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The Dating Thread 74.

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MadeMan · 04/05/2014 13:44

Hello and welcome.

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girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:06

Deliberately !! Stop it - that one made the cat jump!! Grin Grin

Now I want wine........ Wink

DeliberatelyDreaming · 05/05/2014 21:11

Blush Sowwy Girlie's puddy cat. I am stone cold sober (sadly,) and shall attempt to behave. Smile

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:22

Girlie You can definitely take some of the credit!! Definitely!! Grin

He does have a lovely accent. I don't get the whole sexy accent thing, but I do like the way he says "I love you" and the way he pronounces my name incorrectly . I just sit there saying, "say it again!" like an idiot because he just sounds so lovely! But he does say it again (like an idiot), so it can't all be bad Grin

Eventually, he does just look at me and say, "Really? Again?"

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:27

Ahh folk my cynical heart just melted, even though I do like my man lots and lots - yours sounds a tinsy wincey bit better Grin

Poor smallfeet - he has a London accent which really doesn't have the same effect!! Grin

DeliberatelyDreaming · 05/05/2014 21:28

I seem to have got myself a coffee date on Friday afternoon. He is anything but my type but my type has not worked up until now. He seems rather cheerful which is always a plus while looking rather sombre. I am going to keep telling myself a photo is just a second in time and he may actually not look like he wants to kill me. I shall name him after the date.

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:29

I think Bant stopped posting on here because there were some people who were deliberately trolling the thread just to be obnoxious to him, what with him being a man and all. There were some quite unpleasant comments directed towards him. He said, at the time, that he was going to take a break to keep the thread 'nice'.

I do wonder how he's doing though...

DeliberatelyDreaming · 05/05/2014 21:33

Yes, well it wouldn't be the first time FG I remember a certain poster who name changed once or twice+ just to have a dig at Bant If it was her again then she has had more bans from here than enough, that I know off anyway. Nasty piece of work it seems. I hope Bant comes back, a male perspective I found was invaluable.

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:33

girlie If it makes you feel any better. He snores really loudly...

And he talks in his sleep - but not very often in English so I've no idea what he's saying.

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:34

Delib that sounds good for fri, 'anything but my type' was exactly my thoughts about smalllfeet prior to our first date. I still think how are we together as we are so different!!

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:34

Yes, I think it was deliberately. I don't know the background, but everyone else seemed to think it was the same person.

SuperFlyHigh · 05/05/2014 21:35

please nice fellow thread-ites - give me some hope.

me and my friend were sitting on park bench today and she was saying she'd heard horror stories re OLD.

and I just thought, my bloody luck. Wasn't even that keen on MBB after 2nd date but I just seem to have bad luck right now!!!!

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:35

Yes, my boyfriend is not 'my type' in any way really - certainly not physically. Except musical tastes, we have almost identially eclectic musical interests!

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:37

Are you two watching this prog on Gary Barlow?! Grin

Come back Bant - we are nice and nosy come and tell us how you are getting on Wink

SuperFlyHigh · 05/05/2014 21:38

girlie - I'm watching The Barlow programme and I can't stand him...

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:39

Superfly there is def hope - lots of it, in the last year I have been to 3 weddings where the couples met online!!

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:41

Grin How can you not stand Gary? He is like a little lost puppy, am having trouble mustering any sympathy for him though, what with his £££££££££££ Envy

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:41

Oh, super it is pot luck.

I think of OD like employment agencies. Some people work for agencies because they like the freedom and flexibility; they've just moved to a new area or have finished a job and don't want to be unemployed and some people work for employment agencies because they couldn't get a job otherwise.

Similarly, some people OD because they don't get out the house much (young children/caring responsibilities); some people do it because a LTR has broken down and they feel a little vulnerable about putting themselves 'out there' physically - online feels a little safer; and some people do it because they couldn't get a relationship otherwise.

DeliberatelyDreaming · 05/05/2014 21:43

Super My experience is interesting if nothing else. I've had a date who had us married before the second coffee arrived, one who came armed with a ton of books on a subject I'm into. One who decided to talk about law and order and how all criminals should never see the light of day the entire date and also looked absolutely nothing like his profile. I've had two short lived relationships, one I named Mr Zany, the story is on thread 68 (I think) I also had Mr OMG who I fancied the pants off but was so fickle it was causing me anxiety. I gave up with him, he still texts now and again but I don't let him get under my skin. I've had fun and lots of it. Looking back over my OLD career certainly makes me smile if nowt else. Just go with the flow lovely, I believe there is a Mr Right out there, until I meet him I will just enjoy myself.

Girlie I have done mainly my type in the past, now I plan to go against my type and see where that gets me. I am also (trying) not to make it all about looks, I am so shallow. Yeah, sounds about right the story of the snail and Bant.

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 21:44

I'm not watching anything with Gary Barlow in it. I can't stand him!

girliefriend · 05/05/2014 21:44

Folk am impressed at how eaisly you seem to be calling your man your 'boyfriend' I still struggle with that one, was talking to someone at work today and couldn't quite bring myself to say 'my boyfriend' so ended up saying 'this chap that I am seeing..' wtf is wrong with me Confused

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 22:05

Oh, God, it's not easy at all! It feels ridiculous!

I only do it because "the man I'm seeing" doesn't quite cut it anymore.

When I was calling him "the man I'm seeing" on here, I was referring to him as "the man I'm sort of seeing" in real life.

FolkGirl · 05/05/2014 22:14

But it feels very odd, mainly because he's nearly 50 and so not really a boy anymore... Grin

He's a bit of an old man really. But I do find that quite endearing Confused

LizzieBelle · 05/05/2014 22:43

neiljames I think I was the only one to pick up on your Rose and Fred joke....

TalisaMaegyr · 05/05/2014 22:47

Bant is fine. He still reads here sometimes I think, but probably doesn't want to run the risk of the same old Mean Girls trying to get him booted. But I read somewhere else that he posts, and he's still the same Smile

DeliberatelyDreaming · 05/05/2014 23:01

Thanks for letting us know Talisa. The problem was, the new name would appear, be ever so nice to all the posters for a while to get them on-side if you like. Once that was done she would berate Bant for some stupid reason. All the posters who thought she was lovely would side with her and Bant would get his ear bent for no reason. I've read all of this thread from number one and it's happened 3-4 times. The modus operandi is always the same. It's no surprise Bant doesn't post here, it's also very sad!