pathetic, which is why I can't say it in real life!

Darkesteyes · 19/09/2014 16:25

SpecialAgent that is priceless. And the two days bedridden would have given him plenty of time to think about his assault on you because thats precisely what it was.

I bet it felt good taking back the power though.

CrispsAreFruit · 20/09/2014 04:57

I've not read all this thread so i'm just going to leap straight in with my secret - i think i made a massive mistake moving back in with my partner. I don't really like him or his son and want to go. They have no sense of respect for other people and don't compromise on anything. I have leant him thousands to pay his mortgage debt and i doubt i'll ever get it back as he is crap with money. I want to leave him. He thinks that its normal to always be antagonistic. I think he has been damaging my stuff. I don't like him. I don't know why i've not cut my losses and left. I've just leant him another £300 to help with the mortgage. I am stupid.

RebelRobin · 20/09/2014 06:13

crisps you should leave. No need for explanation, just go

Darkesteyes · 21/09/2014 17:19

crisps he sounds like the King of the Users. Angry

My young niece was talking about a friend of hers last night who had to get the MAP after a condom split. After my and others experiences posted upthread i decided to bite the bullet and advise her to be wary of the fact that there are men out there who will whip the condom off halfway through. She looked shocked and said "Are there men who will really do that?" Unfortunately there are i told her And they are the ones who have no respect for you or your health or even their own. I just wanted to make her aware that this goes on.

DrewOB · 21/09/2014 18:26

not bragging btw!
I took yasmin for 6 months last year and boobs grew from a B/C to a DD cup. Off it for 9 months now and they have not shrunk back to their original size.
I rater enjoy the attention they get me Blush

Darkesteyes · 21/09/2014 18:30

Fucking hell i just started the POP (Zelleta) Im already naturally a 34J so i bloody hope that doesnt happen here Blush

DrewOB · 21/09/2014 18:33

I know right!
also I suffer from PCOS and have been having nearly regular periods since coming off it too, so that's extra bonus.

FrankSpencer · 22/09/2014 00:04

Sorry, but what's Yasmin? A supplement or a typo! Smile

Darkesteyes · 22/09/2014 00:22

Its a contraceptive pill.

FrankSpencer · 22/09/2014 17:17

really? It's actually called that. Well I never Thanks

LilQueenie · 27/09/2014 01:37

just catching up on reading this thread and wanted to add that a condom will not always protect from herpes so LS you will never know. dont beat yourself up over it.

SteamNewRomantic · 28/09/2014 19:16

A few years ago, DP and I hired a car in the States. First night out, jet-lagged (and it was something like 2am by our body clocks), I backed the car into a fire plug and punched an impeccable hexagon-shaped hole into the dead centre of the rear bumper.

After a bit of soul-searching, we decided we weren't going to give the car hire company the opportunity to stick us with a massive (overinflated) repair bill, so we bought a couple of rubber washers and super-glued them to the affected spot. It looked like a feature (the cover of an electrical plug sort of thing).

It worked.

ajandjjmum · 28/09/2014 20:23

That's one back Steam for all of us who have been ripped off by car hire companies over the years!! Grin

Darkesteyes · 28/09/2014 21:42

thats quite clever.