DH thinks I am being antisocial and deliberately avoiding his company in the evening.

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I'm after some advice, I've told him that I'm not being antisocial but he won't have it and thinks I'm doing it to avoid him.
Sorry if it's boring with timings and possibly tmi. I get in from work at about 5/5:30 depending on how busy I've been and I go straight into the kitchen to cook the evening meal, we're all hungry obviously so I don't really hang about, by the time we've eaten it it's about 6-6:30 ish, I guess. I normally go into the living room and watch a bit of tv with DH, a single programme, say about 45 minutes?

This is where it gets a bit tmi, sorry. I do the washing up and tidying away etc and make a packed lunch for DS and then I usually need a poo (cringe). I want to go upstairs to the toilet and perhaps have a shower, it's usually about 7:15/7:30 by this time. DH wants me to watch tv with him. He says he doesn't want to be alone in the living room anymore as he's had enough of watching it alone during the day, he says I should wait till 11pm when he usually goes to bed before I have my shower etc.
I've told him its not me avoiding him, I just need to go to the toilet then and want a quick shower earlier. What can I say to convince him?

There is nothing 'antisocial' or unsociable at going off to have a bath at 7.30 when you've been at work all day and then doing chores in the evening.

He's a lazy grumpy arse who needs to sort himself out.

Sorry - this is in relationships!

Maybe you should start a new threa based on the controlling things he does

I think he needs a hobby besides the golf.

I have it! Cookery classes!

Blue you should write for a living, seriously

DamnLies, everyone should be able to poo when and where they want. It's like a basic human right or something.

I think it is a bit anit social to disappear and have a bath at around 7.30 if it takes a while. Fine the odd time but if this was a routine every night it would annoy me a bit

Really Vivienn?

WhoTF is Justin Lee Collins?

Hearts he's a very unfunny comedian who badly abused his girlfriend. Have a look on youtube , there's some shocking recordings of him saying dreadful stuff to her.

Justin LC is that comedian with the Brizzle accent who was up in court for some sort of harrassment of his girlfriend.

I think it is a bit anit social to disappear and have a bath at around 7.30 if it takes a while. Fine the odd time but if this was a routine every night it would annoy me a bit

The OP also said she has a shower, not a bath. I can't imagine that a shower takes more than 15 min in all, including getting dressed.

DP and I spend the evening together but it's a lot shorter than the OP's evening. If we were all home by 5:30 I'm not sure we'd spend all evening on the sofa...

Lweji she hasn't actually said what happens after she has the shit/shower combo.

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Ah come on, come on. This is a joke right?

Why don't you tell him that you'll have a shower whenever the fuck you feel like it?

He sounds ghastly...lazy and controlling. Ugh!

I'm hoping so!

If this is not a joke, there is so much wrong with this and it's so sad that op can't see it.

Husband doesn't work but also does nothing round the house. Meanwhile, op works full time, then comes home, does all the cooking and all the cleaning. Take a bit of time for herself and husband moans.

Oh and he also insists that she sleeps facing him.

And his redeeming features are?

If he's at home all day when you are working full time he needs to start doing some of the jobs and preferably to have dinner ready for when you get home. Give him Delia's three part Cookery Course and tell him that anyone who can read and follow instructions can cook.

My dad is retired and my mum works 3 days a week. She is considerably younger than him but he does all the housework and cooking and stuff because he's at home. He even does it on the days she's at home too because he's retired and it's just a nice thing to do, especially as for years she was chief cook and bottle washer at home with the kids. That just makes sense. I think your husband needs to learn to cook and you need to tell him to get a life.

It sounds funny but really, dictating when someone can open their bowels is extremely controlling, totally mad, quite disturbing etc etc etc .

Op are you there? Can you see how this is not right ?

So um, why would you not want to avoid him in the evenings?

Do you actually, really, honestly think that who his golf partners are entitles a man to be a total waste of space and a bully to boot? It's called bathing in reflected glory and it really does not make him, personally, a better person, believe it or not.

He seriously lets you go to work all day and then do the cooking and tidying without lifting a finger?? That's awful OP although I have to say you are enabling him but not pulling him up on it. You need to get him sorted and doing his fair share.

shit/shower combo this has made my day!

This man belongs somewhere back in the 1950s. Tell him if he wants your company he has to make that one tiny concession of learning to cook and wash up.

Please tell me he at least does the food shopping?

Also, please tell us the relevance of his golfing crew. Was that a sarcastic comment by you or do you genuinely believe he's achieved something important by playing golf with supposedly VIPs?