The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

Well done dont .. that took courage , knowing how you felt about him !! Geeky really showed his true colours... best of luck with more old :)

Blimey dont you don't waste time.

I have to men calling me tonight, bloody hell, I hope I don't get confused lolxx

Sounds exciting, blossomflower!

Do you know, what. I'm proud of myself tonight. I love geeky, but I let him go and made sure there was no way back. Because I am more valuable than any man.

Perfect dont ... keep it going :)

And no man will ever stop me using mumsnet again!

Good :) really men are not worth it !! We are much betterthan the crap we receive

It's when I realised that even as a fuck buddy he wanted to dictate everything. It's very much his way or the highway. And he really wasn't that good. He was the kind of man who liked his needs to be met and didn't really care about me.

Sounds familiar .. controlling men have a way of making you believe their way is right.... I'm glad you saw through him

dont I can't tell you how glad I am to read this. Thank fuck.

Sorry you've been hurt though

I've crashed a bit now. I am crying a bit. But I'll be ok. I've never loved anyone like I love him. But he's so very very bad for me.

You know what nothing wrong with a fuck buddy if both parties are happy and being totally honest.
I have been chatting this lovely guy all weekend but he lives such a long way from me, can't see how that is ever going to come to anything

I would have been ok with having him as a fuck buddy if he'd agreed to come to my house. The hotel thing was seedy.

As I said before dont he sounds like a dick. Did he want to leave money on the bedside afterwards bloody idiot. Crack on with you new potential and forget about him.

Ok, looking for some advice here. Be kind. I finally signed up to a dating site last Sunday, had a few views, but no contact. I feel my profile is as dull as dishwater, so I am wondering what to do next. Any thoughts gratefully received!

Here is another annoying thing, I have been contacted by 2 really looking men engaged and having nice messaging, both sounded really promising and then both have deleted their profiles. Obviously both married and looking for a bit of excitement sad time wasting gits. Is it just me?

Here I am! I met the guy from POF for the first time today. Met at 3pm and I just got home :)

Seems really nice. I think we both like each other so let's hope he contacts me for another date. We didn;t have any awkward silences or anything and both had good laughs along the way.

I also have another message on POF from a guy I really, really like the look and idea of. So I have instigated meeting. Hehe I am so baaaddd!

Sounds great bramble lucky you, good to have a back up too, not bad at all.

Sadmum

There have been various posts in the last 70 or so threads on how to make your profile better, but that's 70000 messages or so to wade through, so here's a summary..

Try and have an amusing headline, a pithy one liner or amusing comment.
Avoid cliches, like 'staying in with DVDs and wine/ long walks on the beach/ work hard play hard/my kids are my world' - they put people off and makes you look the same as everyone else.

Have between 2 and 6 photos, none of horses or of your kids, just you smiling if possible

Dont say the same as everyone else, there are thousands of profiles. Say what is quirky and interesting. Say what you like in a man but without a very specific list (big face and red jumper etc)

And read the thread rules on the first page, they're the distilled wisdom of many bad and good experiences.

Hello everyone else.

Can I just add to Bant's list, try to be positive and upbeat in your headline and profile. For me there's nothing worse than a man who puts 'Fed up of this site' or 'Been single for ages now, are there any decent women left?' - he could look like Keanu Reeves and I'd still skip that profile. Negativity is very unattractive.

Agree with that one soft, though if he looked like Jonny Depp might have to make an exception

Hi. I live in Istanbul.

Yeah, and? I don't. What is the fucking point of sending me a message if you live in Turkey?

Hi Bant and Soft, thank you for thoughts ( I really couldn't wade through 70000 posts, although for fat ball and penis beaker thread it felt like that many!). I do need to be more +. It was part of that new mentality that drove me to finally sign up to a site (telegraph dating). Pictures....I posted 1 of just me smiling, so need to find some more.

Thanks jarlin and santa - I don't know if boring was the right word but it's just we've had a first date and sporadic texting since so I had an inkling to see him again if he asked as he was genuine. No sparks and I didn't fancy him facially, but thought maybe a second date would be the decider. But it's all very spread out and dry and I don't feel anything, he is certainly not driving it forward but he keeps in touch but there is zero banter, momentum etc. Boy I'm fed up of the whole thing!

dont good you kept your dignity, what he was proposing was extremely insulting, more for the fact that you had started off so intense. If he had said no strings, no meeting kids etc from the beginning then you could have said yay or nay, but backtracking like that was bad form, I couldn't imagine being downgraded like that and putting up with it....you deserve better.