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The Dating Thread 71

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TheCrow · 07/03/2014 21:54

Welcome to all daters :)

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jesy · 09/03/2014 10:01

How does this sound ?
Blue and flowered short dress , natural tights, denim jacket and flat shoes?
It's a lunch date at his but wanted to look casual n not over dressed.

Noddyandbigears · 09/03/2014 10:01

Wouldn't it be funny just to read one of these type of threads from a mans point of view - see all the crazy women they meet?!

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Santaclaws · 09/03/2014 10:17

jarlin I don't really know how to bring it up tbh. We are doing all these things together, meeting family, planning things on the summer but it's still early days and I don't want it getting too heavy and spoilt by me saying things. On the other hand I know I can't avoid it forever. I think I've been scared off because the last 3 month relationship I had from match all went wrong and he accused me of getting too serious when HE has instigated us coming off the site and was talking long term with me ect

positively9something · 09/03/2014 10:23

Hi everyone

I thought I would pop back into the dating thread for a chat Grin

I've been dating a guy for about 5 weeks now and when he was leaving mine yesterday morning I really didn't want him to go and either did he. It's starting to feel like a relationship, I actually like him. I havnt let myself get close to anyone for years. He seems like a really decent guy and normally I get involved with complete assholes so I can keep them at a certain distance.

So now we are in that In between sage where we havnt said we are exclusive but I hope we are how long does that stage last?? Grin

Also Santa how long have you been seeing bricky?

HanselandGretel · 09/03/2014 10:37

santa Hard to know what Bricky's reasons for logging on to the dating site are. But if you are checking every day then he is either answering messages or actively talking to other people and keeping his options open.
It would say online in the past week, 30 days etc if he hadnn't been on for a while.
I'd be a 'little' concerned as he's making all the right noises about you and meeting his family shows he sees you as a girlfriend, why else would he introduce you?
Maybe you could bring it up in a non confrontational way and see what he says, don't say you know he's been on there, maybe just ask casually if he ever gets any messages etc. Good luck.

Still sporadically texting with Mr Lunch, I'm bored if I'm honest and didn't reply to his last one but then he texted yesterday. What do I do? he hasn't mentioned meeting again but being so shy as he was I'm guessing he's building up to it or else he wouldn't keep texting.

LizzieBelle · 09/03/2014 11:10

jesy sounds perfect for a sunny day, have fun
jarlin Yes! I had date with Mr sweet and bossy friend last week, trying forget it tbh. He bought both if us flowers and a bottle of pink champagne. Yes yes, I know people think I am being a bitch, but I have told them both I am seeing someone who I am extremely fond of. I emailed my friend to tell her the I am not attracted to him, and she sent me a one word email saying BULLSHIT!!!!! I am struggling not to have a massive argument with her. Blush On a good note I met up with Mr Cute and stayed over at his place Wink It was lovely....and it had been 5 months since we dtd, and I was very sure that it is him I want to be with x

Santaclaws · 09/03/2014 11:27

Hi there positively I've been seeing Bricky for almost 6 weeks, we see quite a lot of eachother about 4 times a week it all seems very easy really, it's just POF I'm concerned about. Good luck with your man it's all sounding good :)

hansel if you are bored and don't really want to see him again I would just say you don't think it's right for you

Regarding POF it's looks to me like he looks at it first thing in the morning then doesn't appear to bother again that day. However he must be doing every day as it's always says online today. He did show me a message from a woman last week when we were out it came through and said she'd msg him several times but he hadn't replied. He then sent a reply in front of me to her saying he'd met someone, I didn't suggest this he did. He has also said a few times " I suppose I should come off the site really shouldn't i" and I Haven't really replied either way. Then he said he would come off Match when I did so I guess he has brought up the topic and I haven't responded

He has called me his girlfriend a few times. Plus he has invited me to his workmates party next month. Maybe I should just relax

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 12:48

Afternoon all, noddy I have spoken to a few men who OLD and seems they also experience similar kinds of thing, one chat I actually met put on his profiles he was only 5.6 and he was, he told me he met a lady for a date, she looked him up and down and said sorry you are too short and just left him standing in the pub. Poor guy.

HelloBoys · 09/03/2014 14:10

Jarlin - this thread moves so fast - yes I will hear him out, see what he says but am aware of the back burner thing!

Can't think of who else to respond too but glad things are going well and if they're not... well sorry to hear that.

HelloBoys · 09/03/2014 14:13

OneDay - I sort of guessed from your original post when you explained that it was nothing sinister re the engaged Facebook status and of course it isn't! Such a relief! But that's why talk is good. Smile

Softkitty - I agree with OneDay no don't agree to the 9.30pm Saturday booty call unless you want that.

scornedwoman - that sounds a strange 2nd date. Personally I wouldn't pursue it due to the one track talk (did you get my reference to trains with track?! lol!) but the holidays and houses is like whoa!

To anyone who LOL'd at my online dating message - well sorry no 2nd chance for him there - sounds a weirdo.

HelloBoys · 09/03/2014 14:19

Not quite online dating but this should make you lot laugh - Grin.

Was out last night at Cuban bar and got chatted up by drunk man (not bad looking but very drunk and couldn't dance...). The pity of it was that I could see he was very drunk and also I wasn't up for flirting.

then in another bar - a woman approached me and my friends - turned out she was a lesbian and chatting up women in a straight bar... she was vair vair drunk (drugs too my friend thought?!) and she was apparently trying to intertwine her legs with my friend's legs when sat on bar stools. She thought I was flirting with her, had shown my neck to her to smell my perfume (no way!) and then told us about a date she had next day. She also stated loudly that she liked women.... I got away from her walked back to the bar turned round and she was there and said something like 'I'm back, you can't escape me!' I was actually a bit worried when I went to the toilets in case she followed me.... Shock

I have nothing against lesbians by the way! Smile

dontcallmehon22 · 09/03/2014 15:00

Hi guys, I'm geeky-free and back! Surprise surprise, he loves me but it won't work and he doesn't want to meet me on March 14th. So I am going to take it very slowly, but I'm getting back online. I'm probably not ready, but it's the best way to get over him. You were all right about him, so sorry I wasn't ready to listen.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 09/03/2014 15:38

Dont! It's lovely to have you back! It's hard when people tell you things, especially things you don't want to hear. It's good that you're getting back online. We all deserve someone who deserves us back. x

girliefriend · 09/03/2014 17:58

Hi dont good to see you back here Smile am glad Geeky has gone, you can do a lot better than that one!!

It appears another wend is nearly over and I haven't seen Smallfeet, not sure if I should be worried or not, tbf I was away fri/sat (relatives funeral miles away) but thought I might see him today. He has text today but no mention of him coming over....

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 18:01

Hello sounds like an eventful night. Funny seems to be quite a few lesbians atm on POF, it doesn't bother me but would have thought there were dedicated sites for gay people, oh well each to their own
dont I don't really know your story but sorry you feel sad. Get back on there girl, I sure all men cannot be dickheads.
I had a few texts from MrSA, just chit chat no mention of meeting me again, think he is just changed his mind about seeing, or maybe he is still married or met someone else, guess I will never know oh well. Had a fab day on my own spent sorting the garden out such a lovely day

dontcallmehon22 · 09/03/2014 18:10

Well, it ended when he agreed to a fuck buddy thing, but said we'd have to go to hotels as he wasn't comfortable in my house. I told him I wasn't that fussed, I'm not a prostitute and he wasn't that good anyway. I'm now blocked on all social networking sites and the phone. I hurt him and it felt good.

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 18:13

*don't he sounds like a bloody freak, you are well shot of him. The right person is out there for you, just keep looking. How long has yo been seeing him?

dontcallmehon22 · 09/03/2014 18:16

Four months. Even to the end he still said he loved me. I believe, in his own very twisted way, he does. But that's not enough and I'm not going to lay down and let a man walk all over me. It was very very intense while it lasted and I did love him. But he's cruel, whether intentionally or not.

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 18:48

Better to find out now.You can't change people and no point in trying, trust me I am talking from experience. xx

dontcallmehon22 · 09/03/2014 18:49

Go me! Talking to eco-warrior on POF. He first messaged me ages ago. Then he was seeing someone, then it ended and he messaged me, but I'd just met geeky. He just said 'our timing has been a little off, eh. But it's great to see you back.'

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 09/03/2014 18:50

dont great to have you back - sounds like you're feeling strong

Blossomflowers · 09/03/2014 18:52

Blimey don't go you.

dontcallmehon22 · 09/03/2014 18:55

I may have a date with eco warrior. I feel very strong. I got the power back in the end. I still love that man to pieces, but I will never let him destroy me.

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