Would anyone else love to have an affair, but don't have the opportunity/guts etc???

[Jazzi]

Just following on from the other threads?????

malteser1-this is exactly what i meant!

would never, ever contemplate an affair, and therefore the opportunities do not arise. i don't look for them, and if someone made a pass i would totally block it. once you break trust, it's very, very difficult to earn it again. i would never forgive myself, and i respect my dh too much to hurt him in that way.

I dont think it takes guts to have an affair, what takes guts is going through the difficult process of divorce in order to remain true to yourself. An affair seems just lust and cowardice mixed together.

So no, no matter how much I fancied someone, or even loved, the answer is no. Even if that is just out of respect to myself.

never would i cheat my ex h left me and my 2 children due to his affair and we are now divorced i am with my loving dp and my ex h doesn't want to know his 2 children after 11 months.so affairs are a no go and anyone that does has no guts just selfishness!!!!

allegedly 50 odd % of british women have!

Really?

that means, then, that at least 50% of the women in this thread will have an affair in the future, that 50% of us are lieing, OR that all those who have had an affair are not posting in this thread

to have an affair is to show a complete disregard to the feelings of your partner and children.
it is a disgracefull thing to do and anyone who has shold feel absolutl;y ashamed of themsleves.

if you feel the urge to sleep with anyone other thn your partner then clealry you need to sort thigs out in yor relationship first....either fix it or finish it, but there is never an excuse to cheat.

fattiemummma I do love your posts

Thank you so much for starting this it's just what I didn't need after a cr** counselling session with h (he had the affair). I'm emotionally battered enough without these kind of threads. Sorry everyone, but had to say this. Not often that threads on here upset me.

come on now own up ladies lol

Alibaldi- sorry posted that just before ur posting come up sorry u r having a tough time of it at the moment, it must be a terrible time for u! hope that the counselling starts to work for u and that things do go the way u want them tooxx

mimi1uk you've forgiven . Like I said it's just a bad day. None of us are perfect. And right now what i wouldn't give for some love and affection.

must be really tough for u!! hugsxx

It certainly is. But hey life goes on two little boys to worry about first and foremost.

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Yeah I took one look at this thread and ran a mile.

even the thought makes me feel sick

why be in a relationship if you want to be somewhere else.

i could never cheat on my partner, firstly i respect him too much, secondly i could never hurt my children, thirdly i wouldnt break up my family and ruin my future for something that will only end up hurting everyone.

never ever, not a chance.

I could never inagine being with another man, also- you dont just cheat on your partner- you cheat on your children aswell.

I would never want my kids to feel the same way that i do about my mother.

Right now?

No.

I have too much to lose and went through too much to be here just now.

Plus, I was a big slapper before I married DH. I got it all out of my system .

I love my dh to pieces but would love some attention and affection!

I would quite like to know, frankly, that someone else might fancy me. I mean I know DP does and all, and That Should Be Enough yada yada yada but it would be nice to know that other blokes were potentially interested.

Jazzi, if you had any experience of anyone close to you having been in that situation, you would not have started this thread. I am so glad for you you haven't - I'm not condeming you as this is an open forum and often "devils advocates" start heated debates.
Matleser1-thanks for your words of painful wisdom and your honesty.
I'm on the other side (dh had the affair) and I know that awful silence when something come on Tv etc I can feel his shame and remorse- he can feel my pain and we don't even have to speak!
Jazzi- affairs are fantasy world- not real- not true abut soooooooooo destructive. Hope you never truely experience etither side of one.Take care.

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