The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

HelloBoys I don't like fighting. What would it solve? It would upset me more than anything else. I just feel so drained and just emotionless. I feel duped too...why keep me on the go, when he is advertising for a woman to start a relationship with?? Why is one never enough? One consolation is, that he looks like a real nob in his photo - a real saddo.

Geeky changed his profile which makes me think he's reading this! What a prize idiot. I blocked him.

Geeky, you're an arsehole and I pity the poor woman who gets stuck with you.

I'm worried that cute is reading this....

Did you tell him about the thread, lizzie? I told geeky. Turns out he didn't like the fact that Mumsnet spotted his emotional abuser tendencies. Give it two weeks, he'll be lovingly staring into some poor girl's eyes, telling her he's never felt like this before...

I, on the other hand, have just been referred to as a delicate, gorgeous creature by some attractive man on tinder...

I have just spoken to him, he is in Scotland at the moment as he has a family funeral. Even his accent makes me melt...I am going to find this difficult girls.

Maybe no contact is the way forward then?

I have texted him and arranged a night out with Cute on Saturday. We shall talk of the future!

Well good luck, hope you get somewhere with it :)

I feel much better without geeky, but it's strange that he matched me. Odd, egotistical man.

I don't think it's odd, Don't. You did the same, because if you don't swipe right then you don't know what the other person did. I've ticked yes to someone I had a very bad experience with - just to see what he did, because otherwise I'd never know (turns out he didn't swipe right for me! Probably for the best) it's easy to read a lot into little things with online dating I find.

But he cared enough to check.Even after blocking me on fb etc. I did the same as there were still some feelings there for me. Not anymore. And I do think it's odd that straight after declaring love for me, he's looking for 'the one' immediately!

I'm chatting to Mr local and he seems nice.

Weirder and weirder. His profile has disappeared from Match...what the hell is going on??

Do you think he has had second thoughts?? Am I grabbing at straws?

Does he know you've found him on there Lizzie?

Could it be that he temporarily re-activated an old account for some reason?

I re-activated my Match account a couple of weeks ago. I wanted to check when I'd started talking to the man I'm seeing, but because he's deleted/deactivated his account, then his emails have gone too.

You can't then deactivate for another 48 hours.

However, if he thinks you've found him, it might be for that reason.

You could see it as he cared enough to check what you would do, to see if he still had that power over you. It's a weird one when you see people you know on tinder. Once I saw z list celebrity Paul Danan on it, which made me laugh.

Hi folk - no I dont think he knows. He is fairly busy in Scotland with this funeral at the moment. Perhaps he has had no luck online and just closed it, perhaps he has had loads of luck and got too many to answer at the moment.

It's not nice that he wants that power though. Why didn't he block me after? He was waiting to see if I'd message, so he could reject me again. I'm convinced of it! How did I misjudge him so badly?

I'm now very suspicious of men who say they're looking for the 'one'. It makes me think they're in love with the idea of love. I used to joke with geeky that he was a serial monogamist, as he had so many ex girlfriends. It's not funny anymore. It should have been a red flag.

Bullet dodged Don't, you did see it. Don't doubt yourself you did well.

I'd forget him Don't, he not worth thinking about. He's just playing with you and your feelings. You can get so much better hun

Perhaps he has had no luck online and just closed it, perhaps he has had loads of luck and got too many to answer at the moment.

The former is unlikely, because there's always hope... and the latter... Really? "Ooh, I must close my OD account, because I'm just so popular on there I can't cope!" I can't see that happening!

So...

How detailed was his profile? Did he look like he was actively looking or like he was just curious as to what it was all about?

Dont yes, I agree with the others. He was just pulling your string to see what would happened. Block him, forget, and stop thinking about him. He is an unpleasant man who doesn't deserve your headspace!

dont I don't think it matters 2 hoots what people put on their profile, think they are just trying to be appealing to all. Will just have to be guarded and see how things work out, there have to be some decent men out there. I am meeting someone for dinner date tonight, he seems so gentlemenly, considerate, saying all the right things, texting me loads saying how keen he is to meet me, ha, well lets just see, will update later

He will not be mentioned again. Ever.

Come on Mr local - ask me out!

I was supposed to have a second date tonight but he's cancelled due to 'gastroenteritis' and now I just keep associating him with poo!

Well, I'm leaving the office in half an hour. I'm going to swing round all the sites to see if I can find him elsewhere. And no, I don't believe he has closed it for good... I can't even fathom why he bothers with OLD. He has no shortage of admirers anyway IRL, he is always fending them off so he tells me...

Im torturing myself aren't I. Kick me please!

lizzie consider yourself kicked lol.
dont Just keep repeating that to yourself
ursula yuk,

I know - there's such a thing as too honest haha