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Original poster

DCs went on holiday (abroad) with soon to be ex H, supposed to be back y'day - no sign.

439 replies

januarycat · 11/04/2014 20:37

early stages of divorce.

The 3yo hasn't ever spent a night away from me. they were supposed to be back y'day. h phoned today to say it will be sunday. he said he'd told me when they left - he didn't, in fact he said they would travel thursday, be back following thursday.

he is playing games & was being very 'oh, dear, did you forget I told you it would be sunday?'

he has made threats in the past to take them away.

I have phoned the police (101) to log it. they said phone back on sunday if no sign & think about getting a court order.

he thinks it's funny & was being patronising & sarcastic on the phone, he finished the call by saying how lovely it was to talk to me. he is doing what he knows will hurt me the most.

Did I do the right thing calling the police. h is emotionally abusive & i often doubt how I feel/think/react.

Thanks for any advice.

OP posts:
tribpot · 13/04/2014 20:14

Oh thank goodness. I'm so pleased. I truly hope he isn't there.

singaporefling · 13/04/2014 20:14

Fantastic!!!!! So relieved and happy for you !!

clam · 13/04/2014 20:14

If there's no official residency order, but just an informal arrangement between the OP and her ex, can he then be said to have kidnapped them?
Genuine question. I don't know how these things work.

Pannacotta · 13/04/2014 20:14

Cross posted.
Thank goodness.
Hope they are all ok and you too OP.

clam · 13/04/2014 20:15

Oops. X post.
Great news. Grin

Lweji · 13/04/2014 20:15

Phew!

Did you kick his balls? Angry

fideline · 13/04/2014 20:15

I can't believe how much the EXH Tosser is dragging this out.

fideline · 13/04/2014 20:15

Oh thank goodness

MiscellaneousAssortment · 13/04/2014 20:16

Thank God!!!

Now have a huge snuggle and steel yourself for tomorrow. Don't let him get away with this please.

LavenderGreen14 · 13/04/2014 20:17

oh what a relief - I hope he wasn't nasty to you when he dropped them off.

pissedglitter · 13/04/2014 20:17

Fantastic!! Grin

Now go kick that fucker and never let him near your babies again

MexicanSpringtime · 13/04/2014 20:18

So glad!

Ruprekt · 13/04/2014 20:19

Phew!SmileSmileSmile

Monetbyhimself · 13/04/2014 20:20
Smile

Enjoy your cuddles OP.

HappySunflower · 13/04/2014 20:20

Oh, thank goodness for that. You just be so relieved and I bet you are squeezing them very tightly.

Enjoy being back together.
Hope he wasn't too unpleasant when he dropped them off.

PoloMintCity · 13/04/2014 20:20

Been silently following this with my heart in my mouth. So glad they're back. Are they okay? Nt usually one for revenge but in this instance I could make an exception - what a horrible thing to do!

incogKNEEto · 13/04/2014 20:24

Thank goodness for that Smile so pleased for you. Enjoy those cuddles and remember not to let h convince you that you've overreacted and continue with your action plan tomorrow, you never want another weekend like this one Flowers

kinkyfuckery · 13/04/2014 20:25

So glad they are back. Go squeeze them tight. I hope you haven't bitten with the provocation I'm sure he'll be throwing at you just now.
Now we're here to hold your hand tomorrow.

aylesburyduck · 13/04/2014 20:26

So glad to hear your dc are home with you.

As for their fuckwit father.....I'm not going to waste words on him!!

Zamboni · 13/04/2014 20:27

So glad they are back. Very urgent legal advice required now.

bumbleymummy · 13/04/2014 20:27

Great news! :)

Jollyphonics · 13/04/2014 20:29

What a relief. Never again, ever. He's blown it in my opinion.

anonacfr · 13/04/2014 20:31

Yay! Hope you're all enjoying the gorgeous chocolate cake!

DocMcStuffinsBigBookOfOuches · 13/04/2014 20:31

Thank goodness they are home safe. Please carry out your action plan tomorrow morning OP. I would hate for you to go through the same, or even worse, in the future.

lucysnowe · 13/04/2014 20:34

So pleased for you. :) Hope everything goes well in future and your ExH is properly punished for all the stress he put you through. xxx