Whoops! Slept with one of my best friends!

[MoonshineWashingLine]

Known my very good friend for nearly 14 years, nothing has ever happened before but then we've never been single at the same time before...

We were pretty drunk but not steaming. I have just come out of a long term relationship (and have one dd) and my ex was verbally/emotionally abusive. I have been single for just a month. My friend didn't take advantage of me or anything, I feel anything but vulnerable, in fact I feel pretty good :)

Plus it was really good, passionate sex that I haven't experienced in quite some time!

I do fancy my friend quite a bit but it is a bit soon and he has a quite a history of relationships amongst our friends, as do I! So I am wary of moving too fast and I also don't want to scare him off. We both knew what we were doing was probably inappropriate but we did it anyway.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We get on so well and I don't want to risk messing up our friendship but at the same time I think we would be a great couple if we actually got it together. I don't really know how he feels though....

Ladie Gracie, do your messages appear as a banner at the top? Mine appears in the middle and I have to click off it before I can so anything else. If my phones unlocked or I click close instead it shows as read. So it's not hugely accurate...

Yes, that's exactly what I meant but you explained it far better than me! I think that's it anyway - my daughter was really indignant at my assumption that she was ignoring me!!

So, are you going all out dressed up to the nines this evening? I've got be honest, I'm gripped by this. I saw on another thread yesterday that an mner shagged her builder and they are still together now!

Yes, I was wondering too if the outfit had been planned... Sexy but not too full on?

Ha, so you shagged yr best friend, yr both single and it was awesome? you finish yr op with the question 'I don't really know how he feels though....'

Answer: Fucking fantastic!

But i'm guessing you meant about you two. This is where you drive us blokes mad! You need to use the highly secretive technique of 'asking him' not obtusely or in any way that can be misunderstood. Something along the lines of, 'great time the other night, wonder what you are thinking about us two. Do you see us as being a couple, FWB or just going back to mates? Honest answer appreciated.x'

As a man he will understand this question and should answer honestly, if he doesn't he's a douche.

andy.x

Andy!!! You're just what this thread needs!!!!!

Haven't got time to read all the messages but v interested in how this turned out (having read the other day). Did OP get together with the old friend?

As long as he's treated his exes well I'd snap him up - go for it! You have no clue how lucky it is to have this eligible man you like on your doorstep.

Weeeell I wasn't sure about outfit as its just local pubs etc so am not going to get carried away :)

In the meantime he has texted me today and respondwd to a fb post

Thanks for the male pov as well Andy, will see how tonight goes and maybe ask him if I can muster enough courage! He will be out much earlier than me so may well be sozzled by the time I get to the pub!

Oo what did he text you?

I love these threads

Nothing major, he was just apologising in advance for how drunk he may be when I arrive... he put :s a lot!

That is so that he can flirt with you without feeling inhibited, bet you.

Is there any sense here that he might make a pass at you/encourages more sex whilst he is "pissed" so he has cover ("i was so drunk, I had no idea what i was doing") in case a) he asks you out & you knock him back, or b) you have sex and assume he meant more by it. If more sex is on the cards tonight, it would be helpful to ask outright what his intentions are (as Andy suggested) before you get down to it. Then you can decide whether you are happy with what's on offer & save time mind reading tomorrow.

[Grin] hope there's lots of flirting hehe

Yeah I might have to see how he actually feels before any further intimacy, easier said than done though!

How much fun you must be having tonight!!!

I'm out with my kid and drunk. Only two drinks but still... Smokin mirrors would have a field day!

Yay for Andy! Get some Dutch courage in you and go for it

Hope you're having fun!

Well nothing to report really. I'm actually a bit sad, I'm guessing the circumstances weren't right or something. We weren't in the kund if situation where we could be open with each other. I think I need to get him on his own... I ended up having to leave before everyone else had finished their drinks so we didn't get any time together :(

*kind of... damn phone

Watching with interest

Oh god this is proving more difficult than i imagined.

Moonshine.... By letter, text, e mail, fb, carrier pigeon, in person .........

JUST ASK HIM!!!

andy.x

Nah, don't ask. If men are interested, they'll find a way and he hasn't done so far.

oh foxy you are really over estimating us.

he's thinking.

'god i really like her, i thought she really liked me, we had a really special night together, she doesn't talk about, she regrets it, oh god she's thinks I'm an arse, maybe it didn't happen? did i make it all up in my head, shit i really like like her, if only shed talk to me about it.... beer? cheers mate'

gimme his number, i'll ask him!

Haha :) I'm not entirely convinced Andy but it may well get to the point where I have to put things bluntly. I'm not there yet though! Tonight is not that night.

I really do think that if he liked you he would go after you and you wouldn't need to do the running. But in your case and for your peace of mind I think you should ask him straight out seeing as you are good friends. Under other circs I would say wait and see.

Good luck