The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

hi ladies
Been rushed off my feet for last couple of weeks but am lurking & keeping up!

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Blossomflowers I might be hard to read though, I am a freedom freak and if I settle with anyone it will be with someone like me, he is like me. But I still require honesty. He asks "do you think we will fall in love" and very nearly said he loved me but stopped himself and said ...being with you. Distance and busy lives is a huge factor too. Plus I think we are so similar it may never work. Head says one thing...

Lizzie I know you say you don't like confrontation but it might be the only way forward. If you leave him and it could have been resolved it will be a shame, if you don't ask and carry on it will bite you on the bum later.

Santaclaws Bricky sounds like a keeper.

Hormonalhell must look for this book, is it online for download? Actually must go back and follow link and watch vids.

Yes I do too. Mind you, going on his latest form, he's probably shagging his way round various parts of scotland

He said he is falling for me.

And how do you feel, oldfashioned?

Date with Mr tattoo next week. Mr local still my favourite. Chatting, but no date yet. Clockwork orange on tinder gives the best compliments. He's a player, but I'm ready to play.

I told MrKids tonight that I was in fact 42 not 38 as says on my profile. He wasn't very happy to start with as he told his friends/family I'm 38 but he got over it and we planning our first weekend together...so giddy

Have suggested date with postie#2 and he is getting back to me. He has 3 kids that he sees quite a bit so I know how tricky it can be to arrange times. I've suggested Friday otherwise it will have to be next week.

postie#1 continues to be very attentive, sent me a photo of himself with his postie shorts on (very nice) standing next to his van! He texts throughout the day, he seems very keen. I like the texting thing, it's like having a chit chat as the day goes by.

He rang earlier but my friend was round for a natter so I had to fob him off a bit. At least he knows I have a life lol...no bad thing!

Well back from first date of the week, we had a lovely meal and he was a proper gentleman, not sure if spark but maybe see him again and see what happens, hard to think what he thinks about me, think he might be shy. But it was nice. Whilst out date for Thurs wants to bring meeting me till tomorrow, actually works better for me. Not sure this one is so sensible ha ha

Hello, do you mind if I join. I'll do my best to keep up with you all

Dh and I split last summer after he announced he was gay. This was after our 19 yr relationship. I'm 37. Anyhow all that's been dealt with now and I've been on my own a few months now.
I can't quite decide if I'm ready to start dating, so with a push from a friend put myself on tinder. Now I am really fussy and as such have managed to only like about 8 men on there.
But 4 of them have liked me back. One of them just said hi Sunday morning and then I updated my info to say I had kids and haven't heard from him again but another spent Sunday and yesterday messaging me.

The problem is I'm a crap flirt, I don't know what to say to them. Plus I worry incase their shagging around. For example I asked man 2 why had he split from his wife and he replied she was a nag, in my head now I'm thinking well there must be something wrong with him then. Then I asked him if he had had much luck on tinder. His reply was yes I've met loads of girls!! Now he's my age and also has two kids so I don't know if he's trying to big himself up or not.

We then carry on chatting and he asks me how long have I been single etc. and says I'm a sexy young woman who prob has men fighting over me(far from it) and then when we chat about hobbies/likes he says maybe we could spend time together doing them! Now I'm afraid to flirt back incase I lead him on, for example 'oh yes that sounds lovely' 'your not so bad yourself'etc but then I don't know if I kept my response so neutral that I've now pushed him away. He hasn't messaged me tonight.

So whats the protocol? Do I flirt and compliment them too or should I take time getting to know them first. I worry that if I flirt too much it then seems I'm just up for a good time iykwim.

Oh god this is all so complicated!

Oh you're busy, blossom. It's the best way, then you can compare. Clockworkorange is being v flirty and asked me on a date. I told him I'm busy for two weeks but after that!

Still, I don't like the sound of him at all.

Just back from first date with'Cosmopolitan'. Tume and wine flew by and we kissed (!). He didn't ask at all about DS though; clearly mentioned on my profile, which was a bit of a surprise. Think maybe he is not that interested?

Sola I think it's up to you to first mention your DS first. To be honest, if it's a first date, I wouldn't mention my children at all. If they know I've got children, that's my job done, but talking about children isn't very romantic and can be quite boring when you don't even know how you feel about the person in front of you.

At the moment he's got to decide if he likes you not work out if he likes your child/find out what sort of mother you are. I wouldn't want a man to talk about his child on a first date, and I wouldn't ask either. So I wouldn't see that as a bad sign.

Was there any talk of a second date?

still I wouldn't even communicate with that man again. His wife was a nag? He's met 'loads of girls' on there? He's suggesting you do your hobbies and stuff together. Even just reading your post I can imagine what sort of man he is, and it's such an unpleasant image. He sounds like a lazy, inconsiderate, arrogant, tosser who thinks you can be won over with a bit of insincere flattery of the sort he chucks out to everyone. And I'm not sure I'd bother to find out if I was right or not.

still I changed a lot in my months of OD. I think I was a bit naive to begin with. As time went on I found I identified absolute arses more easily and quickly and was more confident about rejecting them.

Based on what you have said, I would have rejected this man.

dont I really like him but just for some reason find it hard to believe he is actually interested in me. He is so sweet and considerate and I look forward to seeing him with butterflies but get scared that it will all go wrong.

Still I refer you to the thread rules. Meet soon, that way you don't waste time flirty online with a dud and have the awkwardness of realising how little you fancy them, and accept that disappearing will just happen and you'll probably do it yourself before long.

I'd message him Scarey,he said he'd lend you it so brilliant excuse to make contact in my book

still sorry but he seems a bit of an arse. You'll get used to the etiquette of OD eventually.

Good luck nd keep us posted

scarey blooming ring him! Hes probably waiting and wanting you to. He isn't offering because you kept saying no!! Ring him

Why has Mr local still not asked me out??

I'd ask him, but I did that with hewhomustnotbenamed and don't want to jinx things again!

Oh and clockworkOrange asked if I had a nice bum. He's after a shag, isn't he...