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DH has kicked me and the kids out..

194 replies

Thisisfinallyit · 04/06/2014 23:06

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

OP posts:
oldgrandmama · 05/06/2014 13:17

Absolutely lost in admiration of OP. What a vile and pathetic joke of a 'man' - OP is well rid. Can only reiterate what others have suggested - a really good lawyer, please OP. He can't get away with stuffing you and your sweet children financially. Well done, your lovely parents.

dollius · 05/06/2014 13:18

Play along and ask him to email you with a bill for your food and upkeep. Then you have his abuse in writing.

tipsytrifle · 05/06/2014 13:20

You made one tiny error in your first post ... when you denied being a deity? In my opinion, you are totally a Goddess!

unrealhousewife · 05/06/2014 13:23

Yes, sod staying with Mum, rent a swanky flat in a nice part of town and he can foot the bill.

Mckayz · 05/06/2014 13:24

OP, you are brilliant.

Lottapianos · 05/06/2014 13:28

What a seriously nasty, abusive, entitled little man. Seriously foul. You have done so brilliantly for standing up to him and bring so cool about the whole thing.

Be prepared for him to shit himself when he realises you have actually gone. He may try begging/pleading or may become more abusive. Follow through on what you said - do not engage with him tonight, let him stew. Enjoy an evening of peace with your parents and children, you deserve it x

PandaPicnic · 05/06/2014 13:28

i bet he wil be phoning and begging you tonight

passmethewineplease · 05/06/2014 13:29

I am so happy to read your update OP. No
t that be called you those nasty things obviously.

Obviously the type of man who will make a woman feel insecure about herself..you are so much better off without but then you already know that. Grin

Wish you lots of happy times ahead in your new life with your dc and family.

Zamboni · 05/06/2014 13:42

You are amazing OP Flowers

mrstigs · 05/06/2014 13:47

Very well done op. I don't even know you and I'm proud of you! You are worth so much more than this ridiculous excuse of a man.

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 05/06/2014 14:04

Good for you OP

Onward and upward.

We really need a pompom smiley for posts like this!

yummytummy · 05/06/2014 14:05

OP can I just ask do you think u wd have still left if u had no family to go to who would support you? Just that that makes it so much easier as so many people cant leave similar situations as they have nowhere to go and no one to come get them and wish they did.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 05/06/2014 14:07

Well done, OP. This is where life gets better for you and your kids. Smile

FunkyBoldRibena · 05/06/2014 14:16

Well done OP - magnificently handled.

defineme · 05/06/2014 14:29

Are you in the situation you describe yummytummy ?

50shadesofknackered · 05/06/2014 14:34

Good for you op, well done for getting yourself and your children out of this situation and away from this cock!

Tellanovella · 05/06/2014 14:37

YUMMYTUMMY has a point.
It's not as easy for some. But there is usually a solution. I hope that anyone who feels trapped, can find someone to support them into seeing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel for them too.

yummytummy · 05/06/2014 14:38

Defineme I was in that situation and almost wish had stayed in the physically mentally abusive relationship as now I am completely alone and have no support from anywhere. I hav spent my life wishing I had a family who cared. Am glad some people do have that

Hurr1cane · 05/06/2014 14:40

Congratulations OP :)

D0oinMeCleanin · 05/06/2014 14:41

I'm sorry you are in that situation YummyTummy. It sounds cliche but have you tried joining any local clubs or classes to make friends?

I found CAB to be great, they pointed me in the right direction and held my hand through it all. I didn't have family who could take me in, no-one had the space, but I was lucky enough to have a supportive family to fall back on/ask favours from when I needed to.

smoothieooo · 05/06/2014 14:50

You are.... fantastic OP. I wish you and your DC all the very best for the future Thanks

Mckayz · 05/06/2014 14:53

YummyTummy, maybe you could go to the Mumsnet local section for your area and see if there any groups you could go to? Just to make some friends.

TheMuppetsIsWhereIShouldBe · 05/06/2014 14:55

Congrats OP!

Bowlersarm · 05/06/2014 14:56

OP well bloody done. Don't look back, and don't have doubts.

Yummytummy, that sounds difficult. I hope your situation improves.

JennyZ1 · 05/06/2014 14:56

I wish you luck in your new journey. It might be hard but well worth it.