how many people here dont have an orgasm through penatration?

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Just that really. Wondering if it is common not to? Thanks

I do!

Two long term relationships, first one I could only achieve on top, 2nd and missionary was best. He is now my exP and was very good in bed! I miss the sex and I hope I find someone as good as he was.

He just seemed to know what to do!

Hi Op

Last I heard it was roughly 65% of the female population who don't via penetration alone, it might even be more.

I do, but only with me on top. And then it is more rubbing than actual in and out movement!! Works for us both though x

RedRoom, it was me ruminating about evolutionary nonsense. It just annoys me when I read accounts of evolutionary theories that just assume that all females of the species enjoy/orgasm through PIV.

"Didn't realise that. Boyfriend making me feel like im the exception"

His previous partners probably faked it. Not something I would do, can't see the point.

Nope, not me. Only once have i ever had an orgasm through anything a partner did, and that was fingers (and it was very underwhelming compared to what I can do for myself any day of the week tbh).

A partner taking an interest is great. Telling you that you are in the wrong/strange in some way is ridiculous. Unless he's slept with 33,000 women, his sample size is going to be pretty small, after all.

VelmaD - it's called the ultimate O that one and it is highly recommended!

I never used to be able to - then met my DP & I can. Not sure if it's a combination of great sexual chemistry, his skill & my age (42), but I orgasm probably at least 3 times when we have sex - he's even managed to give me multiples, where it's waves of them, one after the other.

He's bloody good in bed though & I think it makes him feel like a right sex God too.

Before him, I could only do it through clitoral stimulation. I find vaginal orgasms not as intense though (but still great).

This has been so lovely to find as exH wasn't very good at sex & then he had an affair, so I feel like this is my compensation for a tough time & a shit husband.

Goodasitgets, I had heard it was brilliant. Expensive but apparently worth every penny. I have to admit I have a couple from that range and highly rate them.

Im off to look for it now online :-D

I have that Ultimate O - it's quite diddly to get right but it's really rather good - and plugs in at the wall

Saying that though, it feels nice and all but it doesn't do it's job for me, nothing ever does. Maybe I have nerve endings missing or something it just makes me want to pee myself

ive just realised I actually have the ultimate o! I was thinking of the ultimate g, but the ultimate o boyfriend bought me last year :-D its good for sure, but a bit fiddly yes. Definitely worth a go though, and currently 10 off with further 10% off at checkout :-)

I can, but there's no way I'd be with DP if he thought this meant he could just stick it in and go for it. I don't think I could have any kind of enjoyment if there wasn't time and energy spent making me feel really into it.

Have to say I've always felt like a bit of a freak because I can so have the opposite problem! Always worried that boyfriends would think I was faking it I really shouldn't let them read my Cosmo magazines

Frankly though, any man making you feel bad/inferior based on something you're not biologically designed for because his exes were is REALLY not on.

I have done but the angle has to be exactly right.

Only about 1/5 women are able to orgasm through penetration alone...

I have only had one bf who could genuinely make me come every single time during PIV and bloody hell that was amazing We only lasted about 3 months though, bet his new gf is having fun lol!! My DP has managed it once but generally it's other ways.

I can now - after the birth of DD2, before - nothing, not even close..

Interesting that childbirth seems to make a difference.

I can after penetration, but only after I've had an orgasm from other methods, like oral/fingers. And the angle needs to be right.

I feel quite sorry for those women who say they have never had an orgasm. You really don't know what divine pleasure you are missing. I would really need clitoral stimulation at the same time as penetrative sex to climax but can get there without sometimes. I think your bloke is trying to put this back on you so he does not lose his super lover status. Yeah, right. I think women often don't know what gets them 'there' and, even when they do know, are too afraid or embarrassed to tell their partner what would make the earth for them.

Never ever. Only thru manual
Stimulation, oral or a vibrator!

I have a theory that it makes the angle that I need easier/less painful to achieve very unscientific but we don't do anything different now to what we did in the 10 years previous and there it is

Childbirth probably does make a difference, because things have changed in that area. It definitely feels different to me these days.

Used to be able to, when I was having sex [distant memory]

Never seen a vibrator let alone used one. Seriously, I don't work like that.