DH has kicked me and the kids out..

[Thisisfinallyit]

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

But I am not sure how length of marriage affects this - or whether time living together beforehand has any effect.

That sort of thing gives women a bad name and a man kicking his wife and children out makes him look cool...NO, what a prize sized wanker and OP should seek legal advice and if able take the bastard to the cleaners. Any man who texts such nasty vindictive threats and name calls and throws his children out of their home, doesn't deserve any respect.

You and your children deserve better OP, good luck and happy days ahead, stay strong.

Congratulations (I think!) and good luck.

It might be worth looking into registering Matrimonial Homes Rights which will at least ensure that he can't do anything to the house (sell up, put it in someone else's name etc) until a financial settlement is agreed.

Glad your dad is going to help OP, definitely keep the message on what's app and get legal advice. Then never look back.

Onwards and upwards

Congratulations on leaving the shitbag. He sounds disgusting.

Good luck in moving and I hope you have lots of happy times living back near your family and away from that arsehole.

Hope you're just sleeping OP or feeding dc and he hasn't actually turned your Wi-Fi off.

I'm glad you're happy to leave, he sounds vile. Best of luck for tomorrow.

Good luck. Consut a solicitor in the morning and, meanwhile, keep your phone on you and - if there is any aggression - call the police. Abusive men sometimes escalate to dangerous levels when they think they are losing control. I know he told you to leave, but if you do so cheerfully rather than crying and begging to stay he might decide to try other methods to get what he wants - you in obvious fear and distress.

You can't get divorced within 365 days. Not sure what that means exactly as I'm not a lawyer but I think it might mean that the rights and privileges of marriage don't apply until after 365 days.

Where's a lawyer when you need one?

Agree with SGB if he is abusive. I'm not sure he is though, just a twat by the sound of it, and a greedy one at that. Perhaps get someone to come over. It is your house at the moment, and your childrens house and you have every right to stay there for the time being in order to take care of the children whose house it definitely is.

She's not getting divorced this week, guys! They're just separating. The whole divorce timing thing is irrelevant. How fast do you think courts move, anyway?

Mine told me I need I needed to get out of his house asap in drunken strop a few weeks ago. So I did.

Best thing I ever did.

I'm happier than I've ever been. Him? He is struggling with the reality of parenting and running a household. Something he's never had to do before I don't think he is coping very well [plays the world's smallest violin]

Good luck OP. The hardest part will be getting in the car, after that it's all onwards and upwards. It's stressful, but not as stressful as living with an abusive man child.

Good luck for later This.
I hope your move goes without incident and that happiness is waiting in the wings to greet you!

Well done, his loss your gain.

Simpson Millar have an office in Manchester, they do family law.

Good luck op, sorry phone posted before I finished. What a prize arse he is. Make sure you 3 are ok.

Hope you managed some sleep, guess that the knobend did turn the wifi off.
Post as soon as you can so we know that you and your children are safe.

Good Luck OP, I hope everything turns out the way you want it to from now on.

Your dad sounds a good one to be coming to help you.

Take it easy with a 7 week old x

Good luck OP!
Been there before, it's is worth the stress to never have to put up with his behaviour.

Hope you've managed some sleep -- good luck today.

If you can get legal advice today, you may even be able to talk to a solicitor on phone?

You will be entitled to furniture white goods etc if you keep custody .. Not sure on house situation he is certainly not sounding even handed. Suggest getting today's paper, take various photos of the house, goods etc, as evidence the stuff exists lest he deny it.

Awesome woman so you are. Thinking of you today... The first day of the life you and your DCs deserve

Hope you're ok this morning OP.

OP this sounds exactly like what happened to me. Almost 4 years later, I can't describe how much better my life and my DC's lives are now.

Very best of luck to you, it's bloody hard work at times, but the benefits trounce the negs a thousand times over.

This is awful - glad you have supportive parents who will look after you.

Good luck.

Hope you are ok OP xxx

Hope you are okay op. Believe me life is a million times better when you don't live with an arsehole! Just think you stomach won't turn when you hear the front door open.

Please post and let us know you are ok.