He told me he is bisexual

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Met a guy on dating site 10 months ago.
Took it really slow.
Had loads of conversation about what we wanted, expectations etc.
He made big speeches about 'let's be uninhibited, let's be free, be honest'
Slept together after 4 months.
I asked him if he had ever been with a man, had boyfriends or gone down that road.
He said no.
After 10 months he told me by text that he is bisexual.
I can't believe he kept this from me.
If I had known from the start I wouldn't have gone there.

Very interested to hear different perspectives.
I feel like the whole 10 months has been a lie.

I think it is homophobic. But I also think she has a right to choose to sleep with whoever she wants.

Actually, maybe not homophobic (except from a couple of posts being a bit dubious about m/m sex generally) but definitely a general air of biphobia.

Maise you are incredibly frustrating. I am not telling you what I think you want, I am telling you that you what makes sense.

You said you want a man who likes a woman. Right okay. Well bi sexual men like women. But you said you don't want a bi-sexual man. So you don't want ANY MAN you want a HETEROSEXUAL MAN. Is that so hard to understand?! You want a specific sort of man.

Bi-sexual means someone who is attracted to men and women. How can you even take part in this thread if you don't understand that?!!

And it is up to you as an individual to ensure you know what things like that mean before taking part in the debate, otherwise you look ignorant. So don't ask 'why should you know'.

And no one is stringing you up what are you talking about?

tequila I said to you before. I am NOT after a debate. I know what a debate is. And I make a conscious effort to stay away from those kind of forums and threads. This is a section in the relationship section of mumsnet. I came here because of the female camaderie, and girly sharing and caring and so forth. Validation of feelings, and making each other talk about their emotions and so forth. That is why I am here. I have no heck of an idea why you think and see this section as something else completely different. You remind me of another poster who is similar too. We are adults, and we do not need you to tell us what is what.

You certainly have high expectation of others even though you have not met others or know them quite personally. That I find odd. It is like, you refuse to accept others for being different than yourself.

^There is Taoist sect variation on the position regarding sexuality, but there is no position that could be called ?prudish.? There is also no particular condemnation of homosexuality.

Homosexuality is certainly not regarded as a violation of Divine Law, and is really given no special status-positive or negative.

The condemnation of homosexuals present in other religions does not exist within Taoism . From the Taoist perspective, this condemnation is simply humans desiring to pursue the power of hatred, but being too guilty to acknowledge their desire for hatred. That guilt leads them to mask a human desire as an element of divine law. Such errors inhibit spiritual development.^

I'd have though actually it would mean they would think it was okay to apply tbh...

Italic fail. Sorry.

We're not here to validate people's feelings. No-one is. We're here to give opinions on matters. Not have a massive love in.

You say I don't accept people? I'm not the one who isn't willing to give a bi sexual person a chance. I'm not the one proclaiming to be upset because oh dear a bisexual person has dared message me

When you write it really lacks relevancy it's like we're on a different topic. Please someone tell me it's not just me who's confused here

Coruskate Somethings has to be learnt, and not taught from books. I do not know what you seem to think I meant, but I am certain that you are now talking off a random angle.

Mrs Omg. Please do not talk rubbish. Thank you. You have no idea what Taoism is in my life and how this is practised, and please do not shove random things which you make up as part of my life, or to "change" me.

Some people online... If you accept a person for who they are, then you would just acknowledge their posts and comments, without actually twisting, or turning it into something else.

Be what you believe.

Prejudices is when someone do not accept you for what you are.

I didn't make that up maise that was carefully copied and pasted from this Taoist site to answer another posters ponder. No interest in changing you at all. Don't know you, don't particularly care outside this thread.

No you're not the only one confused Tequila

I'm sorry, this is getting too much. I have no idea how it ended up in this position, but I just re-read the guidelines again on MN, and I am definitely removing myself from this point. As it is no longer an actual response to the OP's original question. Everybody have had their response. So, I am going to leave it at that.

All I know is, if you do not like someone, then you do not like someone, others should not bait them in any way to find out the "why" and then continue to blame them for desiring that.

Masie I think perhaps you would benefit from re-reading this thread in particular your responses. They don't make sense a lot of the time so I'm not sure if you're misinterpreting what people are saying to you. I've never seen you around before so not sure if this is your regular posting style, but I'm really confused by it.

Thank you to all who posted, both in support and with their experiences and insights.

I love MN