Today I did something truly terrible

[Holyshit58]

And I am totally horrified at my actions.

DH & I have been having marriage problems for the last year. I love him very much but I find him very controlling.
He's very critical of me & I feel like I can't do anything right.
For example, I couldn't order the curry last night, I had to wait for him to get in from work. Obviously I'm unable to use the phone- I'll only do it wrong.

Fast forward to today, we were going out together, I was supposed to drive, prearranged. I could see how difficult it was for him, noone ever does anything as well as he does.
DH proceeded to tell me slow- fast- watch your speed etc. this was continual he then told me where I should get off so we could enjoy a cup of coffee. When I dutifully pulled of he then directed me where to park

I expressed how unhappy I was with the constant commands & he apologised but got cross with me, he then told me to shut up as he'd apologised.

Once we got inside I went to find a table after 5 min DH hadn't joined me. I went looking for him and he was sat elsewhere eating & enjoying his coffee. The silent protest of a manchild.

That's when I did it.

I went.

I left him 60km from home at a service station.

Holy shit.

I feel a little bad for laughing. But I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.

the best of luck to you. keep heading for those hills.

Good for you, Holy. He sounds like a jerk.

Where are you now Holyshit58? Are you ok?

I hope he doesn't act like an even bigger arse for this, OP. I suspect he would make it out to be your fault, if he did :(

Have you got somewhere safe to go, if he does?

I'm afrain I laughed out loud when I got to the end of your op

Two possible outcomes:

1. He'll learn from this and you can work through it together

1. Leave him - he'll never change and can't see that his behaviour is wrong

don't expect him back today he will probably stay out until 5-7am. Long enough to have you had the police out so he can berate you for that as well.

The only thing that is 'terrible' is how long you have put up with this turdish behaviour.

I wouldn't be there when he got home either- I would be uncontactable for the foreseeable.

He is a knob cheese.

I have packed a bag ready just incase he starts his shit.

Holy Jesus though, who does that?

You went back promptly? Then you have nothing to feel bad about - he should have waited around in service station entrance when he realised you weren't around. He sounds awful - I hope this day marks a turning point for you and freedom!

Holyshit58 it's totally beautiful - poetic even!

How I wish I'd had the guts to do something like that!

What, leaves their arsehole of a dh to teach him some manners? Or treats his own dw with such vile contempt?

Sorry that was to the op

It definately won't be his fault. Is it ever?

I did feel like a cow though, I'm glad I posted now. I expected you all to tell me what a bitch I am.
When he comes home ready to berate me for being truly terrible I will feel confident that I am not so bad.

OP I think I love you.

OP I think many of us can think of occasions when we wished thT we had had the courage to do what you did. well done you, and thank you for the best laugh I have had in quite a while. Good luck for later when he returns, I am guessing he will not be able to see the funny side.

What's the betting he saw you looking and just hid from you? The big drama queen.

Have an escape plan. You did the right thing

OP, hats off to you.
He's lucky you left him at a petrol station and not in a lay by.

Haha. Natural justice. He deserved it, op. Whatever he tells you, he had that coming.

I truly don't understand why you feel bad. He criticises your driving.....he walks or finds an alternative.

He sounds very entitled and you have called his bluff. Good job.

I've come back to say this has been playing on my mind because he sounds like my ex who made me feel turkey shut about myself and I ended thinking I was in the wrong most of the time. I didn't know down from up. I hope you are ok x

OP you have done the right thing. I understand how you feel with DH treatment. We can only take so much. Me and DH are in counselling as I was going to leave for the same things. Even after things improving all is not well. I think I may have underestimated the damage all those actions had. I hope your DH doesn't come back and start. But I think we know the actions and sentence he will roll out with great passion . Stay in touch for support and let us know you're ok.

That is quite funny but I'm worried that you've packed a bag in case it's unbearable - could he be that bad? In that case, maybe it's time for a serious talk.

Truly shit not turkey shut