DH thinks I am being antisocial and deliberately avoiding his company in the evening.

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I'm after some advice, I've told him that I'm not being antisocial but he won't have it and thinks I'm doing it to avoid him.
Sorry if it's boring with timings and possibly tmi. I get in from work at about 5/5:30 depending on how busy I've been and I go straight into the kitchen to cook the evening meal, we're all hungry obviously so I don't really hang about, by the time we've eaten it it's about 6-6:30 ish, I guess. I normally go into the living room and watch a bit of tv with DH, a single programme, say about 45 minutes?

This is where it gets a bit tmi, sorry. I do the washing up and tidying away etc and make a packed lunch for DS and then I usually need a poo (cringe). I want to go upstairs to the toilet and perhaps have a shower, it's usually about 7:15/7:30 by this time. DH wants me to watch tv with him. He says he doesn't want to be alone in the living room anymore as he's had enough of watching it alone during the day, he says I should wait till 11pm when he usually goes to bed before I have my shower etc.
I've told him its not me avoiding him, I just need to go to the toilet then and want a quick shower earlier. What can I say to convince him?

I was going to post something about how jaw dropping this scenario is, but not too sure now. Is this a wind up by any chance?

I'm not new, I've name changed for this. I guess I was embarrassed to admit my DH won't let me go upstairs to poo. Rightly so. I wanted advice, I can see that you all think I should insist on going upstairs and showering when I want (now) instead of at 11pm.

No, we all think you should insist he gets off his arse and does his share.

Very odd thread.

You needed us to tell you that your DH shouldn't be dictating when you poo? Really? Are you sure?

I think we would be suggesting a bit more than that OP.

Yeah, just point out to him if he did the clean-up whilst you had your break and shower, there'd be loads more time for TV watching.

Get a TV in the bedroom, too, so you can drop off if you're tired.

Is that all you've taken from this thread?

How old are your kids? Is this the kind of example you want for them?

Oh stop it.

"Yeah, why don't you come in here, babe?!"

I still think OP stays upstairs afterwards too, tbh. I think she couldn't be bothered with him and the poo&shower is a good excuse. And now he's twigged.

I am amazed! Sorry your husband does nothing, except maybe play golf all day. Says he can't get another job, and doesn't do any voluntary work, and also doesn't do housework or even cook.
Then he has the cheek to complain that you have a shower at 7 ish instead of waiting until 11pm and after he goes to bed?

He doesn't want a partner but a servant!

I can't believe any husband (or wife for that matter) would dictate what their partner does in the evening - surely grown ups don't behave like this or am I missing something.

My DH and I might sit together to watch a tv programme about once a week - otherwise we always do our own thing in the evening in separate rooms, whether that is working, reading, going out, showering, pooing or whatever else life involves. I wouldn't dream of expecting my DH to sit with me.

Surely this can't be for real ???

Really? Next time he needs to poo or shower I suggest you go and harass him about how fucking inconvenient it is because he should be entertaining you with his witty conversation & telling you all about his boring famous friends. God, he sounds like a spoilt brat - tell him to grow up!

This is an odd thread.

Please tell me this is a wind up?

Most normal people would not even venture an opinion regarding when their partner does a poo. (would they???)

Is he jeremy clarkson?

How old are your children? I'm not talking about your husband here, just to clarify.

He sounds like a lazy git. I'd be doing more than avoiding him in the evenings - I'd be avoiding him 24/7

This is the most bizarre thread I've read in a long time. OP, your tone of voice is so entirely passive and 'men, eh - what can you do?' that I'm not sure why you've posted here at all. When you can poo seems the least of your worries!