Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

chick what's his preferred method of communication?

Play him at his own game chick. While I really don't like game playing, I would try not texting him for ages after you receive a text just to see what/if he says anything. I would only do it once or twice though. I feel game playing early on in any relationship tends to suggest issues anyway, but I can't see another way to find out if he just doesn't want to text back or there is some other issue such as, not quite knowing what to say. I don't think men are quite as chatty as we women are, so that may well be the truth.

rummikub we always sms, very very occasionally email. But then it would be with 'ahem' photos ;-)

I do get a bit loopy, he didn't text me for 2 days once and i got myself into a right old state, put myself back on pof, got all grumpy becuase they were all assholes, and then he came back on as normal. he was having a hard time with other stuff and was just busy...

deliberately I KNOW I need to do this.... i get get all excited when i hear from him and want to cintinue the conversation, i've got a busy day tomorrow so maybe it'll be a good oppoetunity to make him wait a while...

Chick Believe me I am not remotely criticising you. I know exactly what you are saying, I am sooo like you it's crazy. I want to keep the conversation flowing - that is soooo me. I do the flight mode and not reply only so I don't look too keen. I learned partly from here, partly from my own ONL experiences, some men get frightened off by women who appear too keen.

chick at with pictures!
Ask him to give you a courtesy text? Have you been dating long?

rummikub it's been since january, it's a bit more complicated in that it started as just a sex thing, and now I think I've fallen for him.. I'm waiting for the right moment to find out if he likes me, but without him thinking oh crap she's all needy and emotional, I'm off!

You know when I think about the beginning he texted me all the time and I thought, oh god, he's a bit full on, now it's slowed down a bit I miss it!

Thanks girls, definitely makes sense to pass the time on here than sit looking at my phone every 5 minutes!

Chick
You sound like me I check my phone so much it bleeped last night a d I was disappointed it wasn't him.
Deep down I know it's just sex , although we do text lots and spend time together and he seems to c a re , I know I'm not his type or I ca t imagine I would be , but it's difficult to give up the affection.
Plus I have feeling I've fallen in love but desperately trying not to tell him.

pink that is exactly me. I always sit and go through the worst case scenarios as in my mind I've then prepared myself. my logic is that way if its isn't that it can only be better! I am trying so hard to just let go and enjoy things more.

chick bless u I read your thread. I think it sounds like you've fallen for him.

Morning :) I lurk on OLD threads but haven't posted since #42 I think :o Thought 42 (answer to life, the universes and everything ) might be my lucky thread but noooope, funnily enough.

I've got a date from OKC this evening and I really can't be bothered. The chap basically said "Oh, I like your profile. Would you like to go out?" And as we're a high match and I liked his profile I said yes. And that's been it. A message a day organising things and that's that. So no wonder I'm not exactly skipping about with anticipation. Maybe this inauspicious beginning will be The One? More likely he's another chubby-chasing weirdo

Or maybe he'll be chatting to his chums later, saying "God, her pictures were beautiful and she seemed so funny and clever. I don't understand why she'd cancel our date with four hours to go, then deactivate her account. Oh woe I will be single forever "

I almost feel sorry for him.

And, actually, why wouldn't I feel sorry for him?! Jesus, I've turned into a bitter old hag

I shall put myself back in my box :(

Not sure how to feel over this flirty chat this am both jokingly saying pity it not Monday when we can see each other, I . Said we'll my class cancelled so if he had a couple hors free we could see each other .
He said he would love to but he didn't want me to pop buy for sex and then him saying time Togo as he had family plans.
Is it a good or bad sign sorry feeling a bit anxious today after yesterday .

jesy I think that all sounds like good stuff to me. if you fancied a quickie though I'd get over there

He got a family thing to go tool is I'm trying to play it cool.
I saw hi. For a so called quickie the other Sunday I expected to e going straight hone after sex but he made me lunch we had sex again but even then he said stay and keep me company while he watched footie.
I have a tendency to jump in to quick , I only started to date a few years ago so I guess I'm a bit all romance stage.

Jesy, I think that's definitely a good sign, it shows he thinks more of you to just sleep with you and then make you go home, he obviously wants to spend quality time with you

Good afternoon fellow daters, I hope you're all enjoying the sun. Back later to catch up on all your news.

Feel like a cow he said he was going to family charity thing and my suspicions thought he'd made it up I just put telly on for football and just saw it aS true
Such a cow at tines

Is it normal for dating to make you feel a bit insecure?

I am not all that confident generally but I am never usually this bad in any other situation. I think it is to do with getting attached to someone so there is something to lose.

Little bit more with him, always been a. Anxious girl he younger than me very good looking confident every thing I'm not x
He makes me laugh n I'm not self conscious with him even tho I'm a chubster x

Dating wise was with some one for a year aS devastated when he ended it.it was about a year before I met someone else he had issues in bedroom.
A fling with a nice man but he didn't want a relationship
The the alcoholic who lived at home so this guy seems normal affectionate ext,
I do think it will end soon and I'll be gutted but least had a fun few w weeks

giggly I think that's exactly it. exactly. its about having to put yourself out there. its hard.

jesy I hope u have a lovely time on Monday and maybe try not to worry if and when it will end but enjoy it now.

got a date with sporty tonight as dcs both at sleepovers. I've tried to be very good and let him instigate arrangements.

It's his birthday treat fish n Bj ,bit nervous a out both lol

I think part of it is that I am a texter and he isn't much. So hours go by without hearing anything. Not days or anything though. I don't want to bring it up though as I don't want to make him feel like he has to text me like a chore.

I know what you mean giggly, I'm a texter too and sometimes I have to remind myself that not everybody else is!

Mini, I'm really trying to do the whole let it go and just enjoy it too. I guess it's easier said than done when you've been burned so many times.

I get so insecure (there is no other word for it!) when I don't hear anything for ages. I don't know how to stop myself.

Hi guys, I'm back for a bit. I accidentally broke the rule about not talking about the thread, so I'm going to have to censor what I say. Had a very drunken date with Toryboy last night. I think I'm getting over geeky. Yay!! Anyway I've missed you all.

Hope it's going well for everyone. Is folk away this weekend?