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DH has kicked me and the kids out..

194 replies

Thisisfinallyit · 04/06/2014 23:06

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

OP posts:
restandpeace · 05/06/2014 14:58

Good riddens!!!! Throw a party to celebrate when you are settled.

NatalieMc82 · 05/06/2014 15:00

Good for you Thisisfinallyit!
I'm a few weeks on from being out of a relationship that was making me incredibly unhappy, and I am genuinely ok..
Hope right now you and your babies are well on your way away from someone who was treating you so badly.
Just wanted to wish you all the best in the world..

Whereisegg · 05/06/2014 15:06

In a weird way, this a bloody lovely thread!

Thanks and Wine op!

Glitterkitten24 · 05/06/2014 15:17

I bloody love this thread! I could do a dance for you OP, you sound so strong and empowered and free!
Please keep a note of this so that you can come back and remind yourself of how good it feels if you ever need reminded.

Good riddence!

Simile · 05/06/2014 15:23

Don't forget the loft, shed and garage OP. Wink

AdoraBell · 05/06/2014 15:36

Well done OP, love your response to the textGrin and so glad your parents are supportive.

Cake and Wine for and Thanks for your parents.

tinypumpkin · 05/06/2014 15:40

I am wishing you and your children all the happiness in the world. You deserve it. You have done amazingly. Sounds like you have some great support too. You and your children deserve so much better, truly.

hellsbellsmelons · 05/06/2014 15:57

Well done on getting away.
Cheering you on from here!
Here's to your wonderful new life without abusive arseholes in it Wine

MexicanSpringtime · 05/06/2014 16:21

And congratulations to your parents for not only being supportive right now but having taught you the difference between love and abuse and the dignity that so many of us lack.

dramajustfollowsme · 05/06/2014 16:21

You are probably running on adrenalin. Watch out for that running out and you not feeling so strong. You can do this. He is a hideous creature. He should be worshipping you. You have given him two children.
Hope you took copies of bank statements etc going back in time to when you were living together too.
Do get as much as you and your children are entitled to, for their sake as much as yours.
At least with your baby being bf, you won't have to hand over such a tiny babe to this idiot. Will your ds be safe during contact time? Oils he become physically abusive or is he all talk?

ThaneOfScunthorpe · 05/06/2014 16:34

You're an incredible woman, OP!

SocialMediaAddict · 05/06/2014 17:41

Go you! Get a good solicitor.

MagpieMama · 05/06/2014 17:51

Well done OP! Wishing you and your babies a very happy life Thanks

oldgrandmama · 05/06/2014 19:23

Yes, you're an inspiration, OP. But do get a shit hot, rottweiler of a solicitor. Not just for you but your darling children as well. Your soon to be ex sounds just beyond vile and foul. Your new life starts right NOW and I promise, it will be immeasurably better.

MintyCoolMojito · 05/06/2014 19:44

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DorothyBastard · 05/06/2014 20:06

Good for you OP, keep hold of your anger and strength.

Lweji · 05/06/2014 20:09

Wow. Just wow.

At him and how you reacted. :)

Keep his messages and talk to a solicitor. I'm sure that should fall under domestic abuse.

What a prick.

rodgette · 05/06/2014 20:19

just a quick salute and by the way...

I think your response is nothing short of EPIC

I wish you and your children every future happiness :)

GO YOU !!!!

TabbyT · 05/06/2014 20:23

Hi I am a family lawyer and I think the confusion has arisen because you have to be married for a whole year before you can petition for divorce.

The way the division of assets works on divorce is that even things that are in one party's sole name (such as the house in this case) they are all put into the "matrimonial pot" so to speak and are available for division between you. So you do have rights as far as the house is concerned because you are married and these kick in as soon as the marriage takes place.

The length of the marriage will be one of the factors taken into consideration when the finances are sorted out but the overriding factor is needs, particularly the needs of any children. The length of pre-marital cohabitation is also taken into account.

You should however register your rights to the home with the Land Registry. Your solicitor can do this for you.

Good luck!

pissedglitter · 05/06/2014 20:27

Well done OP

YouAreCompletelyRight · 05/06/2014 20:37

Good luck OP. You are fab.

I'd like to "like" TabbyT!s post also too much FB

CornChips · 05/06/2014 20:46

Good for you. :)

FiveExclamations · 05/06/2014 20:46

\O/ \O/ \O/ \O/ \O/

Have some cheerleaders. Well done Grin

SoleSource · 05/06/2014 20:48

Keep all texts etc from him, are you moving by the sea?

Love to see his face, bet he is crying, sad twat ha!

grumpasaur · 05/06/2014 20:55

I know this is SO not the point- but, you IRON pyjamas???

God I am lazy.

(And, op, big smiles!!!!! Well outta that one, hooray!!!!)