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DH has kicked me and the kids out..

194 replies

Thisisfinallyit · 04/06/2014 23:06

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

OP posts:
YouAreCompletelyRight · 05/06/2014 21:03

Yes OP, please make a promise to yourself never to iron a pair of PJs ever again (unless they're your own and you happen to like them that way)

MarmiteMania · 05/06/2014 21:03

I wish i had had your strength ten years ago. I routinely received texts like that and worse from ex (after his affair), wishing cancer on me the lot. This is someone who told dd 5 that he wished her mummy was dead. Unfortunately your pig's behaviour might get worse when he feels threatened with you moving onwards and upwards.

Change your mobile number keeping a seperate phone for him so you can chose whether or not to read what he sends you and report him for it. That stopped mine in his tracks.

You have so much to look forward to. I am now remarried and my only problem is not taking my amazing dh who my kids look up to for granted. Sounds like you won't take long to get there x

thekitchenfairy · 06/06/2014 06:42

Well bloody done indeed! You are amazing.
Hope your move yesterday was successful and you had a restful nights sleep at your parents.
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Thisisfinallyit · 06/06/2014 09:21

Thank you TabbyT for that information, I really appreciate it.

Thank you everyone for all your replies and support! Means so much.

I'll admit that it felt really odd waking up in a different environment, but I still feel hopeful.

My MIL called me very late last night and she said "...As long as you're happy. He's my son and I love him but I didn't raise him to behave like this. I can only apologise on his behalf and wish you well." I told her that she's welcome any time to see the babies.

I'm 24 in two weeks time so I'm just looking forward to to that!

OP posts:
murphys · 06/06/2014 09:27

Early happy birthday to you Grin. I think you have given yourself the best present ever!

You are so still so young, and have so much of a better future ahead of you now.

Holdthepage · 06/06/2014 09:38

Congratulations Thisisfinallyit you have made a huge step towards a better life for yourself & your children.

It makes a pleasant change to hear a MIL apologising for her sons appalling behaviour.

headlesslambrini · 06/06/2014 10:11

So glad for you. Give yourself time now, no rash decisions. I also think it is good that your MIL said that. She will obviously be there for her son but hopefully she will be able to make sure he now acts in a decent manner towards you.

dramajustfollowsme · 06/06/2014 10:16

Wow, a MiL who sees past her son. That is rare.
I think you were correct in pointing out that she can still have a role to play in her dgc lives.
Did your "d"h contact you last night?

KerriB · 06/06/2014 10:27

I have lingered on here for years. But never responded to a post. I just want to say OP ......you rock.

You should feel so proud of yourself and wish id left a lot earlier than I did -well done

OhBabyLilyMunster · 06/06/2014 13:26

Stone cold legend, OP. I AM IN AWE.

DioneTheDiabolist · 06/06/2014 13:36

Well done OP.Smile. Strength and healing in the days ahead.Thanks

somedizzywhore1804 · 06/06/2014 13:39

Well done OP. What a wanker.

guinnessgirl · 06/06/2014 13:53

this is a very refreshing thread! well done OP - I wish you every happiness in the world now you're not shackled to that pisspoor excuse for a man Grin Thanks

yetwig · 06/06/2014 18:49

Just wanted to say well done for leaving him and good luck in the future :-)

BeetlebumShesAGun · 06/06/2014 20:03

Another one who is just in awe of you OP.

Congratulations and may you continue to be awesome Thanks

Groovee · 06/06/2014 20:18

Well done OP. Wishing you all the best for your future x

Koothrapanties · 06/06/2014 20:21

You are amazing op. You and your babies can be really happy now. It will feel weird for a while, but you will be so happy. You have a family of your own now, you don't need him. I wish more women were as strong as you. Well done and good luck!

Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 06/06/2014 20:21

Wow ! Your mil sounds ok - much like my ex mil. Hang on to her.

Well done chicka, your brng a strong role model x

McPhee · 07/06/2014 13:13

So glad you're free of that Knobjockey.

Here's to the rest of your life Wine

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