Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

jesy so glad it's going well for you. Don't be nervous. Alcohol is the solution

Dont

My trouble is I like him more than he likes me oh not to mention I might be pregnant which would be a disaster .

He is going away soon and my mind will be running away with it self.

don't nice to see u back. folk was going away for the night yes.

jesy I'm sure things are fine. it is hard. I've just stayed at sporty's and now won't see him for two weeks. I like to know what I'm doing so I'm itching to make arrangements for then but I'm going to leave it (for now at least) and let him think about doing it instead. let's see how long I hold out!

My Mates think he using me but I've been unwell recently and he checked I'm ok in the morning my ex never did that.

Hi All - have just NC purposely to join this thread. Have been following it since about thread 11 and have finally plucked up the courage to venture into OLD!

Never ever done it before so was wondering if I could PM a few of you with the blurb I intend on using. Worried it makes me sound a bit too scary/over-confident (which I'm not!)

A bit about me - 35, divorced a few years, no children, a couple of flings with inappropriate arses and now finally ready to get back into the saddle

Thanks

The replies are dwindling. And so it begins :(

Soda - hi! - I would say that implies you're looking for casual sex type relationships -
It's the use of 'fling' and 'saddle' men will pounce on that implication so if that's not what you're looking for maybe re-word it

UrsulaBuffay -

Ursula - that's not the blurb I was intending on using, was just introducing myself to you lot

At the stage where I'm wanting a relationship again and no flings. Do you mind if I PM it you? Total novice at this

I think there's always a slight imbalance in relationships. There's always someone with stronger feelings, I guess.

I'm wondering why I deliberately sabotage relationships if I think I'm getting emotionally close. I behave as badly as possible and say awful things to push them away. I don't know why.

dontcallmehon22 - if you're the one with the stronger feelings, you're best backing away from it to save your pride.
Maybe the deliberate sabotage is because subconsciously, you're scared of getting hurt.

I agree with Neil. It's self preservation.

Pahahahahaha sorry Soda! Ha that's made me chuckle!

I can look at anything you want but I'm not exactly successful at attracting relationship types myself, my own profile is pretty acerbic but accurate

PM sent Ursula! Honest feedback much appreciated - thanks v much :)

Not sure how to respond he was a bit quiet todAy so I thought right ask is Monday still on ,
Waiting for rejection text but no, he say yes defiantly do you want to come straight after work ?
Normally as he has gym I go for walk or sit in park lol
Silly but a bit excited lol
But means I have to get ready while doing tea bathing the kids and after baby gym

don't I think it is better to take that step back too. I think, well I know, I say things sometimes to test a little and see what the answers are. and have always been guilty of that.

I know I've felt giddy about sporty but don't know if he feels as intense but i know he does like me a lot. gosh the way he looks at me sometimes does make me melt a little. but I took a step back and I'm still having a great time and don't feel that I'm letting myself get as emotionally invested. just in case.

I'd like to think its going the right way but who knows.

soda You can PM me if you like...I'll critique your blurb.

Need opinions

Sweeping Mr IT straight after work so plan is
Minimal make up at work plan is leave hair to dry naturally I've tried today
Redo make up before school run and freshen up as I leave oh plus baby wipes to freshen up to.
Change of clothes at about 5pm
It's been over a week sin e I saw him and he asked if I can see him earlier
So bit excited lol

PM sent Child - thanks v much and you can be brutally honest

Hello everyone.

Yes, dont I've been away for the weekend in the beautiful sunshine.

For those who have forgotten/missed it/give a shit... I have been away for the weekend. My boyfriend and I left early on Saturday morning to day a day trip to a beautiful historic market town and planned to drive back to his for the night.

But instead, I booked us into a 5 star B&B for the night as a bit of a treat/surprise. It was beautiful and so relaxing. It ended up being one of those weekends that could have been a fortnight away for the way you feel when you return.

Actually, we went somewhere today and while we were there, out of the blue he said, "Do you know what we should do? We should come back here with the kids." He meant mine. He doesn't have any. Oddly, I was thinking that exact thing just before he said it, but I didn't want to suggest it in case it sounded a bit, you know, much.

It was a great success. He'd emailed me by the time I got home to thank me for a fantastic weekend and tell me that he loves me. Ahh

How lovely folk!

oh folk I'm so pleased for you. what a lovely weekend. that update has really made me smile. hope for us all then

It's lovely actually.

Last night we were out having dinner and I said I thought I might take the children there for the weekend because it was a beautiful place and there was loads to do there.

He doesn't live too far away and as I was saying it, I was thinking how nice it would be if he joined us for some of it (not the whole thing, of course), just as I was thinking it he said, "will you all come and see me while you are here". So I suggested lunch/dinner and he said that would be perfect.

There have been a few times this weekend where he's said something, just as I've been thinking it - about all sorts of things really. Which I think is quite nice, because it means we think along the same lines about a number of things. And he definitely shares my 'social attitude', which I've realised is more important than anything.

He's quite perceptive too, it's quite unnverving. Sometimes he comes across as being such a simple chap. But he really isn't. While we were having dinner last night, I had a fleeting thought of "this isn't going to last". He's moving soon to a much nicer and more vibrant area and hopes he will make more friends and have more of a social life than he does currently. Which I hope he will too.

But, in doing so, I'm also aware that he could meet someone else - someone younger, more attractive, and, more importantly, someone who is free more frequently than alternate weekends. The fleeting thought was that, he will meet women he finds attractive, and if he does meet someone else, I hope he tells me immediately. It was only a fleeting thought that passed as quickly as it arrived, but he saw it. He said that just for a second there was a look of something 'evil' in my eyes. I just said it was nothing and that I was tired, but it was quite an 'evil' thought against myself, I suppose. That I wouldn't be enough.

Although it's not even about that. If he meets someone who lives close to him it's just opportunity/proximity/frequency of contact that could mean it happens.