I'm a fucking mug

[ReallySadFace]

Dh, who I have posted about before (name changed) has just fucking grabbed me again and bruised my neck and given me a fat lip. This is after hitting me around the face with cushions after I warned him about touching me and throwing my keys at me hard.

All he has done all day is argue with me and scream at me and ruined my plans with my children. One min he's all apologetic and then he's a nasty cunt when he realises it doesn't wash with me anymore.

I have asked him to leave, so many times I've lost count but he won't go. He refuses. I'm going to have to leave tomorrow with my children :(

Please tell me you're not taking him on holiday.

She said 'to try and go on my own with dc'.

No I am not intending to go with him.

I really don't want to go to court, I was hoping he would plead guilty.

I have had contact with him even though I shouldn't

OP, please be really careful. Having contact with him could really really go in his favour in a court case, you know. It could be deemed that you really aren't in danger at all or you wouldn't voluntarily see him.

Please please think again about contact.

I am not in constant contact. Just replied to a couple of texts asking how the dc's are and that he misses them. Thing is, I know he's just trying to sweeten me up. I know how he works.

Part of me would love to believe he is genuinely sorry and I would have thought that about the man I married. Except he's not that man anymore

You are very impressive for a wee nipper of a 27 year old! You have been so strong and done completely the right thing, both got you and your children.

They can't grow up with that as a role model, imagine if your son grew up to treat girls like that, or your daughters he up accepting that as treatment from their boyfriend.

Be very proud of yourself.

Part of me would love to believe he is genuinely sorry and I would have thought that about the man I married. Except he's not that man anymore

For starters, If this man was genuinely sorry he would've pleaded guilty and took what punishment he was given!

Don't fall for his crap,OP! You are worth so much more!

I know that going to court is grim in so many ways, not least the organisation of attending and how shitty it is if it gets cancelled...however, whilst I wouldn't want in any way to get your hopes up, it's not unknown for people to change their plea just before/just into the actual session in court. Keeping a 'not guilty' plea is just another way of exerting control, and for making you suffer... but then when they're faced with actually having to lie in court, they occasionally give in.

So whilst going through with it is absolutely vital, there is a chance you may not have to. Be prepared for the worst, etc. And you've done brilliantly to get this far.

Do go on holiday, I think it will be a nice break. I agree with the others that you need to stop replying to him.