The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

lizzie I wouldn't go on the keener as if you want to attract him (he sounds a wrong un sorry!) but I'd do the distant thing definitely. At least then you keep your dignity and he doesn't get the satisfaction of you losing it!

Or (see above) as Kent Lad charmingly called it me going Crazy Cakes when he admitted he was in the wrong etc...

Saturn is he separated and just not divorced yet or still with his wife?

Mr PoF cancelled on me on Monday pretty last minute. Giving him one more chance, was a pretty rubbish excuse too.

Was heading to a big town yesterday to go shopping, Mr Bookie mentioned possibly meeting me but then also cancelled saying he had a hangover. Tried to convince him but then thought he would make an effort if he really wanted to see me. Still texting both pf them though but not expecting much.

Going to make a new profile on PoF tonight and if Mr Creepy Fucker says anything to me about it I'll just ignore him

Help I need some reassuring words please. I'm starting to panic now because I text Bricky about ten this morning and haven't heard a thing back. I know he's at work but it's unheard of for him not to reply. We don't text loads but he never lets my texts go un answered.

Saw him last night and all seemed fine, still going on holiday ect now I'm worrying he's gone weird on me like all the rest. :(
I hate feeling like this

Santa Don't panic could be a completely reasonable explanation. I sometimes think I have text someone a realise hours later is failed to send duh. Bricky sound ok, not like the dickheads I have been mixing with, please reassure me that someone normal is out there.

crow I am thinking of changing my profile tonight to please if you are complete wanker just don't bother contacting me

Hey is anyone else not being able to log on to POF today?

blossom I'm praying you are right as I really felt he was normal too. Until now I have not doubted him or if I did at the very start it didn't last long, he's never given me reason. But I know by reading the relationships board that doesn't always mean anything :(

I do know I care now as I wasn't 100% sure of my feelings for him before. I really want him to be who I have thought he is and I don't want to lose him

Well if you have not heard by this evening give him a bell. Sure it is fine, it alright think all the weirdos are talking to me lol

Blossom PoF has been down today, just when I wanted to make a profile! Typical.

Mr Bookie has been a bit off with me today, asked if he was ok and he said work was stressful but then he was still weird. Then I accidentally called him from my pocket when I was dropping DD off with her dad. Texted him to apologise but not got anything back. Pretty sure I'm not going to hear from him again :/

crow it's so annoying when they suddenly turn weird isn't it. It's happened to me so many times I'm now expecting it

Bricky has just text a reply to my message that I sent at ten this morning. I feel like asking how come he's been so long replying but I won't. I hate feeling like this, if there's one thing I haven't had to do or had him do to me, it's play games. I hope all is ok

Santa I'm sure everything is ok. Don't worry!

But reread the Rules if you get a chance. When I reread them the other week loads jumped out at me, not saying it applies to you and Bricky but worth bearing in mind.

Honestly the longer I'm on this planet the less I'm able to figure out men!

hello amen to that, was telling a friend a minute ago, just don't believe a word that is said until proven to be true now. Mind you from what I have hear woman can be just a bad, just not us lot lol.
santa what did he say?

jarlin had a date last night,was rubbish. Have a dinner date tomorrow night, we have spoken on the phone and he tends to text me most days, is a successful man, looks nice but am getting to keep back judgement and have no expectations now. getting fed up with lies, hey ho ooh weekend away how exciting.

Blossom don't you know it the rules?! I think we can all get carried away (rightly or wrongly) and all reason leaves our minds, same for men too though. That's where those love rat con artists come into their own duping lonely people!

I don't think we're like that but do think you have to safeguard yourself sometimes.

I agree with you too women can be just as bad but not us!

jarlin seems like ages since we spoke here!

Glad things going well with Slowburner and your weekend away sounds great!

Sometimes I think we have to take into account some men don't text much or are slowburners like your chap. Nothing wrong in either in fact quite sensible but us women (sometimes men) can overanalyse and think a lack of texts or slow burning is a sign of disinterest when it's anything but! It's certainly something I'll bear in mind when I date again.

Blossom sorry to hear you sound a bit jaded about OLD but at least you've got a dinner date. Enjoy! But will hopefully see you here tomorrow.

When I took it easy and did lunch/coffee dates (got wired up on too Many cappuccinos one time and scared poor perfectly fine man off!) that was when I enjoyed OLD most. I also had no pressure as an hour at most.

Yes I agree with Jarlin, MrKids is a slow burner type too, we've had five dates and we haven't properly kissed yet. Soooo refreshingly different for me and I'm enjoying slowly getting to know him too.

Hope you have a great weekend Jarlin

Tomorrow he's coming to mine whoop whoop. Might get a snog on the sofa if I play my cards right

Soooo glad it's Friday. postie#2 has yet to confirm a date even after I gave him a number of options! He texts a few times a day but nothing very exciting.

postie#2 seems more mature and I'm really looking forward to seeing him tomorrow.

He seems quite tactile so a kiss may happen sooner rather than later. I was attracted to him so a kiss would be welcome.

Anyone else got a date this weekend!

jarlin that's so good read.

I also read that book and, whilst it did give me hope, I did think that it largely suggested men were incapable of being careful, or hesitant, or fearful and suggested they were all in control and know exactly what they're doing at all times.

I think it's good for guarding against actual players but it does tend to assume that all men are in control (of themselves) and that they can't be hurt or damaged. And that if they are, that is automatically bad news anyway!

I'm pleased to hear it's still going well with SlowBurner.

I'm seeing the man I'm seeing tonight. I need to talk to him I think. I typed a really long post last night but didn't click 'send'. But I'm really struggling (again) at the moment.

Exactly Folkgirl. Men are just as insecure and vulnerable at times, they just portray it in a different way perhaps.

Hope u ok though

No date this weekend he at football , I'd like to have seen him but not to be , hoping to see him next week.
Have fun whatever your up to !