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Thanks so much for your reply!! I love how honest you are being with each other. I know what you mean about that involuntary smile when you see someone. :)
I've only just blocked my ex out of my life a few minutes ago, before it was trying to be friends but ending up webcam sex (no sorry, me getting my tits out for a minute and a half) and arguing.
It's been difficult to know what's really going on for ages because he has a personality disorder and most of what he does is for power. However I made the fatal mistake of letting his controlling ways get to me and I became dependant on him for a few months... after an awful messy break where I felt like I had nothing and was catatonic, we got back together, and I used that time to wise up and start building my life again. So this time I haven't been as affected.
Basically he was making plans then leaving them last minute... I told him I was refusing to be put through what I was put through last time. Neither was I being an internet friend (like the girl he had an EA with at the beginning from Norway :D :D she had "perfect" tits that her daddy bought her).
I'm aware I've been probably posting about DP recently as if still together, but it's been a few months. Just... everything was the same except not seeing each other.
But now he's gone, and technically has been a few months
So it makes choosing what to put down on PoF (lol) hard because I put down "not looking for a relationship/no commitment" and I got bunged with messages and I guessed why... so changed it to "looking for a relationship" and I guess that's why I'm scared! I obviously wouldn't mind meeting someone. I just didn't want them all thinking that meeting or talking meant I was going to be an item.
I've been trying reply to everyone but it became impossible so I've just been replying to the more interesting ones. I actually got one person who was really funny in their first message! But it petered out.
So Im talking to a few in strictly friendly way... which I hope is okay!
And one wants to take me out to the beach after me mentioning I was sick of bars. Which is sweet! I don't find anyone (anyone!) attractive, and I've been intensly loyal for a long time so I come out in a sweat thinking about it and tried to make excuses but it seems like we're on. D:
Is it AWFUL that now that there is a plan my brain has decided to pick out things I don't like about his picture? (God love him :(!!) So guilty... so then I go back on and try to look with new eyes but it's still in my head. :(
I usually end up falling in love with a persons unattractive features as it's usually their defining feature... so that gives me hope lol!
MASSIVE REPLY! SO SORRY!