The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

Ok so when I say 'never uses' he said he probably has 10 friends in there and very rarely checks it. The profile pic update ties in with me asking him about finding his profile on there so was probably for my benefit.

We've had all the deep and meaningfuls about previous relationships so I know how that one started, how serious it was (or so I thought!), how it ended and how he feels about her now, but he never mentioned that they were engaged, it's the not having told me that is irking me.

I think he might not even realise that the relationship status is visible on there.

*old relationship status that is, it does say single now! (We'll see about that haha)

dippinmytoe I am just concerned that it goes too fast. I don't want to rush into anything. At the same time we get along well and he is nice.

flora Interesting possibilities!

helloboys Toe phobia? And lots of love on the first message? Weird.

Oneday I don't know how you would bring it up with him without making it obvious that you have been checking his profile ...... Engaged feels more serious. It is a big deal more than dating in a way as it was heading towards marriage. But when do you ask about relationship history?

Jarlin Already!!!! Covers what I thought about it. Unless he takes a lot of different women to meet them. I keep thinking .... if something seems to good to be true .....

The previous relationship stuff was all discussed late one night maybe the 3rd or so time we spent the night together and sleeping was optional.

He sent me the friend request, so I wasn't snooping in looking at his profile.

Hmm. It will bother me so guess I have to bring it up. Dammit.

I didn't mean he would think you were snooping more of if you had looked at his profile a couple of times would he wonder why you hadn't accepted his friend request.

Ooh good point. Maybe I should do that!

If he has referred to it previously I wouldn't have batted an eyelid. But he's only ever said "ex-girlfriend". Humph.

Jarlin Not a bad idea but still but decided to reply yo the last txt. Would you?
I always knew finishing late could be an issue but in my mind I am not sure if he is using this as an excuse, if he is not interested in trying to each other why not say.
Gist of last tst was he liked me alot and loves time tog, but has underestimated free time bla bla, sorry to be a pain my lovely! This was sent 8.00 last night
Should I reply or ignore, answers in a post card please

*had not has

hello the toe thing made me laugh. Where do all these weirdos come from? ?!
one day I don't think an engagement from years ago would bother me & if he was trying to hide something he wouldn't have sent the friend request I wouldn't have thought
jarlin Sounds positive with SB. I'd just run with it for a while & see what develops
blossom I do wonder from what you've said whether MrSA is actually as single as he says. Have you checked the electoral roll for another person living at his house? I've done it when suspicious

We're off for a meal tonight so will report back. TD is very keen...

scorned don't have his address. Guess I I will never find out. I would be absolutely devastated if I found out he was cheating., I would hate hate to be an OW, I just believed him.

blossom sorry he's made you feel like this. It's crap

Just to re-iterate the engagement itself does not bother me, at all. The lying by omission does. Thinking harder about it there's been several conversations about attitudes to marriage, a previous proposal I had, how I felt about marriage in my last LTR... would all have been natural points to mention it, aside from when we actually discussed that relationship itself (maybe 2 or 3 times).

Maybe I'm being crazy.

maybe just say you're a bit surprised he's been engaged as he hadn't mentioned it. See what he says. Maybe he was really hurt. ..there could be a reasonable explanation (ever the optimist I am!)

Thanks scorned onwards and upwards. Still if nothing else it reminded how good sex could be. I have heard nothing from him, I actually think the ball is in court, to prove he really like me. I am pretty confident I will not hear from him.
I am in the middle of decorating my bedroom and struggling to undo the last screw in a curtain pole and just burst into tears, how bloody silly ( nothing to do with dating just angry I am a weak armed woman)

I understand what you mean blossom the only thing I miss about XH is when I need some DIY doing ( and he wasn't any good at it anyway! ) or the bins putting out. Just remind yourself how utterly irritating they can be. Have a few tonight x

Hi all signing into new thread!!

Oneday that would bother me as well, why wouldn't he mention he had been engaged? It is a pretty big thing to not mention. Fb is a bit of a nightmare though, Smallfeet has this horrible picture on his of him and another woman looking way too pally and I can't bring myself to ask who it is!!

Hi
Well wish me luck for tomorrow.
He is picking me up going to his for food with wine and a movie.

scorned Well bedroom half painted and Ds came home and sorted the last screw on the curtain problem. silly me getting upset over something trivial Yes will have a few just about to indian takeaway. And will not text MrSa unless he contacts me first, am I being childish?

Not childish at blossom ... enjoy the wine and takeaway.

jesy have fun tomorrow night.

oneday if you have discussed past engagements , weddings etc and he didn't declare he was previously engaged , I would be wondering too.

Hey, just thought I'd say hi!

I intend to hang around here quite a bit in the foreseeable future. I can't be trusted to make my own decisions

Sorry to hear you're fed up blossom

Well, he's on his way over with takeaway, I'm just pouring myself a large glass of red after a rather stressful work shift, and a long week overall. We have a lovely day out planned tomorrow, I just want to relax. I'm not going to bring it up unless conversation naturally leads that way, but I want to get to the bottom of it soon.

Thanks for the sounding board guys

mmm
Glad you all think I am not being paranoid, I suppose better to find out what he is like now than a few weeks/months down the road.
So who is in on their own this Satruday night? I can't even rebothered to go on any dating sites tonight.