The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

Jarlin, personally if you've had the exclusive chat then I don't think you should be chatting to anyone on there. Not unless your upfront with mr slow and tell him that your disappointed that he may go abroad.

Louby, I think that's one that's going to go down in dating thread history. And there I was worrying mr nice wasn't very fashionable, however I think I've had it easy compared to crocodile Dundee

Folk- I think it's lovely that you've found someone who makes you happy.

I'm due to see mr nice again tonight as I'm out with friends on Friday when we would generally meet up. So it means I've seen him fri, sat and now tonight. I'm on date 6 with him in 2 weeks! I worry that it's all moving too quickly as we spend most evenings texting each other too. I think he may like me more than I like him and so worry about hurting him. When I'm with him I'm fine, but then when I'm not I'm constantly questioning if I like him enough to carry on. He's lovely, affectionate, tells you exactly how he's feeling but I don't know, there's just something there that's making me think he's not truly my type. I don't want to end it as I really enjoy being with him and it's exciting but then I don't think it's a keeper. Am I wrong to be carrying on, if I do think he's not my forever man?

jarlin and cani Thanks. To be honest, I wouldn't have persevered if it hadn't been for all the support and advice I've received on here.

I feel a lot more confident in myself, in him and in what we are and what we have now.

Cani Are you looking for your forever man? If I was looking for a forever man, I don't think my boyfriend would be my type. He's very 'independent' and I think he would find a traditional set up very restrictive. But at the moment, so would I. I like the fact that, as he isnt truly my type either, I'm learning from him. I will be a more experienced, more rounded individual as a result of being with him - however long it lasts, that's for sure!

I think if you're on date 6 in two weeks it's too early to start wondering who likes who more and worrying about hurting someone. If it gets to the point when he's talking about the 'future' and you're still certain he's not 'the one', then fair enough.

Velvet jacket? It gets better!

Jarlin

I know how you feel, I like Mr IT more than he likes me , I really wish he wasn't so nice example yesterday I was falling asleep as we watched telly and he was kissing my hand and daft stuff like saying your trashing your side of bed again .
It's difficult part of me thinks I was better off never dated.

New to the dating thing -

Went on a few dates with a guy that I met on a night out last year - 3rd date was last Thursday and I invited him back to mine did the deed and he left almost straight away which I didn't think much of but then I haven't hardly heard from him since then he's been very quiet and I sent him a message yesterday and nothing......why do men take you out and invest time and money into you if all they want is a shag?

Knocked my confidence so much and really annoyed me!

Especially as he has given no explanation! I'm worth more than that aren't I

Yes you are worth more .
Wish I knew y they do it I'd be rich if I did x
Hope your ok and tell your self it's his loss.

Yes you are worth more!

Jesy I read earlier but meant to reply, great you've changed your outlook and are doing stuff as opposed not to doing stuff (festival etc).

I think in a sense that's where I go wrong sometimes. I'm seeing a friend for an afternoon walk today but apart from that not getting out there a huge amount and I really should be!

onemore - yes you are worth more!

I didn't hear from MBB but as I texted him last night saying I thought he wasn't interested (sort of goodbye text) and he hasn't replied then he can't be interested. Quite rude though especially on our last date.

On Match Crapfinity god that site's depressing and must've been 2-3 years ago was speaking with a guy, quite few emails arranged to meet then he got in touch to say he'd met someone else! and now he's back on the site so obviously single again.

Oh the one good thing for start of next month is I've got 2 free tickets to a food festival in Central London.

If I meet someone there great if not… that's ok. but should be fun.

It's hard I know brokenhearted.

Hello fellow daters. I did post on this thread, my last post was around thread 68. I have caught up with all of your highs and lows and my there have been many.

I gave up on OLD as it just wasn't doing it for me. Some may remember Mr Zany and OMG? Anyway, I have decided to give it another go and am on POF and Smooch.

I think I am in love and it is kinda scaring me. I don't know if I am designed to be in a relationship at all.

Is it normal to feel vulnerable even if you trust the person you are dating?

He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him but sometimes he goes quiet and I feel kinda insecure.

I found it very normal to feel vulnerable much While I can't honestly say I felt in love with either Mr Zany or OMG, I knew the attraction especially to OMG was making my emotions run away with themselves. He is still in contact sporadically even now, I have got myself into a much stronger position mentally and emotionally and only reply if I feel like it. I certainly don't let him dictate anything to me any more. Take a deep breath, sit down and think this out as rationally as you can, then 'try' not to worry too much. Not easy I know.

Well got text from MBB where he said "I think I'm not ready for anything because of my recent past".

Oh no super! (Sod him!)

Jarlin sadly, I do think that's the case.

Enjoy your evening. I don't know anyone who would turn down a meal cooked for them, wine and cuddles.

can i join in? separated since December. i'm on POF and OKCupid.

current contenders are the Italian Stallion and Lives With His Mum. Italian Stallion is beautiful but i think a bit of a perv, and Lives With His Mum has ME and has never had a girlfriend.

this has disaster written all over it, doesn't it?

Hi exWife There are a few hmmmm's there. I suggest you chat with him and try to find out a good bit more about him before even meeting for a coffee. If I were in your shoes I would certainly tread with caution but there again you never know.

Things going wrong with me and mr kids

Been seeing him two months now. Got very close n said the L word. Had an amazing weekend but going cold on me now.

Am very sad today

Jarlin, sorry if I came across as harsh but in the long run you would end up regretting it plus if he was thinking out loud and he found out you were on tinder he may then cool off and so it has the opposite effect of what you want. I think you'll just have to be honest and ask him where the relationship is going. I know it'll be hard but worth it.

Thanks all, I'll try and chill out then. Tbh I'm not looking for a forever man. Not yet anyway. I've only just come out of a 20yr marriage and just want someone to have some fun with. I'm not looking for another husband iykwim. It's just little things he says that worry me. I'm due to have an op and when I told him he said anything I need to let him know and that he'll be worried about me. I just feel this is too forward. Maybe it's me! I'm rubbish at showing my feelings and so am quite reserved. I admit I am also shallow and looks and dress sense matter to me and although he's handsome and doesn't wear snake skin trousers he's not that into making an effort.