The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

[whitedoorbell]

jesy what's going on?

[jesy]

He don't want me
Said don't know why I'd got him a bday gift he say he in a bad mood

[whitedoorbell]

jesy I don't understand. where did that come from?

[jesy]

He want to go out for birthday tried to seem casual but I really like him I should have known better

[jesy]

Dont

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

Jesy What sparked all of this? It's all rather sudden isn't it?

[SuperFlyHigh]

jesy I don't think it's over at all I just think he's tired, stressed and in a bad mood (not necessarily to do with you).

why don't you do as before and just act casual give him space etc? I'm sure that would help.

[Maisie0]

Jesy Mm... I think you are doing too much for him maybe. Plus anyway, you said you like quiet, so... are you sure he wanted it ? Maybe he didn't expect a birthday present. Well, if a man says he in a bad mood, then just leave him be. Until he calms down.

Then see what happens.

Mychild I erm ... I wrote like a few messages, cos I think I got overexcited at someone I know is on there. To be honest, I had no idea why I just felt "giddy", and then the flashback of what we talked about in the past came to my mind. So I wrote and asked him "what happened?", and did London worked out for him ? I suppose if I took a step back and read it. It really is not a nice message that says "hello". We actually checked each others' profile for a while but I dismissed him. Because of his non-response on the night, I did write sorry if I scared him. I thought we can catch up in okc chat. Then I said did he just turn on the chat, sorry if I missed it as I was checking my FB. (Talking to his cousin!)

Then the day after he said "how's you? Long time no see". (It has been like almost 7-8 years ?) But to be honest, I have or felt I lost my bearings a bit. As I am not totally focused on dating. My heart is also not in it as well. I did feel a little bit rejected in some ways when he did not reply. I do not know why I put hope on that at all. Some memories of the past also came up too, and it just snowballed a bit.

[jesy]

Sorry I was so upset
I've just left him to it he still texting ect .
Been at in bed snuggled up to the dog crying silly I know

[FolkGirl]

nah, jesy, it's not silly. Bit daft and deserving of an affectionate eye-roll maybe

But I definitely get that one!

If he's still texting you, it's not over, surely? He's just tired and doesn't live in your head (as I've come to realise myself...)

Hope you feel better today.

[jesy]

Hi I'm feeling a bit better but we will see.
He had a busy few days as well so guess could be tired but we'll see if he texts.
Last night he said he'll see me next week , did have a thought maybe he like me around my birthday I get moody .
I guess I'm a bit touchy as well

[Minime85]

so how do u stop yourself thinking about what time he/she was last on what's app? argh technology

[jesy]

It's hard not to check I looked at rigid knows how many times over weekend and even worse when they on line and not typing lol

[UrsulaBuffay]

Whatsapp is easy just turn off the time notification in settings, means you can only see if they're actually online there and then and not last seen at. Yours is also hidden then I don't know why people don't do it more

[PinkPeanuts]

Afternoon all,

Date has been set for tonight. Bricking it for some reason!

Opted for a quiet drink in a bar that has a restaurant so option to have dinner if we decide to.

Eek!

[Rummikub]

Sounds like a good idea to keep your options open for date. Are you more excited or apprehensive?

[Minime85]

Ursula I can't find it in notifications. I've looked all through the settings. I'm hopefully getting a new phone soon so will hopefully be able to do it on there.

pink have a good date

[Minime85]

I know jesy and I want to stop myself a) looking and b) caring! argh!

[UrsulaBuffay]

Whatsapp>settings>account>privacy>Last seen

Change this to nobody and the last seen time won't show from other people and yours won't show to them

[chairyhin]

Ursula I wish I'd have known this,would have saved me endless hours of torment.But he is in the past now,have a third date with my fireman tonite,good luck to all daters.

[UrsulaBuffay]

I think it's worth everyone doing Chairy, takes much of the frustration out of it. I've been there and done that it's still crap if you see 'online' and they don't reply or disappear like.

[chairyhin]

Thanks ursula,it is so frustrating especially if you then realise the one forever tick on the message means you've been blocked :(I had to Google that lol.

[UrsulaBuffay]

It can do, sometimes it's there for hours while they have no wifi or phone is switched off or they just haven't opened up whatsapp.

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

I put my phone onto flight mode every now and again, especially if I am getting quite intense with someone. For me, it gives me chance to stop staring at the damn thing and just regroup and think. Turning Whatsapp off for a while will help, I'm sure, it gives breathing space.

[Maisie0]

Chairy Good luck with your fireman....

I've decided to message this guy back properly. I did leave a very curt message before, because he was also curt too and felt a bit guilty.