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The Dating Thread 71

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TheCrow · 07/03/2014 21:54

Welcome to all daters :)

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dippinmytoe · 08/03/2014 21:13

I'm on my own.. even kids gone !! So drinking wine at my mums .. how sad am I ???

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Blossomflowers · 08/03/2014 21:18

oh single life, mind you would rather be sitting on my own watching what I want than spending it with my x getting drunk and and abusive.

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BramblePie · 08/03/2014 21:36

I'm in on my own. Going on a date tomorrow though. Eek!

I am feeling pretty sad and depressed now. I am a relationshipy kind of person and hate being alone. :(
But.. i did just get a notification from POF that the guy i want to go on a date with wants to meet me so i messaged him and waiting on his reply.

Love that feeling but it's disappointing if they dont reply!

Blossomflowers · 08/03/2014 21:45

bramble good luck for date tomorrow,day or night? I have nothing planned ds off with his dad. Wish I had date. ho hum
jarlin exactly, I am going finish painting my bedroom, oh my life is so exciting lol

BramblePie · 08/03/2014 21:48

Late afternoon, think we are just going for a hot choc :) Thanks for the luck x

Santaclaws · 08/03/2014 21:51

ofg I went for Sunday lunch with Brickys parents after 4 weeks, it is quite soon but I enjoyed it and it's more likely they are genuine if they involve you with their family. Have a great time :)

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 08/03/2014 22:26

I'm on my own tonight too. Exchanged a few texts with MCS during one of which he said he could have come round with some wine tonight. I said I'd had no idea he was free tonight as my crystal ball isn't working Grin. He then offered to come round straight away. This was about ten past nine. I admit I had to think hard about it because I really would like to see him but I'm not a fucking booty call Hmm, so I declined.

These things are never bloody simple, are they?!

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Blossomflowers · 08/03/2014 22:36

soft I swear to god these men are on a different planet.
Eventhough had a few glasses of wine have not buckled and texted MrSA. I need to get tough like you.

Santaclaws · 08/03/2014 22:54

Well done soft he might be more organised next time!

jarlin the meeting with DD and Bricky went well thank you. He very kindly paid for everyone's meal, my daughter did try to decline but he did it anyway. I haven't met such a generous man in a long time. We are not seeing eachother tonight as I have spent the day at my friends house and haven't long got home so he has gone out with his friend. He will be round tomorrow. I must bring up the subject of the dating sites I think as we are still on them

scornedwoman67 · 09/03/2014 00:35

omg. 2nd date disaster. And I feel like such a cow...but...we spent the whole evening talking about trains. And de-railings. And then his plans for our holiday together this year and how we could pool our respective houses and settle down. Went back to his for coffee and had to sit & watch a demo of his new TV. Then he just leapt on me & stuck his tongue down my throat before asking when he could see me again. I made my excuses and left. Quick. I could cry....where are the normal ones????

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 01:07

Scorned oh so sorry he sounds a nightmare, why do you feel like cow?

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 09/03/2014 06:41

I've been awake since 4.35am so I'm not happy. Things just going round and round in my head.

I'm not tough at all Blossom, in fact I need to be tougher. While lying awake I've thought of half a dozen fantastic replies to MCS's request to come round late last night. Wish I'd thought of them at the time but I'll keep them in my memory banks for future use.

Unfortunately Jarlin I don't feel any more positive. He might have offered to come round last night but it's clear that was because he had nothing better to do and no better offer. If he knew he was going to be free and he wanted to see me, he'd have contacted me much earlier in the day, wouldn't he? Sadly, I'm just an afterthought, a distraction Sad.

Santa Bricky sounds lovely! Seems like you've struck gold. Definitely mention the dating sites, see if you both want to come off.

Scorned Why did you talk about trains all night?! He sounds way too full on. Have you agreed to go on holiday with him, and pool your houses? If not, just tell him he's jumping the gun. Are you even going to see him again?

Santaclaws · 09/03/2014 07:25

scorned that all sounds really bizarre, I don't think you should feel like a cow, I think most women would have wanted to get away. Will you see him again?

I'm not feeling happy this morning. Had a look on POF just checking when Bricky was last on, I am not on that site myself we met on a different one. It has never shown him as online now but it does show that he's goes on everyday because it says online today. Well he's obviously woken today and checked it because his profile was right at the beginning of people listed as online today. WTF is he still doing this for?

I'm going to have to say something but don't know how really, I'm definately not booking a holiday with him if he's still on there. In a way I hate these dating sites, they can be a curse as well as a positive thing

jesy · 09/03/2014 08:39

Ok I'm nervous over today , he is cooking for me I've explained I'm not a good eater and he says he'll finish whatever I can't eat.
I love food but when nervous or stressed my issues with food flare up.
He has been nice enough to come over and collect me today , so why so nervous

LizzieBelle · 09/03/2014 08:56

softkitty Booty call! That made me laugh! And yes, you did the right thing! Even just because it takes time to get ready and he should have told you he was free!

scornedwoman67 · 09/03/2014 09:42

We spent the evening talking about trains because he just didn't talk about anything else. Thinking about it this morning, in fact he didn't ask me one thing about me at all!! I am actually wondering if he is slightly autistic. ..which could explain a lot. As for the plans for holidays & houses, I was astounded. I feel like a cow because he tried so hard to be a gentlemen. .but is clearly clueless Sad

scornedwoman67 · 09/03/2014 09:44

soft I think you're right. He needs to make you more than an afterthought.
santa I think you need to say exactly what you said here...you can't think about holiday plans when he's still looking elsewhere.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 09/03/2014 09:48

oldfashionedgirl 3 weeks to lunch with the parents does seem lightening speed, but if it's all been going well and it just feels natural why not?! I met Niceguy's mum (very briefly) on our 4th or 5th date as she had the tickets for something, and he met some of my family after 5 weeks, and those occasions just seemed to make sense. I'd be concerned it he was placing too much emphasis on how well I got on with family/whether they approved etc though. Good luck today!

softkitty def good call on not accepting the ''I could come right over now'' at 9.30pm on a saturday.....that is complete booty call territory. Nothing wrong with that unless that's all you want from him.

santa have the conversation.....it sounds like everything has been going so well with Bricky, I'm sure it won't be too awkward.
scorned - wow. So when's the wedding?

As for me, after a few glasses of wine last night, I bought up the engaged historic facebook status - turned out it was a mistake. He was never engaged and had the wrong thing on facebook when he set it up. He said he'd been more paranoid that I would think less of him for not having 100s of friends on there. False alarm. Niceguy is still super lovely, he also didn't treat me as being crazy for having been a bit perturbed by it. We're off out on a day trip now.
Good luck to the Sunday daters Smile

Santaclaws · 09/03/2014 09:51

Just what is wrong with these men?
Why do they always have to keep looking.
Can't they ever be happy with what they have?
Why does he want to book a holiday with me then still look on that site?
I'm tired of making excuses for them, like , oh well maybe he's just playing it safe as he's not sure of me so is keeping his options open
When do they STOP keeping their options open ffs?