DH has kicked me and the kids out..

[Thisisfinallyit]

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

[mammadiggingdeep]

Op. you see amazing and your children are lucky to have you!
Good luck! X

[scarletforya]

Good you're out of there Op.

He sounds horrible.

[Thisisfinallyit]

Thank you!
hearts I do indeed, 13 stones worth. I stopped loving gonna while ago but put it down to hormones from the pregnancy.

I couldn't care less about whether he will regret this or if he begs me to return. I also couldn't care less if he rejoiced either. I'll still show him respect as my children's father but nothing else, my mum thinks I'm crazy but he is their dad and without him I wouldn't have them. Everything else isn't of my concern.

I packed all the items I bought and anything else I contributed to the house, oh, except the microwave, he'll be needing it more than I do in sure. I took all the documents and passports too. My parents has been amazing with all of this and I really do appreciate their support.

[TessTackle]

Oh OP I'm so very proud of you. Well bloody done!
What a wankferret.

You've been so strong and collected have some

[Tellanovella]

Like someone else said, you are lucky you have a supportive family to go to. This must have been going on for a long time. It sounds like something finally snapped.
He sounds like he thought you would never leave him. I bet he was so sure of his power over you and thought that you were oh so dependant on him.
Haha you've showed him.
I bet he's in shock. Good!

[KEGirlOnFire]

You are amazing OP, good on you. And in the words of TessTackle WELL BLOODY DONE!!!

[BuzzardBird]

Wow, OP, you need to link your thread to all the posts we get on here that are in abusive relationships that just live with it. Well done you.

[Holdthepage]

I'd love to be a fly on the wall to see the reaction of this abusive man when he gets home tonight.

Well done OP, you sound amazing.

[showtunesgirl]

Well rid OP! Good for you!

[missmash]

Wow, you are handling the situation and yourself amazingly well. Your DC's are very lucky to have such a strong mother!
Good luck with all that is to come.

[TalisaMaegyr]

Well done OP, you've been incredibly strong. Does he know you've gone?

[SmashleyHop]

You are an amazingly strong woman. Wishing you and your children all the best in the world. Hope that "man" you've wiped off your shoe regrets his behavior with every breath he takes.

[RosegoldRuby]

Congratulations on starting your new life OP. I'm so happy you and your babies are away from an abusive man.
Three cheers for OP's parents, hope they are lovely and supportive and enjoy cuddling their GKs.

[VanGogh]

Congratulations OP. You are amazing!

[squaretoes]

OP you are amazing, well done. Your DC are so lucky to have such a strong role model!

[mrscumberbatch]

Wow OP.

In awe here. Talk about having your shit together.

When Dd was 7 weeks old I could barely remember how to write my name never mind take care of business the way that you are.

Kudos to you. I hope it's plain sailing from here x

[DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution]

Well done. Stay strong xx

[headlesslambrini]

Congratulations, does he know you have actually left? I have visions on him expecting you to be there when he gets home tonight

[MTWTFSS]

Congratulations for throwing out the trash! Onwards and upwards I say!

[Softlysoftlycatchymonkey]

Hey! Congratulations on the start of your new life!! Exciting times ahead

He sounds like a complete arsehole!

[hedgetrimmer]

Congrats OP,you did the right thing!x

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

Well done you!

Welcome to your fantastic new future without that millstone around your neck :o

Remember that whilst you need to sort things for the dcs, you do not have to be anything but polite and distant. You owe him nothing. Don't get drawn into talking about anything else at any point. If possible communicate only by text or email, that way you have a record.

When it comes to the financial side, remember that whatever you get will contribute to your dcs' future. I left with very little, and I do now regret not standing my ground and making sure I had more, especially since I had given up my career to raise our dcs. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Get some proper legal advice.

[LiberalLibertine]

You.Are.Awesome.

Here's to a much brighter future for you and your children, because of the brave step you've taken.

Well done.

[Inertia]

You sound amazing! Your children are very fortunate to have you (especially as their father is an abusive waste of space).

It's probably a good thing in the long run that he sent you that text- it's all evidence for the divorce.