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Occasionally bothered by husbands numerous sexual partners

236 replies

pigletandme · 15/08/2006 21:15

Dh and i have been together about 6 years and soon after we were together he admitted to me that when he was alot younger (18/19) he slept with about 15 (he can't remember exactly) girls when he was at college - all his friends did the same and it was all "meaningless" He was mid 30's when we met and since the age of 19 only had 3 girlfriends and no other casual flings. He regrettted his behaviour at college and got checked for std's soon after he left as he was worried incase he could have passed on anything to a future girlfriend although he said he always used protection. Sometimes what he did bothers me (although i have certain things in the past which i would never do again)but i try to tell myself it was all such a long time ago and his "relationship history" since the age of 19 has been quite tame. I suppose i should put it out of my mind once and for all?

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Panboy · 17/08/2006 14:14

Been reading this thread..I know I shouldn't!!..it's wrong and dirty!!....you are making me do it......okay then!!!

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 14:17

Panboy, feeling threatened yet? All these unashamed harlots?

Panboy · 17/08/2006 14:24

Nah...met some of them....

Panboy · 17/08/2006 14:30

Only kidding!!

But so much nicer to meet aa "shamed harlot"..so much more intriguing..when SHE says "I really shouldn't be doing this"..adds to the frisson doing you think??

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 14:37

You mean those who say "I shouldn't be doing this, it's wrong" while hurriedly unzipping one's flies? Yeah they are great.

Panboy · 17/08/2006 14:43

Exactly!! Has happened twice, though with no explanation at the time as to why it was wrong..second time when this was intimated to me, I said "Okay" and got off the top of the coal shed (yes)..only made it as far as the back door before a hand grabbed my jeans belt from behind, accompanied by the words "and where do you think you're going?"...can't win, can you?

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 14:45

Yes, Panboy, right up there w/the man who takes a woman home after meeting her at club/bar/pub/party/whatever and then one of them pulls the, 'I don't normally do this' or 'This is the first time I've ever done this' crock.

Yeah, right!

Panboy · 17/08/2006 14:49

Bit unfair expat...sometimes it IS genuine...when the circumstance and the screaming hormones(and yes, the booze consumed) leads people to behave differently..if only for one night..or am I being naieve....

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 14:52

Do you two know each other? Panboy, not a sailing philosophy teacher, are you?

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 14:55

It's not unfair, b/c it's usually a crock. Honestly, why not just say nothing? Why justify the fact that you want to shag someone you just met senseless?

Nothing wrong w/it at all if you're both single - just remember the protection!

I'd always just giggle and say, 'Bet you say that to all the girls' and get on w/more important matter

Long live the one night/few hours/morning stand!

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 14:57

Ahhh yes expat but you said yourself that him having a boyfriend is like a bone to a dog.

Did I mention that I'm married?

Beetroot · 17/08/2006 14:58

i said that loads of times

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:02

Yeah, but he didn't say the 'I don't normally do this' line. He used the 'I shouldn't be doing this . . . '

Exactly, Beetroot!

'This is my first one night stand' 'I don't normally shag someone I just met the same night' 'I'm terribly drunk and that's not usual for me'.

I mean, who cares? You brought me back to your place to boink me all night, not for a counselling session to deal w/all your guilt, so start getting jiggy, boy, or I'm going home to finish the job myself.

Panboy · 17/08/2006 15:05

It would probably help the situation if you 'finished the job' there...what has become known as the "tipping point"....

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:06

Panboy's been around .

Panboy · 17/08/2006 15:08

WWWHHHAAATTTTT!!! {wink]

Panboy · 17/08/2006 15:09

or even...

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:09

Panboy changes his name to 'Playerboy'.

Sorry, but of American slang there.

FioFio · 17/08/2006 15:10

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expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:12

, Fio.

The love of my life was not what you would call physically attractive.

One time - among many - that we'd split up, a fellow climber (male) asked me, 'What is it about that guy?! He gets all the chicks!'

As a response, I just looked between his legs.

He was like, 'Oh, I see . . .'

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 15:15

Oh no expat, now I'm worrying why I've only had 2!

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:17

See why DH and I just don't discuss past lovers?

I mean, he wasn't exactly living in a monastery when I met him . . .

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 15:18

No, I meant following your "looked between his legs" comment!

TambaTheAnnoyingPurpleDragon · 17/08/2006 15:19

Oh Expat you make me laugh

You should write a sex and dating manual!

Bet you cant beat going out with a lad and then discovering he only had half a knob though? (Due to freak accident apparntly....)

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 15:19

Oh, yeah

That really came as a surprise, b/c he was really lean and wiry.

A nice surprise, I might add .