Whoops! Slept with one of my best friends!

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Known my very good friend for nearly 14 years, nothing has ever happened before but then we've never been single at the same time before...

We were pretty drunk but not steaming. I have just come out of a long term relationship (and have one dd) and my ex was verbally/emotionally abusive. I have been single for just a month. My friend didn't take advantage of me or anything, I feel anything but vulnerable, in fact I feel pretty good :)

Plus it was really good, passionate sex that I haven't experienced in quite some time!

I do fancy my friend quite a bit but it is a bit soon and he has a quite a history of relationships amongst our friends, as do I! So I am wary of moving too fast and I also don't want to scare him off. We both knew what we were doing was probably inappropriate but we did it anyway.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We get on so well and I don't want to risk messing up our friendship but at the same time I think we would be a great couple if we actually got it together. I don't really know how he feels though....

I would say don't text him. Leave it til you calm down:)

Its very hard to do, but I would. What do you write anyway? " great shag, are we going out now?" And he either has a chance to ignore you or say " yeah, great, see you soon" Its a very awkward situation. Its not just friends anymore and the dynamic has changed.

Relax and wait. Get busy. Then if he suggests a date its good and if he doesn't you can suggest a meet like normal and ask him.

Wow, so now you're leaving her home alone while you go and have sex out of wedlock AND a few bevvies!

It's quite late now, waiting for his reply could affect your sleeping. I'd wait til tomorrow but then I'm off to bed in about five mins. Perhaps the two of you are more hardcore

While one should never attribute to malice that which can be explained by incompetence, occasionally one sees incompetence so spectacular it's practically indistinguishable from malice. Basically, IndiansInTheLobby, your question is really only of academic interest.

x-posted again! haha Kewcumber, proper made me laugh

Friends with benefits would be sort of ok for while... problem is I know his previous FWB and she fell madly in love with him (and probably still is :/) we both have our baggage though. We seem to have a rather odd group of friends whereby me and him have basically shagged/gone out with most of them between us! Inevitable that one day we'd get round to each other I suppose

Well, as someone else who jumped straight into bed with my best friend after leaving my ex, I heartily approve.

In my case, we really are FWB but is he is my best friend. I'm not ready to live with a man again (my DCs are small) and frankly I'm not sure I ever will. My chap is perfect to take my mind off the stress of lone parenting.

Enjoy him!

It sounds perfect. No hidden ex shame as you know it all and if you've both done x y and z no one can say anything.

I, for one, can't wait for the wedding invite

Yeah i think I will leave it till tomorrow so I can actually say 'oh i can come on friday now by the way' or something along those lines. I originally said I wouldn't be able to go as I've already had my monthly night out I may be able to pop out for a couple of hours though, we'll see :)

Oh, it just occured to me that he asked me if i wanted to go out this friday.... slaps forhead

I don't understand??? Did he already ask you out on a date and you didn't notice? Sorry. Confused why this Friday is different???

We seem to have a rather odd group of friends whereby me and him have basically shagged/gone out with most of them between us! Inevitable that one day we'd get round to each other I suppose

You all sound delightful.

I wish you the very best.

Oh good, Raskova - am also confused. Is the significance the speediness of the follow up invite?

Oh, that's smokinmirrors problem...

I have to go to sleep but I eagerly await news as to why this Friday isn't good. Glad you're confused too we can be slow together

I am probably reading to much in to it... He mentioned it early on Friday night and again Saturday morning and I said I probably won't be able to go... Now I really want to go! I guess it's no different to him asking if I wanted to come out before we had sex though.

Good luck. I had a male friend slept with a few times was never any real chemistry there though unlike you guys by sound of it. If things progress just take it slow and enjoy each other

Six days ago you started a thread with this:

Ex-p tells me that he now has a key to his female friend's house (its a shared house where 2 of his female workmates live) and when one of the girls buys her own house in 6 months or so he is going to be her 'house mate. We have only been split about 4 weeks and after his initial 'cant sleep, can't eat, having panic attacks' he now seems to be embracing single life. He has been going out with his friends, he's in a band again (with said girl) and he's made a start on improving his career. Things seem to be going really well for him, which I am obviously pleased about. Even though he was an abusive partner we do still get on well now that the dust has (nearly) settled. However, I am a bit hmm about this business of him and this girl he is planning on moving in with. He has said in the past that he thinks she has a thing for him and while we were together he suggested that we have a threesome with her as she's bi-sexual and I was kinda curious. It never happened though. Now all he seems to go on about is this girl, I don't know if he's trying to make me jealous or what but I just find it really odd. He even said that when she buys her house they will make the box room up for DD. I just sorted of nodded and said 'oh right, cool' but its left me feeling a bit confused ! Wwyd in this situation

and now are having sex with your best friend.

You and your daughter's father both sound ridiculous.

You do realise smokin that you are now beginning to sound a bit, well, stalker-y and more than a little unbalanced...?

Did you read every single post OP has ever made to find one that tenuously backs up your "OP is a harlot who neglects her child" theory?

HAve you thought of taking up knitting? In the absence of having sex with your children in the house which obviously you never do, I'd suggest an interesting hobby might be in order.

Smokinmirror, when you're on the internet under a name that refers to cannibalistic ritual murder, calling someone ridiculous for the sake of their sex life is... a little silly.

Out of interest because I'm genuinely interested, what exactly about having sex with a best friend do you object to?

On the whole I've been pretty friendly with everyone I've had sex with. Personally I find it helps but I do accept that some people might chose to have sex with people they'd really rather not spend any time with outside of bed.

Yeah, I'd like an answer to that, too. If nothing else, I object to sex with someone who's not at least somewhat of a friend. Otherwise it's just stranger sex and that is just icky.

Not just icky but also somewhat unsafe I would think.

Maybe smokin objects to sex outside marriage, sex if you're a parent or ummm.... maybe just sex?

oh damn it - I was going to trawl through all your previous posts and find something funny to taunt smokin with but:

a - its not really the done thing to drag commetns from unrelated thread into another unless its actually relevant

b - you've a lot of posts OP and actually I have somewhat of a life myself so I can;t be bothered.

Can we just all assume that it would have indeed been very funny instead so I can get the credit without actually having to do the work?

Crikey, does it really mean that kisses ? I just made it up. Will change it, again, forthwith.

My usual name is possibly more familiar on here.

But twas in another country and besides the man is dead.

Smokin - you're clearly a bit weird, why would you even look at my previous posts? !

I agree with kisses, I wouldn't have sex with a stranger.

kewcumber

hang on

nothing

Nope.

Can't think of a single thing.