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TheCrow · 07/03/2014 21:54

Welcome to all daters :)

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Scarey123 · 26/03/2014 09:09

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LizzieBelle · 26/03/2014 09:32

scary, why don't you text and ask if its OK to ring him? you've done both then. Then you can say 'I know you are busy, but is it still OK to borrow xyz.

Solasum · 26/03/2014 09:51

Cosmopolitan messaged last night and asked for a second date. Eep!

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LizzieBelle · 26/03/2014 11:52

Mr cute is texting me more than usual. mmm must be the guilt Lol!

Aknowinggrin · 26/03/2014 12:30

Hello all,

Quick question to the thread ... I'm on POF but the quality of my matches is abysmal, very few men I would actually bother to talk to. Is Match any better or are they more or less the same guys in both sites?

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Blossomflowers · 26/03/2014 13:04

AknowI have not tried Match but find POF quite good, perhaps modify your search criteria.
Am a bit nervous about tonight's date but seems he is also, sent me text saying he was looking forward to meeting and we could have a nice time even if I did not fancy him. He is a bit irratic, hmm reserving judgment

Aknowinggrin · 26/03/2014 13:18

Thanks both. I've found some really lovely guys (including my last bf) in OKC but it seems really slow of lately... hardly any visitors whereas a few months back there would be a lot there.

I'll stick with POF then. Thank you!

Blossomflowers · 26/03/2014 13:30

I find OKCupid painfully quiet and some right weirdo/perverts, has comedy value at least

HelloBoys · 26/03/2014 13:37

Lizzie - I'm sort of Confused re your other stuff but yes, in your case I wouldn't fight. I sometimes do and sometimes don't. Maybe I don't like being walked over or not having a voice. Not saying the latter applies to you at all, it's me! Smile

If you feel drained, emotionless and duped too then that's no way to live a romantic life. He's keeping you on the go and advertising as he likes keeping his options option and in case you dump him or whatever happens. That's why OLD is a nightmare in that case because the men know there are generally more women out there looking for love, less eligible men of a certain age and so I think many men think they're like a kid in a candy store, so much choice.

HelloBoys · 26/03/2014 13:39

Lizzie I see Mr Cute is texting you more than usual and you think guilt, please don't get yourself being drawn into game playing with this idiot. Seems like a big old game of snakes and ladders from where I'm sitting! PS guess who's the snake?! - oh no that's unkind to snakes! Grin

Hormonalhell · 26/03/2014 14:44

I found my guy on POF and he's a lovely guy....but there are plenty of sharks on there and lots of trout Grin

I found a nice bit of salmon Wink

Aknowinggrin · 26/03/2014 18:07

I wouldn't mind a piece of monkfish myself Wink

Thanks all. I've found some really lovely guys (including my last bf) in OKC but it seems really slow of lately... hardly any visitors whereas a few months back there would be a lot there.

I'll stick with POF then. Thank you!

jesy · 26/03/2014 18:59

Date went well ,
He offered to make me tea but wasn't hungry we just spent night kissing n cuddling.
Trying hard not to like hi. To much and play it cool but after being treated like someone s sister and like a bit of meat it's hard not too.
He even offered to make me a butty for work today.

jesy · 26/03/2014 19:39

Yes I probably setting myself up for a fall but sod it , for years I've been treated like crap buy Friends and dates but he nice and fun to be with.
I know on another t bread ppl think it's a fwb but I don't think it is my gut feeling is he likes me .

girliefriend · 26/03/2014 19:43

Hi all, sounds like most of us are doing alright at the moment Grin

I woke up with a cold, am already in my pjs! Told smallfeet I was ill but he insisted on coming round 'to cheer me up' Hmm

Not sure about that really, I know he means well but....

Stillcomingtoterms · 26/03/2014 20:45

Thanks all, I thought as much myself but it's hard in short messages to gauge much about them or the sentiment behind the comments.
He hasn't messaged me since anyway. I just thought someone who moans about his ex wife to a prospective new date us probably not that nice.

However Sunday morning bloke has messaged me tonight, so I've replied. Wonder if I'll get one back.

louby44 · 26/03/2014 21:50

Evening everyone!

still I agree with others, sounds a bit dodgy to me

gf bless him, smallfeet does sound very nice (how small are his feet?)

jesy ooo kissing n cuddling, be nice to do that again!

I've just spent 25 mins talking to postie#1 he is very nice, slight Welsh lilt to his voice, he asked me how I thought out coffee date went on Sunday!!! Wow, how mature is that! I'm impressed! I am picking him up on Sat and we are going for lunch. I'm meeting friends later at 7pm so won#t be tempted to overstay my welcome.

postie#2 is still texting but not much substance to the texts "how's your day/evening etc going" all a bit vague and fluffly. No mention of if he can make our suggested date on Friday. Not feeling it from him at all.

postie#1 definitely has my vote so far!

dontcallmehon22 · 26/03/2014 22:04

Oh I messaged Mr local and I was saying I'd love to visit Barcelona one day. He said 'I'd love to take you, but it might be overkill for a first date.' Is he angling for a date? If so, I want one - quite like Mr local so far. How should I reply!

girliefriend · 26/03/2014 22:05

Hi Louby his feet are so small, size 6 - smaller than mine Shock

However the rest of him is perfectly proportioned Wink he has just left, had a nice evening he did actually cheer me up a little bit. Had a conversation about cheating and lying (his ex wife cheated on him) and it felt like we were both very much on the same page in terms of thinking it is completely wrong etc.

I mentioned to him last week that I am going to book the last two weeks in August off and might get a late deal on a holiday somewhere cheap and cheerful. He has sort of assumed that includes him.... have never gone on a holiday with a bloke before hmm. I don't know why things like this scare me Confused

dontcallmehon22 · 26/03/2014 22:13

Postie 1 it is then, louby!

Girlie, it's good that he's thinking of you together in future though. Holidaying together sounds good!

Hmm, really want to meet Mr local. Please please please the gods of dating, don't let me meet another Geeky...

LizzieBelle · 26/03/2014 22:38

helloboys friends think I should confront him, but no, Im going to let it drift on and on with me being ever so distant. Probably make him keener!!!! Ha!

Blossomflowers · 27/03/2014 09:31

Date last night was interesting, lovely eyes and really made laugh. Know he fancies me, almost too much maybe, thinks I am too good for him what ever that is supposed to mean. 2nd person to say that recently.

saturn · 27/03/2014 12:36

Hi, haven't been on here since I found out the guy I'd been dating before Christmas was married :-( however a guy gave me his mobile number on Tuesday night after we'd been speaking a bit and asked me to text him. He seems nice enough, but think memories of married guy still haunting me. Should I text him? And if so what should I say? Rubbish at this :$