Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

I slept with my DP on our first date last year and a few of our subsequent dates... We're still together

Here's the thread!

I wouldn't shag on a first date but that's just me, and having shagged on the 3rd date with mr Tinder I'd probably edit as long as possible now

I ended up canceling my coffee date with mr hunky, as he sent me a completely unsolicited cock pic the night before!
I just said WHY? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!

I've shown all my friends and laughed

I'd shag on a first date. Although, on reflection, never with someone I'd like to see myself dating.

That's weird, I've only just realised that!

I save myself for the second or third then...

Oh, room is booked btw

Actually Folksgirl I'd be the same. The more I like someone the longer I wait.

I think it'd depend on circumstances wouldn't it?
If you have an instant attraction to each other, then why deny yourselves a decent night because of etiquette, manners or what impression it might give? There's no point in beating about the bush, if that's what both people want, then why not?

I've never DTD first date, I did it second date with Mr OMG because I wanted too, he didn't ask or even suggest it, I did. I even took him to buy condoms.

Folk I think you're plans for the weekend sound lovely - hope you have a wonderful time. I don't think there is any harm in a woman taking the lead on these things.

Third date with Mr IT I'd said on the Friday before our Sunday that I wasn't ready for sex he was fine about it but we'll we got kissing and j thought sod it why not have some fun compaired to some o f my mates I'm a nun I don't regret it .
So it's never going to be moonlight and roses but I've had three lovers and one of them well tbh I don't think he ever really wanted me that way

Ok, maybe I am being dumb here, so what is the difference between dating and a relationship then ?? Anybody ? Anybody ?

Hi Everyone
Last night I ended up having an impromptu date with the guy I met for the 1st time on Thursday. I guess we both enjoyed Thursday so much we wanted to do it again, plus we won't see each other again for a couple of weeks due to work commitments on both our parts.

He really is lovely :) He's a proper gentleman and I really enjoy his company so far. It all feels a bit strange to have had a successful date and to have met someone I actually like. I'm so used to disappointment that I'm actually expecting it! For now we'll obviously just go with the flow but I do like him, and he likes me. We both want to get to know each other better and this hasn't been the case for me for quite sometime and I don't really know how I feel about it! I'm locked in a battle with myself between enjoying the moment and my deep rooted cynicism. Has anybody else felt like this?

Yay Pink glad it's going well

Just enjoy it, I know what you mean about being cynical but that's good, means you won't get too involved too quickly

The reason for my question is because last night I went on a first date, it was nice and everything but he wasn't really my type. Plus he kept commenting about how expensive everything was which really put me off.
We ended up DTD and I agree I'm more likely to on a first date if I don't want a relationship with the person. Anyway felt a bit bad this morning, he was very much trying to hold hands on the way to work etc and sent texts asking to meet up again.

Ah pink I'm really glad it went well. I know exactly what you mean. Have found that with guy I'm seeing. We have both said about taking it slowly so if it's going to work we get it right by not rushing head long into it. I find that really difficult as I don't like to wait! Holding my feelings back a little too as don't want to get heart broken but then if I don't put everything into it then it might not work

Feeling guilty is something I will never do Turnedouttoes. If I DTD it's because I want too. I will never be pressured if I'm not interested and I am not going to say no just because society thinks it's not right. I have been a nun for years, I don't regret it, I chose to bring up my DC alone. However, I'll be damned if I am going to turn the opportunity to have sex down if it's available and I want it. Don't feel bad, just add it to your collection of OLD experiences.

Walk away from the What'sapp Minime

Yes definitely step away from the whatsapp it's evilursulabuffaycome and recap please.I really think it should be in the rules:)

I've stepped away. its bloody awful. if/when he sends a message I am NOT going to reply straight away. I am controlling the controllable

My coffee date on Tuesday is pretty good at texting, but I hadn't heard from him all day. Using the gorgeous weather as an excuse I shot him off a quick text not long ago. Poor guy is on new meds and they are causing all kinds of problems. He did text back (to tell me all of this) but he is looking forward to Tuesday. I am going to stop looking forward to this date as it may not happen, due to him being ill. If it does then it's a bonus and that's how I plan to look at it now.

Yep. Stepping away is sooooo hard but soooo much better in the long run. Doncha just hate dating?

stepped away and didn't reply for all of 35mins! I'm useless

Ah at least I know it's not just me! I think some of what I'm feeling is a real need to protect myself. I'm a pretty strong person but I'm also quite emotional so if I expect the worst then I won't be disappointed, but then I don't want to think that way so much that I don't just enjoy the moment. It's suck a headfuck!

I'm so guilty of the replying to texts too soon, I tell myself "right when he does eventually reply I'm going to make him wait...." then just start tapping away as soon as my phone beeps, then sit there cursing the fact I replied immediately. How do you get that self restraint!?

Chick I put my phone on flight mode. I sometimes do it overnight if the texts are interfering with something I'm doing, other times, just an hour, hour and a half then I can't see a message, so can't reply. I will say here, I am a real texter, and love texts. I found self restraint difficult, flight mode and a shower/bath/tv program etc helps me a lot.

Oh I never leave a gap to reply. Partly as I'll forget otherwise. Hmm, is that making me look too keen? I think I might be too fussy.

thats good advice deliberately

rummikub does he reply to you straight away? my fell awaits an hour, sometimes longer, I once said oh you've been a bit quiet and he said oh sometimes I struggle to compose a text, he said he didn't text anyone very much before we started 'bouncing texts to each other' it's very frustrating, I want him to text me all the time but he can take it or leave it....

Yes in the main, but I'm talking to a few. If he (2 I'm interested in) leaves a gap I just assume he's busy doing something. As a whole these 2 guys have been quite attentive. So I'm not stressing. Yet.

I have done the whole he hasn't texted, what's he up to thing. I don't like that version of me, I go a bit loopy, so I had to distract myself,talk to friends, come on here, turn my phone off.