Ex has done something horrific.... wwyd? Warning, graphic. ***[Edited by MNHQ STRONG WARNING - POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING]***

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I am horrified, ex-p has hospitalised some poor girl he's been sleeping with. They were having very rough sex and he has severely damaged her insides. I get the impression this is someone he has been meeting up with specifically for rough sex so it was consensual and entirely accidental. He is mortified and has spent the whole night and day in hospital with her.

We have only been split up for 4 months and he's been sleeping around loads. It doesn't bother me but we also have a 2yo dd together so I have to prioritise her.

He is already having counselling and anger management and has just been told by his therapist to go to the gp regarding sex addiction.

Wwyd? I am in shock. I don't know what to do for best. I have to know what happens with it all so I can make decisions regarding him seeing dd but I don't want to get too involved. The whole thing makes me feel a bit sick :(

But how is it any different to if he'd gone out and beat someone up in the street? He's shown he's violent and even though the op says he never did this kind of thing when they were together she now knows that he 'could' do this. She needs to protect herself and her daughter.

Get the rest of his stuff out of your house quick.

I can't believe he 'sounded desperate' and you let him in for 20 minutes. You'll probably have to talk to the police now when they call.

this sounds really awful but it also sounds like a really bad accident. i dont see how this has any bearing on , or mean any risk to the op or her daughter

Sounds like he has been punching her inside.

So the fact that the OP has already said he's verbally and emotionally abusive, in anger management and sex addiction therapy, and has now shown himself to be capable of sexual violence that lands a woman in hospital... he needs to cross a few more lines before he's a risk to OP and dd, does he? Bloody hell.

Wow thats pretty shocking. What on earth was her using! ?

And he told you all these details?? Did he tell you before he came round? I can't imagine having that conversation with a relatively new ex considering what it's about, he sounds unhinged

A bad accident!!? Falling down the stairs is an accident, getting pushed down them another thing entirely. Serious internal damage is not a bad accident. This woman could be unable to have children now, she could have permanent damage. That is a choice he made when he did whatever he did.

So, if the girl recovers after surgery etc you will facilitate contact with your daughter

but of she dies from her injuries or suffers long term damage you won't...is that it ?

this man needs to be removed from your life and that of your daughter's

he deserves to be a social pariah

no more cosy phone chats with you, no more offloading to ease his guily conscience, no more storage of his stuff, no more rest breaks at your house, no more family time

I don't understand why you have not made a decision on this right now

In a way I hope the police do call. It would take matters in to official hands.

This was no accident

It takes a fuckload of intent to cause damage like this

Bran seriously,,,,just how much appeasing of male violence are you actually capable of ? You astound me constantly.

and the womans choice. Op said it was consensual

what AF?

As always, I agree with AnyFucker.

Fuck ,what did he do to hospitalize her ?! Me and partner have had very rough but never that rough ....

What did he do? Fist her and rupture something? I can't think of anything else really unless he was trying to get his foot up her vagina or something....

I would seriously distance yourself from this entire inccident, and I would consult citizens advice to see what you can do about safeguarding you and your child's safety.

You heard me, Bran

consensual rough sex, and consensual fisting.

im all about consent. I am not ok with male violence at all, or any violence, but I dont count BDSM as part of that

and the womans choice. Op said it was consensual

Cannot believe what I'm fucking reading. You cannot consent to this. Read the thread.

Why wait for the police, call them yourself and report it, god knows what he's told the hospital and she might not be capable of explaining if she's so badly hurt

Lots of cross posts.

I meant from a crime point of view AF, not what actually happens to the girl herself.

I would happily have him out of our lives for good but he has a right to see dd. If that means I end up using a contact centre then so be it. :(

I am really sad for you. Why would he need to use you as his emotional crutch???

He needs to sort himself out and perhaps has serious MH issues.

You don't need that in your life.

And in any case, it's only his word that it was 'consensual' in the first place.