DH thinks I am being antisocial and deliberately avoiding his company in the evening.

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I'm after some advice, I've told him that I'm not being antisocial but he won't have it and thinks I'm doing it to avoid him.
Sorry if it's boring with timings and possibly tmi. I get in from work at about 5/5:30 depending on how busy I've been and I go straight into the kitchen to cook the evening meal, we're all hungry obviously so I don't really hang about, by the time we've eaten it it's about 6-6:30 ish, I guess. I normally go into the living room and watch a bit of tv with DH, a single programme, say about 45 minutes?

This is where it gets a bit tmi, sorry. I do the washing up and tidying away etc and make a packed lunch for DS and then I usually need a poo (cringe). I want to go upstairs to the toilet and perhaps have a shower, it's usually about 7:15/7:30 by this time. DH wants me to watch tv with him. He says he doesn't want to be alone in the living room anymore as he's had enough of watching it alone during the day, he says I should wait till 11pm when he usually goes to bed before I have my shower etc.
I've told him its not me avoiding him, I just need to go to the toilet then and want a quick shower earlier. What can I say to convince him?

My retired dad, and much older, ferries grandchildren around, goes food shopping and lifts the table and puts away the dishes (they have a washing machine).
He can't and won't cook, but he can do very basic foods.
He used to make us kids breakfast too.

He used to take us on holiday by himself while my mum was working.

I've put up with some crap (no pun intended) but if any man ever told me I had to sleep facing him I'd tell him to get f**ked quite frankly!

Crying at Bluestocking's post

I'm sorry you feel mocked OP, but I also hope you see this as a wake up call. DH was made redundant in January and I've barely been into the kitchen or supermarket since, and that's having done all the cooking and shopping previously as I work fewer hours than him usually.

Love commode idea l

ask him to give you a sofa bath after to save the shower?

Sorry, its not funny if its true. he sounds like an arse

Maybe op can get some adult nappies and fill 'em while sitting next to DH. Maybe he'll offer to change her which obviously can be done while they're still watching telly , therefore facilitating quality time together .

Wow.
He's hit the jackpot, hasn't he? A working partner, who also cooks, cleans, and makes packed lunches,whilst he watches tv.

What's his complaint again????

Op I'm actually really hoping you're on the wind up, because if not it's incredible how accepting you are of this bizarre and controlling behaviour.

How old is your ds?

Poo troll. Cough

The thought had crossed my mind. Never seen a poo thread before, but they have mythical status on MN.

Stepford Wife ?

posting purely so I can read the deletion message

Referring back to a much earlier post - re he 'can't cook, he burns everything'. IME food burns when the person cooking it, isn't paying sufficient attention - in my case (rarely) it's usually because I'm trying to do another job at the same time; in my daughters' case, (frequently) it's usually because they're not really interested and 'forget' to keep an eye on what's happening in the pan. I can guess which reason applies to your H. Burning food isn't a genetic characteristic.

hoping I'm in time for the deletion message

You have to sleep facing him otherwise he feels ignored? Really? He sounds like a deeply unpleasant whiner.

Op how long have you been together, and how old is your child/children?

Really? Is this what one looks like? I thought it would be a little more...erm...creative!

Why?

Oooohhhh I would employ a cleaner and buy ready meals for every night if the week as well as those little packs of cereal and plastic plates and knife and forks and spoons.

No way would I bust a gut after being at work all day and then be told when I can shit and shower even if he had been playing golf with Mother Theresa, Florence Nightingale and Ghandi all day.

Bloody kids can make their own pack ups too!!

So, he's in his 50's - that means about another 25 years or so of all this crap, if you stay with this lazy git.

Why?