Whoops! Slept with one of my best friends!

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Known my very good friend for nearly 14 years, nothing has ever happened before but then we've never been single at the same time before...

We were pretty drunk but not steaming. I have just come out of a long term relationship (and have one dd) and my ex was verbally/emotionally abusive. I have been single for just a month. My friend didn't take advantage of me or anything, I feel anything but vulnerable, in fact I feel pretty good :)

Plus it was really good, passionate sex that I haven't experienced in quite some time!

I do fancy my friend quite a bit but it is a bit soon and he has a quite a history of relationships amongst our friends, as do I! So I am wary of moving too fast and I also don't want to scare him off. We both knew what we were doing was probably inappropriate but we did it anyway.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We get on so well and I don't want to risk messing up our friendship but at the same time I think we would be a great couple if we actually got it together. I don't really know how he feels though....

I've just looked up my old threads to save you the effort.

I was amazeballs!

that didn't save me any effort at all, because you didn't actually quote any of them. Or poke fun at yourself.

Blimey I have to do everything around here.

I've had sex btw

and I;m a single parent

I honestly don't get what you're driving at.

What has you having sex and being a lone parent kewcumber, got to do with me saying that op should think carefully before throwing herself full-pelt into a sexual relationship with her best mate when she's got a toddler and is only four weeks off from getting out of a shit relationship?

It just baffles me how people can be bothered to check up on peoples past threads on these sites

OP sounds like your in need of a bit of fun, ignore the negative comments just because your a mummy who isnt wth the father anymore does not mean you have to turn cellibate

Smokin weeelllll technically you didn't say that she should think carefully...

You said:

*And how is your little girl coping?

I expect she stays with relatives a lot.*

You said she was ridiculous and delightful (I have to assume that was sarcasm otherwise it doesn't make a lot of sense), you also accused her of throwing herself at her friend. I guess you got that from Jane Austen as I'm not sure I would consider consenting sex between adults followed by a few texts in the 2nd Millenium as throwing yourself anywhere

It's much easier having illicit sex with toddlers and them being non-the wiser than with older children.

If you meant to say "please be careful about getting into another relationship so soon after your previous one" then you should have said that. Otherwise posters such as I will interpret what you actually said (see above) as a tad pursed lips and judgy pants.

fordarling is write now eye think abowt it. Lissen to er. Shee noes what she is torking abowt.

cuecumbar is allsoe a geenius . Lissen to er an all. Eye am wel hoyst by mee own petard.

Why did you name change for this thread Smokin?

Ahem.

mummyof4 posters often look up previous threads on MN. It helps get many threads into perspective.

Often, in fact, posters refer to their own back threads. Often they have been hit or mildly abused in the past and are not sure if wehat they are experiencing is an escalation.

Others have been suicidal. They have self-harmed a couple of years or so ago and now need reassurance.

It is sometimes important to cross-reference previous threads. To help someone who is in crisis.

Krispy why have you namechanged?

It's not a crime to look back at posters' previous threads either.

What was the peculiar poking fun at spelling all about

Was it to throw us off the scent that you are slightly batty?

Yes quoting previous posts can be helpful. Not sure how her ex partner behaves is terribly relevant to her having sex with her friend. Unless you do truly believe that she neglects her 2 year old. Not sure what you'd base that on though.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Oh yes, similar-ish - but without the dc, and without the 'lots of relationships with friends.' And reader, I married him. Never looked back.

^ I was about to post this, but I now see some sort of stalkerish bunfight has broken out. Never mind. Good luck OP.

Yawn.

Oh well. Those who bore easily are frequently boring.

I feel like a giggly schoolgirl for you OP, hope you can make it out on Friday. Sounds like you're both quite keen too!

Smoke, congratulations. You've managed to turn a rather sweet, innocent thread into a boring nonsense. Please exit so girly playground giggling can continue.

Crikey, look at what I missed!

will somebody please think of the children a la the Simpsons

On a serious note tho, your ex is in a band? How old is he?

Sooooo, what time are you gonna text him?? Have you got a draft text?

Giggling continued

He's 29, I'm 30 - why do you ask?

No draft text yet hehe :) will probably text him after work tonight.

My friend is 34 btw, so more mature hehe :)

Smokin'.. I haven't. (Name changed). I asked you because I was wondering if you were conducting a sort of social experiment..?

Just ask because last time I was in a band I was 10

Please keep us updated on his reply!!!!

Don't remember costa coffee man