Dating thread 76

[LoisPuddingLane]

As we were saying...

I've taken myself off POF and Tinder. I just don't feel I'm in the right place at the moment. I'm desperate to sell my house and I just need to get my head straight. I messaged loads of guys but nothing...? Very strange, so I've given up. maybe I'm sending negative vibes over the interweb lol!

I'm going to live my online experience through you guys for the time being.

blossom how did you date go? have you told you ex to sling his hook now!

Go for it Minime, don't feel naughty. I think that's where I went wrong also. my now ex was mt first OLD. Met up with someone else a couple of times for coffee. But I felt guilty and my heart wasn't in it even though it was a slow start with ex. My coffee date was full on I think if we went on a 3rd date he'd have produced an engagement ring LOL. He was desperate to be in a relationship. I won't make the same mistake this time, I realise it is so different from RLD. I just need to toughen up a bit .

Found you :)

Louby, yeah I think you need to be in the right place for OLD. I'm not ready yet I'm just browsing. God it's like a bloody mail order catalogue isn't it. So depressing when you're not in the right place, but I suppose it could be fun if you are x

steelchic aw I'm really sorry to hear that it must have been quite a shock for you coming out of the blue as it did. Especially horrible as you were getting on well and still enjoying eachothers company so you miss it all the more (((hugs)))

I met Bricky 4 months ago online. I too wasn't physically attracted to him but thought he seemed a really nice guy so kept on seeing him and the attraction grew. I had been in a horrible emotionally abusive relationship for 4 yrs prior to meeting him and he was like a breath of fresh air tbh. So laid back, no tension between us. But I'm wondering if long term we can carry on or does it all feel great simply because what I had to compare with was so horrible.

I'm sure half the guys I've seen on Match are knocking a few years off. Or is it that middle aged guys in my area just don't look after theirselves. Typical profile *** aged 48 ( yeah and the rest) standing there with pint in hand, beer belly, balding some teeth mission, unable to spell the simplest of words. Looking for a slim attractive woman 30 /40. I wish I could get a hold of their magic mirror lol

Aw sorry to hear that Santa, and thanks for the hug . I know what you mean about comparing it to your ex. Just go with the flow and enjoy it. If it doesn't work out take the positives from it, at least you know there are decent guys out there. They are not all like your ex and you can be in a happy relationship. Just live in the moment and don't think too much about the future, did you say you're going on holiday with him. Sorry if I've got that wrong. But if you are, that might be a good measure of where it's going x

Yes we are going away for 2 weeks so will be a good test
Did laugh at your description of men on match. It's a joke isn't it how they ask for a woman so much younger. I saw loads of 50 year olds who had their looking for age range between 25 to 40 yeh ok dream on

Hi can I join the chat? I've been reading the thread for a while as needing encouragement! Ex moved out at Easter (effectively separated last Aug)... I had two dates with one guy who then (after making vrious future plans with me) announced he had met someone else...was pretty peed off but after reading these threads it appears this might not be unusual??!

I'm chatting to two men at the moment, plans to meet one on Sat but not sure I can be bothered (esp after last experience). Is it worth the effort.... On the other hand I am struggling a little on the weekend day/eves when ex has DCs, feels very lonely. Is that the right reason to date or is it too early do you think?

Also, which sites are best?

Thanks x

Hi triathlon. If go for it. You've got nothing to lose. I too feel really lonely without dcs but I want someone in my life as well. I've got a date lined up tomorrow and one on Friday as long as they don't back out. I'm just going to try and go with flow (easier said than done)

I'm starting to think match is rubbish and worth trying the free ones first

I've tried them all over 3 years been separated and always end up back with pof

I liked POF - lots of messages and not all from weirdos.

I am supposed to be spending Saturday with my boyfriend and his kids. I have met them before briefly but this is the first time I will be with them for a full day.

Can I have some advice please anybody?

The ex that I've talked about....always had a feeling and last night he did through FB! Started out with pleasantries etc and he said he felt guilty how things ended (he told me he'd met someone else and had no feelings for me anymore) he then went on to say he wanted us to be friends. I said wasn't sure as it still hurt, in the conversation that went on for 3 hours he kept trying to ask if I'd met anyone else but still insisting he just wanted to be friends. He also admitted he lied about meeting someone else he just wanted space from me.

He's really messed with my head in just don't know why he would contact me, it had been 2 weeks and I was starting to move on.

What does anyone think about this.

Sorry don't mean to hijack the thread!

He wants to mess with your head.

Oh and block him.

Yes I thought that too Lois, offload his guilt too

Date ok last night had a chat for a couple of hours, was a bit when he told me he was having trouble sleeping and he boss had advised him to have wank. Not really convo for first date, or am I being a prude? I always look at someone and think is this someone I could introduce to family and friends in the future.

Pinklaydee, I went out with a guy who, after I dumped him for being a complete fucking sleaze, wanted to be friends. He saw himself as essentially a good guy and being friends with his exes maintained this image. He couldn't be that bad right, if he wanted to be friends, etc. And so on. And the occasional shag.

No, just no.

Blossom yes that prob is a bit off but I guess depends in context of situation he was telling you. Did u fancy him though?

Lois, no he wasn't sleazy far from it, bit prudish if I'm honest but yes he don't want me to think of him as a bad person so u kind of right too. Just in a total mess now got date 3 tomorrow n thinking whether I want to go now

pink not really to be tbh, was discussing this before the date, I kind think you know within the first 10 minutes whether there is a chance to go anywhere, Or am I being unrealistic. The wanking thing made me feel a bit ill

blossom that would have made me feel ill too! Honestly if you can't be bothered to think of better conversation on the first date.....

Can someone make head or tail of this?

Had 5 dates with this guy, really nice guy, dates are always 5-6 hours long, he's asked to see me 3 times, and i've asked the other times, and i've also initated the 6th one.
When we're together, it's always good, and he always kisses me goodnight etc, and on the 4th date we both got drunk and dtd.
The only thing that i'm struggling with is he only seems to send about 2-3 texts a day? They're always nice and he always replys, but am i being a bit silly to think maybe it should be moving forward a bit?
My sense says it's only been a few weeks, calm down, however I just would have expected a little more contact in between dates?

Some people just don't text very much. Has it been like that from the start, or dropped off?

It's been like it from the start, and he does seem laid back. There's no way I want to go storming in with the 'What are we chat' (too early) but, I would like to know if it's heading in the right direction?

Hard to say. Interestingly you say "he always replies" - does that mean you instigate the texts? Might be worth seeing what happens if you don't.