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Today I did something truly terrible

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Holyshit58 · 12/04/2014 14:25

And I am totally horrified at my actions.

DH & I have been having marriage problems for the last year. I love him very much but I find him very controlling.
He's very critical of me & I feel like I can't do anything right.
For example, I couldn't order the curry last night, I had to wait for him to get in from work. Obviously I'm unable to use the phone- I'll only do it wrong.

Fast forward to today, we were going out together, I was supposed to drive, prearranged. I could see how difficult it was for him, noone ever does anything as well as he does.
DH proceeded to tell me slow- fast- watch your speed etc. this was continual he then told me where I should get off so we could enjoy a cup of coffee. When I dutifully pulled of he then directed me where to park Hmm

I expressed how unhappy I was with the constant commands & he apologised but got cross with me, he then told me to shut up as he'd apologised.

Once we got inside I went to find a table after 5 min DH hadn't joined me. I went looking for him and he was sat elsewhere eating & enjoying his coffee. The silent protest of a manchild.

That's when I did it.

I went.

I left him 60km from home at a service station.

Holy shit.

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specialsubject · 12/04/2014 14:34

I feel a little bad for laughing. But I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.

the best of luck to you. keep heading for those hills.

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Coconutty · 12/04/2014 14:35

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DorothyBastard · 12/04/2014 14:35

Good for you, Holy. He sounds like a jerk.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 12/04/2014 14:36

Where are you now Holyshit58? Are you ok?

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ouryve · 12/04/2014 14:37

I hope he doesn't act like an even bigger arse for this, OP. I suspect he would make it out to be your fault, if he did :(

Have you got somewhere safe to go, if he does?

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fortyplus · 12/04/2014 14:37

I'm afrain I laughed out loud when I got to the end of your op Blush

Two possible outcomes:

  1. He'll learn from this and you can work through it together


  1. Leave him - he'll never change and can't see that his behaviour is wrong
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IAmNotAMindReader · 12/04/2014 14:37

don't expect him back today he will probably stay out until 5-7am. Long enough to have you had the police out so he can berate you for that as well.

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Flangeofmingetown · 12/04/2014 14:37

The only thing that is 'terrible' is how long you have put up with this turdish behaviour.

I wouldn't be there when he got home either- I would be uncontactable for the foreseeable.

He is a knob cheese.

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Holyshit58 · 12/04/2014 14:37

I have packed a bag ready just incase he starts his shit.

Holy Jesus though, who does that?

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Walkacrossthesand · 12/04/2014 14:39

You went back promptly? Then you have nothing to feel bad about - he should have waited around in service station entrance when he realised you weren't around. He sounds awful - I hope this day marks a turning point for you and freedom!

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fortyplus · 12/04/2014 14:39

Holyshit58 it's totally beautiful - poetic even!

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DocMcStuffinsBigBookOfOuches · 12/04/2014 14:39

How I wish I'd had the guts to do something like that!

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 12/04/2014 14:40

What, leaves their arsehole of a dh to teach him some manners? Or treats his own dw with such vile contempt?

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 12/04/2014 14:40

Sorry that was to the op Blush

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Holyshit58 · 12/04/2014 14:40

It definately won't be his fault. Is it ever?

I did feel like a cow though, I'm glad I posted now. I expected you all to tell me what a bitch I am.
When he comes home ready to berate me for being truly terrible I will feel confident that I am not so bad.

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BosieDufflecoat · 12/04/2014 14:41

OP I think I love you.

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PoshPenny · 12/04/2014 14:41

OP I think many of us can think of occasions when we wished thT we had had the courage to do what you did. well done you, and thank you for the best laugh I have had in quite a while. Good luck for later when he returns, I am guessing he will not be able to see the funny side.

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CarolineKnappShappey · 12/04/2014 14:41

What's the betting he saw you looking and just hid from you? The big drama queen.

Have an escape plan. You did the right thing

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KiaOraOAotearoa · 12/04/2014 14:43

OP, hats off to you.
He's lucky you left him at a petrol station and not in a lay by.

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wheretheairisrarefied · 12/04/2014 14:43

Haha. Natural justice. He deserved it, op. Whatever he tells you, he had that coming.

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Flangeofmingetown · 12/04/2014 14:43

I truly don't understand why you feel bad. He criticises your driving.....he walks or finds an alternative.

He sounds very entitled and you have called his bluff. Good job.

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ItsMyFuckingWedding · 12/04/2014 14:45

I've come back to say this has been playing on my mind because he sounds like my ex who made me feel turkey shut about myself and I ended thinking I was in the wrong most of the time. I didn't know down from up. I hope you are ok x

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CakeWillDo · 12/04/2014 14:45

OP you have done the right thing. I understand how you feel with DH treatment. We can only take so much. Me and DH are in counselling as I was going to leave for the same things. Even after things improving all is not well. I think I may have underestimated the damage all those actions had. I hope your DH doesn't come back and start. But I think we know the actions and sentence he will roll out with great passionSad . Stay in touch for support and let us know you're ok.

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ChasedByBees · 12/04/2014 14:45

That is quite funny but I'm worried that you've packed a bag in case it's unbearable - could he be that bad? In that case, maybe it's time for a serious talk.

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ItsMyFuckingWedding · 12/04/2014 14:45

Truly shit not turkey shut Grin

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