The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

Morning all, hope you all have lots of plans for the weeks, jesy your man is at football all weekend.

Well I have a date with what I call mrsensible (successful business man) he a driving quite a way and we have a table booked for dinner. He has texted me every day this week. This not my normal kind of date but so far things really have not been working out so maybe time to try something new. MR SA still on POF all the time, funny he did not have time to day, move on.

No just sat but will be with his mate's till late and I have plans on Sunday.
I'm fine with it (please no one think I'm trying to . Please him as I'm not) I saw him Tuesday and will do one night in week.
I posted in relationship bit and got savAged over this type thing but I'm happy way we going with my first relationship I pushed to see him and 6 weeks in I was at his 4 nights a week I learnt from that , after 2 years of crap I'm starting to feel positive
He makes an effort with me that's what matters to me

Morning all, quickly checking in before work

Blossom good idea, try something different/new. I have and so far seems to be working for me :)

Jarlin Have a fantastic weekend I hope all goes well, I'm sure it will. If you get a spare minute let us know ;)

Jesy so long as you feel happy with how things are, that's what matters. It sounds wise to me not to be in eachothers pockets but to have your own plans also.

To everyone who has a date or not this weekend, have a great one :)

Bricky seems back on form, it was only yesterday that he didn't reply when at work for whatever reason. I'm not going to say anything though. Will be seeing him tomorrow and in two months if this has been my only gripe in his treatment of me ( and I can't really call it a gripe) then he's been exemplary

Santa yes exactly, I think we worry about these things far more than they do

Yep I am happy, I know a night in with telly not everyone's idea of fun but I enjoyed it.
He does a lot for the football, which is great and he is in sports training but makes an effort with me it might not seem much little stuff like offering to make my lunch for work ist Stoff im Notused 2

Jesy it's the little things that do matter though, making your work lunch is very thoughtful. I'm done with men who have loads of sweet talk and say things to you that they think you want to hear. Very often their actions do NOT match up to the words as it's all just talk

Santa glad you are feeling happier today. Think you might be right that I should try something new. Sick of emotionally unavailable men.

Santa Your right.
My ex was kind at times but I can't think of a time he asked me if I aS ok during sex, or offered to cook for me or even snuggled in bed without wanting sex

blossom I hope your date goes well. It has taken time for Bricky to grow on me I must admit and sometimes even now I'm not sure if I feel that way about him, but yesterday when I didn't get a reply I was really worried so I know he does mean something to me now. I really want it to work :)

Don't discount men if they are not your usual type or there's no instant attraction because it can grow

I'll admit with my first bf which not that long ago I wasn't physically attracted but personality won over.

um Santa I will give it a shot but physical attraction is important, but people can grow on you. I recently met up with my X, we have had been together for 20 years and thought if I met him now would I fancy him, answer was no.

Yeh physical attraction is important. I had a very long marriage in which there was practically none. Following that I had a four year relationship where it was overwhelming and the sex was like nothing I'd had before ( it sure taught me a lot ) but the rest of that relationship was terrible, he was abusive

With Bricky, it's somewhere in between the two I would say. I don't look at him and think phwooor but I do like sex with him. Can't quite work it out myself yet

Can I ask where the rules are posted?

What should I do . The man who messaged me Sunday morning but didn't again, messaged me finally on Wednesday, I messaged back but again haven't heard anything. His message sounded ok. He asked where I lived, I told him and his reply was I live down x so not far from you. With a wink.
Do I send him a message again or just leave it now?

Santa really am taking your advice have arranged another date this weekend with a chap who I would not really consider my type. He sounds lovely but will reserve judgement, my wall is firmly in place now.

still oh leave him be and find someone who is keen. If he is mucking around imagine what the future hold, if he is really keen then would be making an effort.

Jarlin - I'm not taking a break per se from OLD (or in real life) just I can't be bothered right now putting and finding decent pic up, going on dates etc...

So I shall live vicariously through all your love/dating lives for now!

By the way, I think some of those books like 'He's not that into you' are total rubbish! And as you saw, it didn't apply to Slow Burner!

Helloboys you prob meet someone when I not looking too.

With MrKids it's a strange one, he's not my physical type really. Wouldn't say I swoon over him but there is something there I do really like him more each time I see him. Am just hoping when we eventually DTD he blows my mind

hormone sounds like the way i feel with bricky not really my type as such but im liking him more and more.
When we first dtd it was a bit awkward tbh but it got better and better each time

I hate first time sex...but you have to do it to get to 2nd and 3rd lol. It's only over time that it gets better.

My ExP was very good in that department so who ever follows will have a hard act to follow. BUT even with him the first time was rubbish.

Hi ladies, I think I am having some real doubts re Smallfeet, I am just not sure I would want to be with him longterm, at the mo I see him twice a week and that is enough for me. I sort of think if he was 'the one' I would want to be with him all the time.

But then I am not sure how much of that is my own anxieties/ need for my own space, as when I am with him we get on well. I am just not sure Do other people struggle with having someone else 'there' all the time? I think I am broken

Girlie, I don't think there are any rules. There's nothing wrong with wanting your own space :)

I'm mega busy online! There are hotter men than geeky who, it turns out, like me! So far we have...hot policeman, Mr local, Mr tallandfit, olderguy and Mr tall. All of whom I am v interested in. I like it!!

Dont are you on Tinder? I'm liking it...loads of nice men!

Yes, lizzie I think tinder is fab - lots of hot men!

2 matches in half hour, and thats not bad for me heh heh! No daft profile to fill out, no ummimg and errrring about messaging! Only drawback is that they are nearly 30 miles away!

lizzie and don't I'm liking Tinder, its sort of 'no frills' isn't it and I like its simplicity!

The guys on Match are a weird bunch - don't get 'em at all. Not one date from there!

girle just take it slow and see how it goes!