DH has kicked me and the kids out..

[Thisisfinallyit]

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

Agree with pp, photograph or video on phone the belongings in the house when you leave. Obviously when you dad is with you. Take documents, passports, bank statements, mortgage statement, savings, shares, wage slips, pension statement, p60, accounts if self employed, photo copy them at the library or corner shop and return if necessary. I know it's hassle but it's very important.

Hope your dad is with you.

Take care and good luck.

Good luck. Im sure everything will work out for you. I think its good you are moving away as well.

Hope you are okay, OP did say he was threatening to turn the wifi off.

Good luck with today. He sounds vile.

Good luck, OP.

Be strong Op!

The question to legals out there is whether matrimonial home rights kick in before 365 days.

Hope you had an uneventful night, a good night's sleep, and a happy, hopeful, and productive morning so far. Wishing you the very best of luck for today. It's sunny so far in the South, and tomorrow's forecast has brightened a lot, perhaps it knew you were coming. :)

When do matrimonial home rights start?

Your matrimonial home rights start from the latest of the following dates:

the date when your partner acquired the property
the date of your marriage or civil partnership, or
1st January 1968.

england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/relationship_breakdown/matrimonial_home_rights

Good luck - I hope you get away. He sounds horrible.

Your Dad is lovely to come up and get you

Hope you are OK this morning OP

Wishing you luck, OP.

Get to your parents house where you are safe and call a solicitor x

Good luck op and congratulations on your freedom from such an idiot.

You and your children will be better off

That's cool, Mango's link states that the house is yours if you want it. The 365 days rule applies to divorce so perhaps separation now will mean you can reduce legal expenses.

Good luck!

Good luck op!!!

Good luck OP. Hope you have managed to leave the house. Day 1 of the rest of a better life for you and your DC.

I love your spirit! Good on you for not putting up with this soul-destroying shit.
His attitude is horrendous.
I'm sorry you have been treated like this.
I hope you and your children go on to have a peaceful happy life. It sounds like you have a supportive family.
Get what you're due though, you're children are entitled to it.

Wonder where she is... hope you are ok !!

Hey everyone, thank you for akk your lovely replies and support!
I'm at my parents house now. I don't have internet on my phone so I couldn't update you as he had turned the WiFi off.

So last night he turned the WiFi off and started telling me how I need to pay him back for all the bills he had paid, food he had bought etc since all I did was "sit at home doing nothing all day". I still have no idea how his food was always cooked and ready for him to eat as soon as he walked through the door, or how his clothes magically appeared in his drawers/wardrobe ironed and folded or even how this house is spotless with two children, the same children who are fed, cleaned and loved when all I do is sit around all day doing nothing.

He then started telling me how no one will find me attractive with my "saggy tits" and "wrinkly belly" and all the other lovely imperfections I have. But I was good enough for him a week ago? And I like my saggy tits anyway, who cares if they flop like bunny ears they fed one gorgeous boy and still feeding my little baby. Anyway, he was being vile and tried his best to put me down. After what felt like 3 days worth of abuse, I replied with "Well, then it's jolly well good that you no longer have to see this vomit inducing body of mine any longer. Can I sleep as I have to pack tomorrow?"

I took our daughter to the guest bedroom because sharing a bed with him wasn't an option. So that was that.. I didn't see him leave for work today but he text me saying "can we talk tonight when I get in from work?" Go to hell.
My response: If it's about our children, sure. Call me on my mobile but not tonight as I'll need to settle in and unpack.

Nothing since then but I'm sure he wanted me to beg him (like I always did) to allow us to stay. I used to behave like the word evolved around him but I realised last night that it was my need to have a family of my own that blinded me.

What a vile little man, well done you! He will soon realise what he has lost and will beg for you back. Dont do it! Bloody great!!!! :)

Congratulations!

You have a wonderful new life ahead of you.

Oh very well done OP. Do you feel like a weight has been lifted? I feel like it just from reading your last post!

Great news op. I was just about to say I was in Manchester and could come and get you!

What a cunt he sounds.

Well done. Stay strong.