The ex wife

[Justthegirlfriend]

Long time lurker first time poster.

My bf ex wife is starting to become a bit of a nightmare and its really hard for me to bite my tounge so I'm going to have a wee rant. Please don't flame me but I need to get this out. I did try netmums but there was too much huni and xx for my liking. Plus you lovely vipers will give it to me straight

1. She is demanding to meet me not to just be aware of me but to see how simple I am - wft I am an educated 30 year old woman who does not need to be judged by a random woman who seems to want to hate me from the get go. I was all for her meeting me before I meet the boys but now not so much.

1. She has told him that he is not allowed to live with my at all or ever because this is a bad environment for the children and it will confuse them. This woman through him a short time before the new bf moved in even the 5 year old knows that's what happened. No idea how it would be a bad environment we both work and are respectable people.

1. Everything we do she has to do better. We have a night out in a so called "posh" part for town and had a few bottle of champagne we had a fab night. It's no big dealing going to this part of town I have always went there but she has to boast about going to the same part of town and drinking champagne because we have.

Pleases give me some coping stratages and please tell me this nonsense will stop. I have tried the this too shall pass but I don't think it will.

Oh god I'm a bitch aren't I?

Easier to say that now with the benefit of hindsight of course. Its why I feel so sad to see women not listening to warnings, but understandably so. I've done it myself (different circumstances) but boy do you look back and think "wtf was I doing ...??"

She was the one boasting about drinking in that part of town and rubbing is nose in it when to us/ me itisn't really a big deal.

But that is so obviously not true, is it? It's clearly a very big deal to you. you can go on fb and smugly post photos of bottles of champagne and mention the posh part of town you are in, and you think you are just casually mentioning it. She does the same, and she's 'boasting' and 'rubbing his nose in it.'

Can you not see the irony? and just how childish it all sounds?

The other thing is that if this woman has never met you, and you have not yet met his children, and your BF is not on facebook, how on earth does she get to stalk your profile when she should not even need to know your full name? Has he been rubbing her nose in anything do you suppose?

All three of you need to grow up and stop this pathetic nonsense. Seriously. Why don't you start, by setting a good example to them both and telling him that you don't want to see/hear about any of it any more, and lay off sharing details of your dates on fb until he has been separated a few more months? That would be a good start. And sort out your profile settings. Unless of course you secretly love it, in which case carry on.

I definitely think WTF!!! was I doing?? AnyFucker however, despite all the shit that my ex put me through it was an experience that taught me an awful lot. It may have left me bitter about relationships and still very angry about he and his family have treated my DS but I am happier than I have ever been. I have more understanding of myself and more compassion for those around me in shitty circumstances.

I think it is very difficult at times to act rationally when such high emotions are knocking about and when self-esteem is getting knocked but OP leave him to his mess and his drama.