The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

[jesy]

He seems a bit brighter today bot his usual self but A bit jokey flirty texts.

[Minime85]

thanks Ursula done it now seeing him tonight so that's good and then I'm going to try not to think about it so much.

chairy have fun with your fireman

[FizzyPink]

I'm awful for constantly checking Whatsapp. MrIrishAmerican who I had a lovely evening with about a month ago but parked to favour MrGolf who turned out to be an idiot, has said he's away with work this week so not seeing him until next Thursday. However he's constantly on Whatsapp and we don't tend to message each other, other than to arrange dates so who is he messaging all the time!!!
Now I worry I've left it too late and he's found someone else.

[Bigbird01]

pink and chairy hope you have great dates tonight!

Mr Sailor got in touch late last night. Said he'd had a tough day and goodnight, but I guess he chose to message me, so that has to be good, right?

I'm desperately trying to stop myself breaking the rules of message 'tennis', but I know he's been online this evening already (I replied last night, so can't send anything now).

In the meantime, Mr weekend away rang me first thing this morning to apologise for not being in touch recently. Still not met him, though...

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

Bigbird I don't believe in the tennis text rule. If I am chatting to someone and they are texting quite a bit and I have time, I am happy to play text tennis. I know this is a direct path to building up an image of someone before you meet them, but I do it because it works for me. I would add, if I text someone a lot, I do try to arrange the meeting quickly to stop image building.

[DollyTwat]

I had a coffee date with me gchq lunch time. He was nice looking and beardy but dull, very very dull

Have another coffee date tomorrow with a different one!
Get me!

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

Good on you Dolly and why shouldn't you. I'm quite actually.

[Bigbird01]

Go Dolly!

DD, I'm just scared of looking desperate, so I'm resisting sending multiple messages. And I don't want to look like a stalker who messages him the moment he is online...argh! It's so difficult! Find it so much easier to meet (as in start a conversation with) people in RL - just wish I could work out how to meet some single men like that!!

On the 'plus' side, I've had a message from 'seriallover' which just said "milf" and another that said "so, when shall we get together then?"! What part of 'looking for a relationship' do they not get??

[Maisie0]

Get you Dolly. Lol...

Yes, text tennis is a bit... Hm. I haven't done this for an awfully long time ! Oh, how I wish I can be back in my 20s. Thinking back, days were more fun then.

Sometimes I have to step away from this thread and see what we write, and it seems soo true. "Image building". It's what we hope the person to be than who they are as a person.

Ok, I shall keep an open mind on this guy. Will message him tonight.

[Bigbird01]

Oh, I forgot the invitation to "Have some fun on Skype"...

Do men actually get responses to these messages?

[Goodguy11]

Hi do you mind if I guy joins in with you lovely ladies!
I'm 37 year old guy looking to get back in the dating scene what age women do you think I should date ladies?

[Maisie0]

The same age !
Mine is almost - 5, and + 2 years than me.
(I do not know why I picked this, but it seems okay for me based on the choices in the OD.)

[Maisie0]

Ok, old friend responded. :) We're talking about OD... and online... he seems so apprehensive. Made a few typing mistakes too. I wonder if he is nervous. I think we are both embarassed .. But he is not sarky, this is good. :)

[MyChildDoesntNeedSleep]

goodguy I'd say 30-40.

[MyChildDoesntNeedSleep]

If I was OLD (I'm a woman), my age range would be -2, +5 if I was after a serious relationship.

[MyChildDoesntNeedSleep]

online dating, obviously, not old as in elderly!

[Goodguy11]

Thanks my child that's what I think.
I tried online dating before and it was a disaster sooner meet someone in a pub etc

[Goodguy11]

He he yes I understood!

[Bigbird01]

I've gone +7/-5 years. I'm 39. The 2 guys I'm talking to are 34 and 35 !

[Bigbird01]

I agree good the online chat is awful. Wish I had the opportunity to meet someone for a chat in RL first!

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

Goodguy I do 5 years younger 10 older, don't ask me why, but I just can't face the cradle snatcher tag. I'm late 40's.

[PinkPeanuts]

Thanks to everyone that wished me good luck for my date last night- it clearly worked!

I had the loveliest time, easily the best date I've been on. We hit it off straight away, chatted away non stop, he made me laugh and was a perfect gentleman from start to finish. We've already decided on a second so I guess it's a case of watch this space!

The most important thing to me right now is to take the time to get to know someone slowly and properly as I've had a tendency to fall head head over heels too quickly in the past and end up disappointed so this time I have my feet firmly on the ground but it was so lovely to meet someone that I clicked with and had a great time with for a change so I'm enjoying that feeling at least :)

[jesy]

With the age thing my ex was 11 years younger it wasn't an issue tho cunningly enough we remained close.

[Goodguy11]

It interesting to hear all your opinions age is just a number I guess.
What matters is who they are and not what they are.
Just found od very depressing I'm a single no baggage guy looking to meet a nice person that's all.
I think women find me too nice is that such a bad thing?
I am loyal don't cheat but finding hard to meet someone decent