DH has kicked me and the kids out..

[Thisisfinallyit]

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

[DustBunnyFarmer]

More power to your elbow. So nice to come across a thread where the OP is so sanguine about a break up.

[Thisisfinallyit]

He's threatening to turn off the WiFi. This will be a long night, I can already tell.

It's fine anyway, he can enjoy these last moments of control!

[MrsMaturin]

Good luck OP, sounds like you're well out of it and can go build yourself a new life with your family.

[trikken]

Sounds like you will be much happier without him.

[noorqt]

Be very grateful you have parents to turn to and who are helping you... So many woman out there who have no one to turn to and no where to go and therefore stay in relationships where they are tormented to these types of behaviour from men. I wish you all the best. Xx

[expatinscotland]

What a cunt. Get out of there.

[unrealhousewife]

If the one year rule is correct, you should stay there until Friday and tell him you will discuss it with him on Monday. Tell him you have to get your stuff together.

It seems highly suspicious to me that he's made this announcement literally the day before the house effectively becomes yours.

[ThisFenceIsComfy]

He messaged you on whatsapp to kick you out??? Fucking hell, what a dick.

Take everything you can. Tonight when you get a chance make sure you grab yours and your 3yr olds passports. Get all paperwork.

Good luck

[AdeptusMechanicus]

That's the thing with relationships they start out with the best of intentions and then in some situations end up like this. Hope your ok op and that you get yourself and the kids out of there.

[mineofuselessinformation]

It sounds like he's pushed you to your limit.
To add to what pp have said, don't just take the paperwork you think is relevant, take it all. You can always post it back.
Change all of the passwords you know while you're at it.
Then tomorrow, get on to women's aid and a solicitor.
Good luck.

[sunbathe]

Do you have mobile wifi, op?

[Sonumb]

Good luck for the future OP ]

[raaaasss]

Hi OP. My dsis was in a very similar situation to you and I can thoroughly recommend her solicitors, Brown Turner Ross who aren't far from you. I will get names and numbers tomorrow and inbox you.. They were very supportive and seemed good advocates. Her ex also a narcissist cunt too, good luck, you have made the right decision and don't waste any more of yours and DC's time on this shriveldick. She is now so much happier & I wish the same for you.

[raaaasss]

Oh yes and make sure you take EVERYTHING docs wise. My sis's ex tried to confiscate kids' passports, hide evidence of income etc, so take any statements/correspondence you can get your hands on besides obvious birth certificates etc.

[DrawingsAndPuzzles]

Me personally, I would tell him to leave I can't believe some men are actually like this.

[HauntedNoddyCar]

Hang on a moment.

He put on pyjamas you'd ironed? And you have a 7 week old baby?

I haven't ironed a pair of pyjamas in ... Oh let me think... That's right, EVER.

He's quite, quite barmy. Do keep the Fuck Off text to show the solicitor.

The very best of luck to you :) although if you iron pyjamas with a newborn in tow you are superwoman and need no luck

[AbbeyBartlet]

I know you have to be married a year before you can get divorced. Although a court will take into account the length of the marriage when deciding about finances, I have never heard that you get the rights re the house after a year.

I have worked for a family lawyer for the last 5 years but am not one myself so am prepared to be corrected!

[Donki]

Stowe Family Law have a Manchester office - but see who can give you an appointment the soonest. Or even see both!

[fifi669]

It does sound like you're better off out if this is just the latest bit in a story of unhappiness.

If the house was his before you married and you moved in, not sure why people seem to think you sound be able to kick him out and live there when you've been married for such a short time. That sort of thing gives women a bad name.

[Donki]

(I don't think it's a right to the house exactly, but his children may have some right to live there with you - and you may have some rights to a share of the house)

[unrealhousewife]

You can't get divorced within a year of marriage, I don't know but it may mean that the you don't yet have the rights of a spouse yet in terms of property etc. I would try and hang on another day but speak to solicitors first. Tell him to go away for the weekend and cool down.

I think he's probably sought advice already and that's why he's taking action now. Hoping a legal person comes along soon.

[BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted]

I think it's general rule, that in dissolving short marriages, that is, ones lasting less than two years, the court would seek to return both parties to the financial situation they were in before marriage.

But that's not accounting for their being two children of the marriage. He's going to have to pay over about 20% of his income in child support at the very least.

[Donki]

From the CAB website.

Property and possessions

When a marriage breaks down, all property owned by you and your partner will be taken into account by the court when arriving at a financial settlement. This will include any property owned individually by yourself or your partner either before or during the marriage. If either of you attempts to hide your ownership of property or possessions, you are likely to be penalised by the court.

It can be difficult to establish ownership of household possessions acquired during marriage. If one partner gave a present to the other and this intention was clear, the gift belongs to the person it was given to.

Wedding presents are considered to belong to the partner whose friend or relative gave them, unless you and your partner agreed something different.

You will also need to sort out ownership of possessions bought jointly or bought by one partner for joint use. If you cannot agree on this, you will need to go to court, although this is likely to be the least successful way of resolving the problem. Generally, the partner with whom the children live will be expected to keep domestic goods and equipment.

[Ijustworemytrenchcoat]

I'm so sorry, what a horrible situation, I hope you are ok.

Just to echo what unrealhousewife Said the timing is very suspicious.

Do you have to have been living in the house as a married couple for a year or just been married for a year. Someone will hopefully come along who knows, you will have been married for a year by the time things are getting sorted.