DH said no more tattoos

[ICanSeeTheSun]

My vision is to turn my back into a canvas, I believe tattoo are art, so far I have 4 on my back.

I love them and it is a part of me.

He can't stop you unless you are expecting him to pay for them, in which case he can decline to do so.

But he's entitled to say he doesn't like them much and wishes you wouldn't have any more. Which of course you can disregard or not.

But if you need to "save up" for them, meaning that you as a family are likely to have to go without other more necessary things in order to afford them, then perhaps you need to accept that its not a priority?

multiplemama how rude and inappropriate of her!

Not quite the same but Dh has members of his family who are extremely homophobic. I raved a bit saying I would not let incoming dd be around that sort of language or attitude but reading your post makes me realise that she needs to learn how to challenge those horrible boring old stereotypes and learn to celebrate diversity.

select true, we don't really know do we. So many different ways the conversation could have gone. The two tattoos must have been miniscule for him to not notice is my only conclusion . He might have thought she wasn't serious, or hoped she would change her mind. Who knows. I'm kind of intrigued but I will have to live with the fact my curiosity will never be satisfied.

With regards not making a decision on what she wants, that's quite common though. I still haven't, and probably won't for a few years yet. It's just a general idea in my head and I don't know how I want it executed. My Dh knows exactly what he wants though, it's just a small matter of a baby on the way that has put a halt to any spending on non essentials!

I know what you mean about taking time for an idea to clarify itself. My friend has some beautiful tattoos and she has spent at least months and sometimes longer getting the idea and the design "just so". In relation to the OP, I meant that if she hadn't yet gone into any detail about a design (because she couldn't yet as she hasn't decided!), her DP might have assumed she was talking about another small one similar to what it sounds as though she has already.

Although reading back through her posts it does sound as though he is quite anti-tattoos in general, which perhaps suggests that he fell in love with her despite her pre-existing tattoos but didn't fully appreciate how important extending her body art is to her. Whether that is from burying his head in the sand and hoping she would change, wilfully choosing to disregard her views and hoping he could change her (subtle difference ) or poor communication on the OP's part, we'll never know.

goosey I'm curious as to where your husband wants his visible tattoo that he wouldn't be able to hide it? I'm tattooed down to my wrists and can easily cover up when necessary. I have colleagues and acquaintances who don't have a clue about any of my tattoos.

If he's thinking about neck, hands or face then fair enough.

Her son became my ds' best friend so she essentionally had no choice but to acknowledge me. Her son actually liked my "pictures". I just make sure to let my son know that even though some parents aren't nice that doesn't mean he can't be friends with their children.

DH is Bi and his parents are traditonal and homophobic (however they just blantly refuse to acknowledge or discuss it), it's a "taboo" subject they don't however they are exposed to a lot of judgy comments luckily my kids are still young enough to be raised open-minded.

He wants it on his lower arm. He could cover it up but it would require a change in the way he tends to dress. We did have a discussion about whether he woud do this and, if so, what was the point. He could not decide whether he would or not. If he covered it up, fine, it would be an entirely personal issue for him. If not, I am back to questioning what he is doing.

I agree that on paper my world does not sound the most tolerant and nice place to be. It isn't at times. However, I can't believe that it's that different from the world that many of us live in and I am simply not robust enough to carry on regardless of the attitudes around me, particularly where we have a degree of control over those.

You're both adults, if defacing your body is more important than your relationship, so be it

My husband and I are both adults. If changes to either of our physical appearances were more important than the relationship based on our love for each other, then we would be up shit creek.

I just can't get how this is such an issue for some people. I have no tattoos; my husband does. Outside a situation where he wanted to use money we couldn't spare for a tattoo, it's not even a subject for debate - it's his body!

A pp mentioned about keeping her hair long for her DH..eh?? When I recently asked my husband's opinion about getting my hair cut shorter, he looked at me completely baffled and said.." but it's your hair - do what you like". Which is correct, obviously.

If your relationship is only (or mostly) based on physical attraction and would founder without it, then what happens when you are old / if you get ill / become disabled? I am so glad I'm not the partner of lots of posters on this thread!

LOL at keeping hair long for DP, that sort of relationship would make me feel trapped! DP loves short hair on me, like chin length short but I prefer it long (at the moment) so that's the way it's staying. I'd never alter my appearance to suit him! He also loves my hair bright red which I used to have but it was damaging my hair too much so I'm back to my natural brunette colour. You shouldn't have to keep things a certain way because your partner prefers them, that's quite sad.

My DH probably prefers long hair. He's never really said but I have it how I want it.

It's currently long and bright red.

My DH prefers it the length it is now (middle of back) as do I (but used to have a pixie cut) because I can do so many hairstyles with it currently loving the Elsa style (Disney Frozen). I used to have mine a torquoise colour - I loved it but DH hated it (he prefered blood red) in the end I went back to my natural burnette colour like downstairs but because I was PG and became too much of hassle to touch it up all time. I am thankful that I've managed to completely avoid bleach!

I really want purple hair but I'm not sure it will work as I'm naturally dark brown. I've managed to avoid bleach too and I'm not really sure I want to use bleach.

Wow, am so surprised at the amount of shocking stereotypes and tattoo snobbery on this thread!

I am staunchly anti tattoo for my own body - piercings you can take out, tattoos are there forever and I know I wouldn't pick one that would last in my heart for 40 more years!

However it's really irrelevant whether I would have a tattoo, it's not all about my (or others on here!) tastes! It's about respect for others, looking beyond stereotypes and celebrating difference and individuality.

It's an art form, and yes you get badly done ones, right through to the most amazing body art that takes your breath away.

Am intrigued to know about costs, not something I'd considered before :)

"Wow, am so surprised at the amount of shocking stereotypes and tattoo snobbery on this thread!"

If this represents a small sample of society you can see why many companies don't like their customer facing staff to be visibly covered in tattoos.

When I was growing up (1960s) only rough people and sailors had tattoos, but I know loads of "naice" people with tattoos so clearly isn't the case now. I would hazard a guess that it still isn't mainstream for people my age to have tattoos though.

Heavily tattooed people are not attractive to me, but that is just personal taste, but I admit that I would find someone who was heavily tattooed and with multiple piercings rather threatening because they just look so scary.

I work in a face to face role and have my short sleeves on all the time as it's hot where I work so my sleeve is always on show. People always say it's older people that don't like them but that's who I get the most compliments off! They always comment how different they are from back years ago and how well done they are. Generally from customers, they are always really positive and nice!

misc Most of the good places are min £60 an hour. You can get cheapie tattoos at home but they are generally that cheap for a reason i.e the tattooist is self taught, no license and the tattoos are crap and have no technique.

Bleaching is too much on hair I agree! Purple wouldn't work over brunette, you'd have to lighten it to at least a mid blonde colour to take the purple but multiple is right, having bright hair is a pain in the arse to keep up!

My lighthouse was £90 and took about 2 hours. It's about 10cm tall.

While I was having that done a guy was having his sleeve coloured in and he did 0900-1230 and came back to do 1330-1730. I couldn't sit still for so long.

DH is a sailor and has no tattoos due to a skin condition. But almost all of his friends do and have had them done all over the world. Some incredible stories behind them.

My tattooist charges £80 per hour but doesn't charge for design time. I go for large, intricate pieces - usually several 2-3 hour sessions

Some artists charge by the piece, but most seem to quote hourly rates. I've paid between £70 and £85 an hour. Prices vary, but tend to get more expensive the nearer London you go, up to £100 an hour. A lot of artists do day rates for long sittings, which work out slightly cheaper per hour but obviously they're only worthwhile if you want a big piece! For world-famous artists like Shige in Japan or similar, you can be looking at over £300 an hour.

I've done all-day sittings, Mckayz. I found them not so bad on my arms, surprisingly. It depends on the tattooist as well as the body area too - some seem to have a heavier hand than others, or use heavier gauge needles, or run their machine harder. My first tattoo was an all-dayer on my upper arm, and was like being licked by kittens compared to 3 hours on my ribs, which was a killer.

We're going to the Manchester tattoo convention in August. Very tempted to get something done there. Still waiting though for them to release an artist list.

ooh, you should! Is that the Tattoo Tea Party? Usually seems to draw some great artists and looks like a fun event as well.

I usually go to the Doncaster convention. Nigel Kurt used to do some of my tattoos at £60 an hour, then my regular tattooist charged £85 and my other tattooist (the one in Germany charges €140 an hour).

My back took one sitting and just over 10 hours... I fell asleep! And for added detail a few week later took 4 hours. My arms I did in sitting, both feet in one sitting and my ribs took 4 hours.

I'm dying for some more work done now... I got that itchy feeling!

Nigel Kurt does lovely work - gorgeous B&G portraits.

But what's wrong with sailors don't they work and contribute to society? My brother was in the Navy for a while. I guess by rough people you mean wife beaters and murderers? I know that is my mother's definition - only people in jail have tattoos apparently.

I got mine done in New Zealand and they were done by the piece NZ $180 each which is very cheap compared to Europe. I was thrilled at her work though - my pieces are all done in a Chinese art / calligraphy style and she nailed it. The place we would have gone to in the Netherlands is about 250 Euro an hour! I nearly died. Dh's best friend is having all his ones done there.

There is a big tattoo convention in Rotterdam every year where we currently live and we haven't been yet but I hope to pop back for a holiday next year and go. It's supposed to be very good.

Hair wise, I have never dared go pink but I have always wanted to. Or bright red. Been blonde once which was fun but never suited me. I have gone dark red many times and black whch was fab, but work again requires me to be on the Conservative side (sigh). I liked Kelly Osborne's hair as well, the lilac was lovely.

given that there is such a bad public reaction to tatoos- is that what makes them so appealing?

Trouble is tattoos are so fashioable that they have lost their "edginess". Does that make them less appealling?

I don't have any tattoos neither does my OH, I wouldn't choose a partner who thinks tattoos are a good idea.

I had hoped too, by the way, to go pink whilst on maternity leave - now going back to work six months earlier has put that plan on hold! We have been busy planning our tattoos to celebrate the baby's arrival though which has been exciting. Dh has been researching and apparently there is a very good tattoo parlour where we are moving to yay.